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Post by CynicalDreamer2 on Mar 4, 2019 0:44:13 GMT
People have their own way of making a move. It might appear a bit brazen, but I guess with guys, sexuality operates on a different dynamic as opposed to females.
The only way to know for sure, is perhaps to be bold in some cases and you can either get approval or be rejected.
It doesn't appear brazen, it is brazen. You don't touch people. Not unless they tell you to. So I’m one of those people who don’t care to be touched by strangers. That being said I’m fully aware that in the course of flirting, conversing, laughing, etc touching can happen. A touch on the arm, hand on the small of the back, shaking my hand a little too long. It happens. |
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Mar 4, 2019 4:16:40 GMT
Thankfully, no.
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Post by maxwellperfect on Mar 4, 2019 4:23:42 GMT
I tried to be cool about it, but the guy wouldn't take a hint so I just walked away. Same thing I would have done with anyone who annoyed me.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 4, 2019 4:24:10 GMT
.........how did you react ??  SAVE FERRIS Plenty always for sex, very overt about what they want as well. If initial basic and astute flirations tasteful then basically its cool. |
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Post by ant-mac on Mar 4, 2019 4:28:21 GMT
.........how did you react ?? SAVE FERRIS Yes. I thanked them for the compliment but explained I was strictly hetero. I was later asked if I was completely sure about that and I confirmed that I was.
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Post by moviebuffbrad on Mar 4, 2019 7:19:39 GMT
Like someone else, I've been to gay clubs so it's happened quite a few times. I'd say I always handled it pretty maturely, even if they didn't. One guy stuck his tongue halfway in my mouth and I pushed him off- he was drunk so I let it be. Then some guys seemed into me being straight. They'd buy me a drink even after I said I wasn't into guys, or try to logic their way into my pants. One guy said "I think everyone is at least bi", so I asked "does that mean you like girls?" and he said "good point".
I've also been straight up #metoo'd. A director pretty much invited me to go skinny dipping in an email. I just didn't respond. Then I showed up on set when shooting came and all but two of my lines were cut. F**king pr*ck. I should have exposed him during the #timesup movement but I didn't want the drama.
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Post by movieliker on Mar 4, 2019 8:01:42 GMT
.........how did you react ?? SAVE FERRIS Yes. Many times. I just said no thanks. |
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Post by movieliker on Mar 4, 2019 8:03:58 GMT
It's happened a few times as I've been to gay bars/clubs with friends. I just politely tell them I'm not interested. Gay clubs are better than hetero ones in my experience. PS Well I guess unless you’re looking for a hook up lol. They usually have better dance music, a better dance floor, and less assholes. I like to bring my (female) dates to gay clubs. Nobody bothers us. |
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 4, 2019 10:49:00 GMT
A few times when I was much younger and my reactions depended on how I felt at the time.
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Post by ant-mac on Mar 4, 2019 11:58:21 GMT
Yes. I thanked them for the compliment but explained I was strictly hetero. I was later asked if I was completely sure about that and I confirmed that I was.
I guess they didn't want to miss out on a good thing when they saw it ant, so had to make sure, you were sure.
I see no harm in making absolutely certain of something. It certainly beats not knowing for sure.
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Post by Nora on Mar 4, 2019 12:42:58 GMT
.........how did you react ?? SAVE FERRIS not to my knowledge but there is one girl where I activelly wish she would do so  Figers crossed it will happen one day. |
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Post by kuatorises on Mar 4, 2019 13:02:02 GMT
It doesn't appear brazen, it is brazen. You don't touch people. Not unless they tell you to. So I’m one of those people who don’t care to be touched by strangers. That being said I’m fully aware that in the course of flirting, conversing, laughing, etc touching can happen. A touch on the arm, hand on the small of the back, shaking my hand a little too long. It happens. Of course it "can" happen. No one is saying it can't. That has nothing to do with how appropriate it is or not.
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Post by ant-mac on Mar 4, 2019 14:03:26 GMT
I see no harm in making absolutely certain of something. It certainly beats not knowing for sure. That poor dude! He went home and  himself to  . No, he wasn't such a "poor dude". We all hung out in the same social group for a while he turned out to be quite the master manipulator. He claimed to a girl that he'd slept with her guy and vice versa. Obviously they split up and their child was born into a broken family. This "poor dude" liked fucking other people around for his own amusement. I can't say I had much time for him.
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Post by klandersen on Mar 4, 2019 14:14:32 GMT
No I have not. I am not sure how I would react. I think it would depend on the situation and partly what my state of mind was at the time. If I was concentrating on something I might be in an awful mood and snap at them. If I were just going with the flow of the scene once the shock of being hit on wore off I would have to tell them that I don't play that way.
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Post by CynicalDreamer2 on Mar 4, 2019 14:17:38 GMT
So I’m one of those people who don’t care to be touched by strangers. That being said I’m fully aware that in the course of flirting, conversing, laughing, etc touching can happen. A touch on the arm, hand on the small of the back, shaking my hand a little too long. It happens. Of course it "can" happen. No one is saying it can't. That has nothing to do with how appropriate it is or not. It’s normal behavior and you’re acting like it’s some sort of asssult. |
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Post by klandersen on Mar 4, 2019 14:20:27 GMT
Like someone else, I've been to gay clubs so it's happened quite a few times. I'd say I always handled it pretty maturely, even if they didn't. One guy stuck his tongue halfway in my mouth and I pushed him off- he was drunk so I let it be. Then some guys seemed into me being straight. They'd buy me a drink even after I said I wasn't into guys, or try to logic their way into my pants. One guy said "I think everyone is at least bi", so I asked "does that mean you like girls?" and he said "good point". I've also been straight up #metoo'd. A director pretty much invited me to go skinny dipping in an email. I just didn't respond. Then I showed up on set when shooting came and all but two of my lines were cut. F**king pr*ck. I should have exposed him during the #timesup movement but I didn't want the drama. Sounds like some of those guys like to try to convert us heteros, just as some macho men try to convert lesbians.
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Post by QueenB on Mar 6, 2019 0:12:51 GMT
Yes, in fact lately I think I get hit on by more females than males. Honestly, I feel flattered but I just simply tell them I'm straight.
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Mar 6, 2019 0:45:12 GMT
I could really lack awareness in this respect, but I have not been hit on by anyone of any sex.  LOL!
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Post by QueenB on Mar 6, 2019 0:49:32 GMT
Yes, in fact lately I think I get hit on by more females than males. Honestly, I feel flattered but I just simply tell them I'm straight.That is all you can do. You are either interested or not.
What I find interesting about this thread, is that it stills appears that there is some stigma towards same sexuality, otherwise this wouldn't have been brought up.
Does it really matter what gender the person is who is hitting on you, one is either interested in them or not? Not every gay person is going to be attracted to everyone of the same sex, just as not every straight person is going to be attracted to every member of the opposite sex.
Exactly this!
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Mar 6, 2019 0:50:35 GMT
I suppose it depends on how one feels about touching. It didn't feel particularly creepy to me, but I'm used to being touched by women. In friendly conversation it's just a casual gesture which some do. I don't hold it against the man. He was just testing the waters and he got his answer. Once we start getting into the shoulder touching realm as being a sexual harassment, people will start to become worried about making a play for anybody. Heck, sex is what makes the world turn for most people. We are all the product of a shag and we can't get too precious. It would be different if he just suddenly touched you on the whatnots and then forced you to snog him. Toasted, I agree that a shoulder touch should not be considered sexual harassment. But unfortunately I think that's where we're at nowadays. As a hetero man I know that I could NOT get away with rubbing a female co-workers shoulders any longer. And as pro -gay rights as I am, I'm afraid I have to agree with Kuato on this one. The rubbing of the shoulder was the one step too far. Its an assumption on his part that he had the right to do so, that the two had agreed the relationship had reached that level of intimacy when in fact it hadn't. Folks are very persnickety nowadays.
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Figers crossed it will happen one day.
