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Post by Nora on Oct 16, 2018 22:51:45 GMT
If you allow some life experience episodes, I had one of those no more than 2 weeks ago with a co-worker, at work. And I would say, the reason I didn't ran after her is because I was met with barrage of "I'm sorry", at times as I was mid sentence and despite being told to lay it on her, she just kept cutting me with those "I'm sorry". I may be wrong but if someone tells you to lay it on him/her yet cuts you with a barrage of words, it seems that person doesn't really want to hear it or face it. And if that person doesn't want to hear it or face it, we can't find a solution or a middle ground, so there is no point in trying to chase that person to talk some more. Since then, I keep my interactions with her at the functional level and nothing more. I'm not gonna include the others (coworkers) in that or even mess up the whole atmosphere. I do things in a way that things keep going smoothly on a global level but that's it.
Maybe it's poorly shown on written in some movies but maybe that what some try to portray.
yeah I totally get that such situations exist, where you know they truly don't want to hear more or you feel like chasing after them or even calling their name a few more times would be counterproductive. But in the movies the scenes that bug me are those where the character that DIDNT walk away looks totally desperate to do something but doesnt. And the other one just keeps walking away, and not a single further attempt to stop them or even get their attention again is made. But it seems I am perhaps the only one who is bugged by this, so all is good btw kudos for not making the situation worse/more unpleasant for everybody at work.
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 17, 2018 0:46:49 GMT
If you allow some life experience episodes, I had one of those no more than 2 weeks ago with a co-worker, at work. And I would say, the reason I didn't ran after her is because I was met with barrage of "I'm sorry", at times as I was mid sentence and despite being told to lay it on her, she just kept cutting me with those "I'm sorry". I may be wrong but if someone tells you to lay it on him/her yet cuts you with a barrage of words, it seems that person doesn't really want to hear it or face it. And if that person doesn't want to hear it or face it, we can't find a solution or a middle ground, so there is no point in trying to chase that person to talk some more. Since then, I keep my interactions with her at the functional level and nothing more. I'm not gonna include the others (coworkers) in that or even mess up the whole atmosphere. I do things in a way that things keep going smoothly on a global level but that's it.
Maybe it's poorly shown on written in some movies but maybe that what some try to portray.
yeah I totally get that such situations exist, where you know they truly don't want to hear more or you feel like chasing after them or even calling their name a few more times would be counterproductive. But in the movies the scenes that bug me are those where the character that DIDNT walk away looks totally desperate to do something but doesnt. And the other one just keeps walking away, and not a single further attempt to stop them or even get their attention again is made. But it seems I am perhaps the only one who is bugged by this, so all is good btw kudos for not making the situation worse/more unpleasant for everybody at work. As you pointed out, it's probably to make the happy ending feel even better.
Since you also pointed out how I handled it, I got to be 100% honest. She also handles it that way, I mean except for her reaction to our discussion.
She's came to me first, to talk about it and now it's gonna sound like the introduction to a hot scene in a movie but she actually came to find me in the copy room. She closed the door behind her (there is a glass in the door and large glass panels on each side) and she pressed the side of her arm against it, so her weight would be against the door (it opens towards the inside). That way, people passing outside the room wouldn't (clearly) hear us and nobody would just barge in and catch us explaining ourselves. And she did it all after saying my name so I would turn around and then just keeping eye contact as if this was just nothing. That "detail" somehow came to her naturally" and I got to say it was classy of her. I know some others who would just leave the door open, stand about 2 feet away from me and talk really loud.
Afterwards, she didn't bring it up and nobody came up, telling me they noticed anything different in the atmosphere or the dynamic between each other or the group. So my guess is as much as I keep this between her and me only, she does the same on her side. Of course, now there is simply no moment were sitting next to each other in a meeting or at the cafeteria tables but otherwise it seems it has gone relatively unnoticed. And that's the way it should be.
In six months from now, another coworker, who is now on leave because of a needed surgery, will come back and that person will surely notice. That person is like your auntie that always ask you about your love life and if you're getting married soon. She is single, in her late 50's and she tries to match people. She went apeshit when she learned our zodiac signs and realized we were highly compatible (I don't believe in that signs compatibility stuff). Since then she tried to sell me (I don't know about the other coworker talked about above) the idea that we (the other female coworker & I) should be a couple. Anyway, since she spends some of her time with both of us she will notice any difference but that's a bridge we'll cross in due time.
Anyway, sorry for the long and somewhat unnecessary post but I felt like "setting the record straight".
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Post by Nora on Oct 17, 2018 0:49:58 GMT
btw kudos for not making the situation worse/more unpleasant for everybody at work. As you pointed out, it's probably to make the happy ending feel even better.
Since you also pointed out how I handled it, I got to be 100% honest. She also handles it that way, I mean except for her reaction to our discussion.
She's came to me first, to talk about it and now it's gonna sound like the introduction to a hot scene in a movie but she actually came to find me in the copy room. She closed the door behind her (there is a glass in the door and large glass panels on each side) and she pressed the side of her arm against it, so her weight would be against the door (it opens towards the inside). That way, people passing outside the room wouldn't (clearly) hear us and nobody would just barge in and catch us explaining ourselves. And she did it all after saying my name so I would turn around and then just keeping eye contact as if this was just nothing. That "detail" somehow came to her naturally" and I got to say it was classy of her. I know some others who would just leave the door open, stand about 2 feet away from me and talk really loud.
Afterwards, she didn't bring it up and nobody came up, telling me they noticed anything different in the atmosphere or the dynamic between each other or the group. So my guess is as much as I keep this between her and me only, she does the same on her side. Of course, now there is simply no moment were sitting next to each other in a meeting or at the cafeteria tables but otherwise it seems it has gone relatively unnoticed. And that's the way it should be.
In six months from now, another coworker, who is now on leave because of a needed surgery, will come back and that person will surely notice. That person is like your auntie that always ask you about your love life and if you're getting married soon. She is single, in her late 50's and she tries to match people. She went apeshit when she learned our zodiac signs and realized we were highly compatible (I don't believe in that signs compatibility stuff). Since then she tried to sell me (I don't know about the other coworker talked about above) the idea that we (the other female coworker & I) should be a couple. Anyway, since she spends some of her time with both of us she will notice any difference but that's a bridge we'll cross in due time.
Anyway, sorry for the long and somewhat unnecessary post but I felt like "setting the record straight".
you tell the story well. now i am totally hooked on it, would binge the hell out of it it was a show. i am imagining she is played by a 2000 sandra bullock and you are a 2018 Jonah Hill. Sounds good?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 1:00:04 GMT
so two characters get into some kind of conflict and one storms off/starts walking away. the other character calls their name, obviously desperate to fix it and says “wait” or “no, please dont go” “let me explain” etc BUT THEN THEY DO NOTHING ELSE! they dont walk up to them, they dont try and catch up with them, they dont run after them, they are not calling their name over and over they just kinda give up right away. And just stand there watching the person walk away. but you as a viewer know they are really serious about wanting to change the situation and you know they COULD if they only talked to the person (which they eventually do, 60 minutes later so we get the happy end). but most of the time none of the drama would occur or unfold the way it does if they had only chased after them to begin with. it bugs me to no end. and all would be better if they only showed two more attempts to catch up/talk to the person. but no. We get the non-chase standing there like a moron scene instead. is anybody here as annoyed by these scenes in movies/shows as I am? Funny you should mention that, because nope.
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 17, 2018 1:52:43 GMT
As you pointed out, it's probably to make the happy ending feel even better.
Since you also pointed out how I handled it, I got to be 100% honest. She also handles it that way, I mean except for her reaction to our discussion.
She's came to me first, to talk about it and now it's gonna sound like the introduction to a hot scene in a movie but she actually came to find me in the copy room. She closed the door behind her (there is a glass in the door and large glass panels on each side) and she pressed the side of her arm against it, so her weight would be against the door (it opens towards the inside). That way, people passing outside the room wouldn't (clearly) hear us and nobody would just barge in and catch us explaining ourselves. And she did it all after saying my name so I would turn around and then just keeping eye contact as if this was just nothing. That "detail" somehow came to her naturally" and I got to say it was classy of her. I know some others who would just leave the door open, stand about 2 feet away from me and talk really loud.
Afterwards, she didn't bring it up and nobody came up, telling me they noticed anything different in the atmosphere or the dynamic between each other or the group. So my guess is as much as I keep this between her and me only, she does the same on her side. Of course, now there is simply no moment were sitting next to each other in a meeting or at the cafeteria tables but otherwise it seems it has gone relatively unnoticed. And that's the way it should be.
In six months from now, another coworker, who is now on leave because of a needed surgery, will come back and that person will surely notice. That person is like your auntie that always ask you about your love life and if you're getting married soon. She is single, in her late 50's and she tries to match people. She went apeshit when she learned our zodiac signs and realized we were highly compatible (I don't believe in that signs compatibility stuff). Since then she tried to sell me (I don't know about the other coworker talked about above) the idea that we (the other female coworker & I) should be a couple. Anyway, since she spends some of her time with both of us she will notice any difference but that's a bridge we'll cross in due time.
Anyway, sorry for the long and somewhat unnecessary post but I felt like "setting the record straight".
you tell the story well. now i am totally hooked on it, would binge the hell out of it it was a show. i am imagining she is played by a 2000 sandra bullock and you are a 2018 Jonah Hill. Sounds good?
Thanks.
You got her part quite well since she has that same kind of build/shape, despite being slightly shorter than Bullock. She also has that same kind of presence or aura. She has really thick but dirty/dark blonde colored hair and blue eyes, which are different than bullock's but she has a somewhat similar facial structure. From the top of my mind I can't think of an actress that fits that description more but there surely is one.
As for Jonah Hill, he might play but he is too different physically. I'm 6'3"/191cm tall and 215Lbs/97-98Kgs (not in peak shape but I got no beer belly) and in the past I've been told I looked like this guy (Jean-François Breau) a bit:
We have the same kind of facial structure but I got a cleft chin, brown eyes and brown hair (I got a receding hair line and I'm balding a bit, like the old Elon Musk pictures but I keep it shorter than he did). Also, you see less gum but similar dimples and lines when I smile.
And if you wanted to know, I'm an Aries and she is an Aquarius.
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Post by Nora on Oct 17, 2018 2:01:09 GMT
you tell the story well. now i am totally hooked on it, would binge the hell out of it it was a show. i am imagining she is played by a 2000 sandra bullock and you are a 2018 Jonah Hill. Sounds good?
Thanks.
You got her part quite well since she has that same kind of build/shape, despite being slightly shorter than Bullock. She also has that same kind of presence or aura. She has really thick but dirty/dark blonde colored hair and blue eyes, which are different than bullock's but she has a somewhat similar facial structure. From the top of my mind I can't think of an actress that fits that description more but there surely is one.
As for Jonah Hill, he might play but he is too different physically. I'm 6'3"/191cm tall and 215Lbs/97-98Kgs (not in peak shape but I got no beer belly) and in the past I've been told I looked like this guy (Jean-François Breau) a bit:
We have the same kind of facial structure but I got a cleft chin, brown eyes and brown hair (I got a receding hair line and I'm balding a bit, like the old Elon Musk pictures but I keep it shorter than he did). Also, you see less gum but similar dimples and lines when I smile.
And if you wanted to know, I'm an Aries and she is an Aquarius.
check out latest pics of Jonahk Hill he got FIT. likea really fit. anyhow from your description u sound pretty hot. wondering now why the lady wasnt into it...
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Post by mecano04 on Oct 17, 2018 4:33:44 GMT
Thanks.
You got her part quite well since she has that same kind of build/shape, despite being slightly shorter than Bullock. She also has that same kind of presence or aura. She has really thick but dirty/dark blonde colored hair and blue eyes, which are different than bullock's but she has a somewhat similar facial structure. From the top of my mind I can't think of an actress that fits that description more but there surely is one.
As for Jonah Hill, he might play but he is too different physically. I'm 6'3"/191cm tall and 215Lbs/97-98Kgs (not in peak shape but I got no beer belly) and in the past I've been told I looked like this guy (Jean-François Breau) a bit:
We have the same kind of facial structure but I got a cleft chin, brown eyes and brown hair (I got a receding hair line and I'm balding a bit, like the old Elon Musk pictures but I keep it shorter than he did). Also, you see less gum but similar dimples and lines when I smile.
And if you wanted to know, I'm an Aries and she is an Aquarius.
check out latest pics of Jonahk Hill he got FIT. likea really fit. anyhow from your description u sound pretty hot. wondering now why the lady wasn't into it... If you want to dig it up, I uploaded 1 or 2 pictures in the "Post your picture" thread on the soapbox here on IMDB2 boards but that was quite a while ago (the thread).
Still, don't forget that even if it's not with the personality that you fall in love at first, looks aren't everything.
That might have been unclear or maybe I mis-explained myself but we were never romantically involved or anything along those lines. Coworkers? Still to this day. Friends? Sure, at another time but nothing more as far as I am concerned. No bedroom involvement either, if you were curious .
The talk we had was all about work and as coworkers, at least from the points I put forward. Still, and I do remember your thread about perception and the "Truth"/reality, somehow I got the impression that her barrage of "I'm sorry" was more of an attempt to take the "blame" so the relationship could be "saved" more than really being sorry. Thing is, I wasn't hurt by her actions and words but rather disappointed (still from a coworker's ethic, attitude and reliability standpoints) and quite frankly disgusted to an extent by what I saw and heard so the sorrys didn't make sense unless she was being sorry that I felt that way. I told her I lost interest (still as a coworker), she told me "just that?", to pretty much anything I raised while failing to realize (despite being told) that it wasn't the actions or the words themselves that were problematic but what they portrayed in attitude and motivation/drive.
Despite some relatively tough things being said, no tears were shed, no trembling voices were heard and eye contact was maintained. The communication was as open and direct as you could ever want. After every point and despite making faces after hearing some, she asked if there was anything else. She really wanted to go through all of it, no matter how unpleasant it could be. Even if it didn't quite happen perfectly or really solved much, it's still quite rare (at least for me) to have the opportunity to really go through an argument with someone.
While her will to hear it all and go through it no matter what kinda "unseated" me, I told her something that somewhat unseated her too. I actually thanked her for the opportunity she, unintentionally, gave me to see part of her true colors (as a coworker). Even if I wasn't exactly delighted by what I saw, I think it's a rare thing to be able to see someone's "real" self, even partially. Don't get me wrong, it's the coworker with whom I have issues, not the daughter, friend, cousin, dog-lover or whatever else she may be to someone in this world. I sincerely have no critics or judgement on those other "roles" or parts of her life. To me the distinction is clear as day.
Yet, despite everything and while she probably would have preferred not having to go through this, she doesn't seem to have lost all faith or interest in me. Of course, the tone is colder and there is less talk but even if she tries to hide it, my words still have an impact. Last week, while talking to another coworker in the hallway and honestly not knowing she was in the room right behind him, that other person dropped a joke and she got her head out as to know if she heard correctly yet had a smile on her face. Since the other was facing me, I was actually facing her. When she saw me, her smile faded but I added something to guy's joke (really not intended to get anything from her) but while he cracked up, she tried to keep her lips over her teeth but they were still trembling. The same week, while at a meeting, another guy, with whom I was sitting at the back, told me something funny and when she heard our laughter she turned her head right away looking at both of us, really not simply at the other.
It's getting late and there isn't much left to say about this except...
do you have the script written yet for the series?
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