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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 4:04:34 GMT
so I had an odd experience today.
I booked a massage therapist to come to my house to give me a massage. Regular one. Swedish they call it.
The guy came and gave me a very nice massage I cannot complain about his technique or anything like that, BUT he was massaging me places where other therapists that I tried before have not massaged me. It got to the point of him massaging me so up high on my inner thigh that he got into the area where I shave so you can imagine it was not really an inner thigh anymore. I stopped him and said that was too intimate. He moved his hands somewhere else and we continued.
At one point I had my legs up and behind his ears so to speak, I mean my ankles were up in the air and he kept massaging my inner thigh. He was otherwise professional acting and had all his equipment in order and was very nice, but the way he massaged my butt and my inner thighs was different than anytime before that I have gotten a massage.
I am to review him now and I am wondering how to put it and where is the line of what is "normal" during a massage and what is a "different kind of massage".
Where would you draw a line, where do you think an erotic massage begins?
It was a full body massage that I ordered so the fact he was touching my butt and inner thigh is not odd, that was to be expected. But the proximity of his fingers to my private parts seemed MUCH smaller than it should have been.
Thoughts?
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Post by Aj_June on Jun 18, 2018 4:50:25 GMT
I am sorry to be a bit off-topic but what course do I need to take to become a massage therapist?
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Post by redhorizon on Jun 18, 2018 4:58:38 GMT
You have had massages before, so you know how it normally goes. It was this particular massage that made you uncomfortable. It looks like he crossed the line. You did stop him when it got intimate and he backed off. I don't know if it went fine after that till the end of the massage. Doesn't matter if he acted professionally or he did a good job on the whole. If it made you uncomfortable and you wouldn't like a repeat experience in the future, definitely go ahead and give him a poor review.
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Post by moviebuffbrad on Jun 18, 2018 5:36:03 GMT
I'd say when there's actual genital contact, though it sounds like he was itching for it.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 15:59:45 GMT
I am sorry to be a bit off-topic but what course do I need to take to become a massage therapist? hehehe thats what i was thinking. the guy leaves my place with a 100 and spent 90 minutes massaging my private parts. now i dont think i am the best looking woman out there, but i am sure many guys would find that highly enjoyable. from what i know its not even that hard to become a license massage therapist. in some countries all you need is about 100 hours practice and 100 hours theory.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 16:03:14 GMT
I'd say when there's actual genital contact, though it sounds like he was itching for it. well thats kind of hard to judge where the genital contact begins though. I mean some muscles do go all the way up to your crotch so its not completely baseless to be massaging around there. I think its a really gray area to go by body parts (where does your butt begin and end for example?) I think going by "this makes me uncomfortable" is a better approach but then again that can really vary person by person.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 16:12:33 GMT
You have had massages before, so you know how it normally goes. It was this particular massage that made you uncomfortable. It looks like he crossed the line. You did stop him when it got intimate and he backed off. I don't know if it went fine after that till the end of the massage. Doesn't matter if he acted professionally or he did a good job on the whole. If it made you uncomfortable and you wouldn't like a repeat experience in the future, definitely go ahead and give him a poor review. true, BUT, there are different types of massages. like thai massage will typically go much deeper and will cover much more intimate areas than a regular massage and its cool. he did a lot of stuff I know from getting thai massages so I wasnt worried. it was just some of the positions were… rather unusual i would say. but Maybe those positions were normal it just so happened i have not encountered it before? and why ruin or otherwise negatively affect the guys career right? here i made a sketch of the 3 oddest positions i found myself in imgur.com/a/GRIMikr
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Post by someguy on Jun 18, 2018 16:27:54 GMT
If one is getting a massage on the BUTT, then I think the eroticism is pretty blatant.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 16:33:01 GMT
If one is getting a massage on the BUTT, then I think the eroticism is pretty blatant. not really, or not necessarily. there are the gluteus maximus muscle and especially the piriformis muscle that is connected to the sciatic nerve and that area can get pretty :knotted up/tense: and especially if you have a desk job - like i do - it can create some problems. and he did ask me if i had a desk job and i said yes so the fact he was massaging my butt was not on its own causing any alarm in my head. i think it was mostly the positions he had me in… as you can see on the sketch, the positions themselves reminded me more of sex than of a massage… PS - yes I was thinking about that episode of IT Crowd when Roy gets kissed on his butt during a massage…. and I KNEW that would be crossing the line
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Post by uncreative on Jun 18, 2018 17:08:51 GMT
After 9 PM
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Post by redhorizon on Jun 18, 2018 20:22:47 GMT
true, BUT, there are different types of massages. like thai massage will typically go much deeper and will cover much more intimate areas than a regular massage and its cool. he did a lot of stuff I know from getting thai massages so I wasnt worried. it was just some of the positions were… rather unusual i would say. but Maybe those positions were normal it just so happened i have not encountered it before? and why ruin or otherwise negatively affect the guys career right? here i made a sketch of the 3 oddest positions i found myself in imgur.com/a/GRIMikrYour sketches make it pretty clear. All 3 look like sex positions. Looks like he is on the table and he has a pretty good view of you and what he is doing. If you're still in doubt it's because his intentions are unclear. If you were wearing something and his hands, I mean his fingers brushed under your clothing, then he is being bold and going a bit far. Since you have no intention to put him in trouble, I suggest you forget the episode and wait till the next time to see if he goes further.
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Post by deembastille on Jun 18, 2018 20:41:03 GMT
just asking: have you ever had a massage from someone else where he was crouched on the table above you like that? the only massages I have had have been the chair ones. my body is usually in agony during the massages so I tend to steer clear.
erotic massage usually ensues touching the actual genitals in order to achieve orgasm [or close to it]. with the gluteus Maximus the muscles should be the BOOTY and not where your skin curves into the anus.
were you okay with being in the positions you drew for us?
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Post by permutojoe on Jun 18, 2018 20:51:43 GMT
Doesn't sound like you're particularly outraged so I would just set up another appt and this time smile a little when he starts being forward.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2018 22:00:02 GMT
So you saw his equipment, too?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2018 22:01:17 GMT
Also, having an opposite sex masseur come to your house seems a bit sketchy. Why not go to a spa?
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Post by Terrapin Station on Jun 18, 2018 22:04:23 GMT
"When does a regular massage become an erotic massage?"
When I give it.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 22:36:35 GMT
true, BUT, there are different types of massages. like thai massage will typically go much deeper and will cover much more intimate areas than a regular massage and its cool. he did a lot of stuff I know from getting thai massages so I wasnt worried. it was just some of the positions were… rather unusual i would say. but Maybe those positions were normal it just so happened i have not encountered it before? and why ruin or otherwise negatively affect the guys career right? here i made a sketch of the 3 oddest positions i found myself in imgur.com/a/GRIMikrYour sketches make it pretty clear. All 3 look like sex positions. Looks like he is on the table and he has a pretty good view of you and what he is doing. If you're still in doubt it's because his intentions are unclear. If you were wearing something and his hands, I mean his fingers brushed under your clothing, then he is being bold and going a bit far. Since you have no intention to put him in trouble, I suggest you forget the episode and wait till the next time to see if he goes further. his fingers did not brush under my clothing, he removed my underwear when massaging my butt and i was not wearing a bra to begin with. but this is not completely uncommon.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 22:38:22 GMT
Also, having an opposite sex masseur come to your house seems a bit sketchy. Why not go to a spa? because the spa is not in your house and you dont have all the comfort that comes with not having to leave your house to get a certain service? I love getting massages at home. you can listen to whatever, put the AC on whatever, dont need to really get dressed or go anywhere. its wonderful. i did it many times before. this is the first time i have somewhat odd experience.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 22:39:03 GMT
Doesn't sound like you're particularly outraged so I would just set up another appt and this time smile a little when he starts being forward. hehe, no thank you. having sex with a complete stranger is not one of my fantasies to fulfill.
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Post by Nora on Jun 18, 2018 22:42:16 GMT
just asking: have you ever had a massage from someone else where he was crouched on the table above you like that? the only massages I have had have been the chair ones. my body is usually in agony during the massages so I tend to steer clear. erotic massage usually ensues touching the actual genitals in order to achieve orgasm [or close to it]. with the gluteus Maximus the muscles should be the BOOTY and not where your skink curves into the anus. were you okay with being in the positions you drew for us? ok so if you feel like the line is crossed when genitals are touched and the person is close to achieve orgasm than this was a normal massage. I am unclear on what you mean by skin curving into the anus though. which part is that? yes i have had many massages where someone was crouched over me or sitting or laying on top of me, but they were usually thai women. didnt have an issue with that. this guy asked me at the beginning if I was shy with my body. I said no not really {why should i be around a massage therapist} and maybe that has set the tone and he might not have meant to make me think he was also ok to provide a happy ending service just thought i was comfortable with whatever….
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