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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2019 9:50:22 GMT
When I was a kid my mom used to throw me birthday parties. My family and friends would show up or whatever.
Well, one year, when I was eight years old a lot of people couldn't make it for whatever reason. Some were sick, some had other plans. At the end of the day, there were like 3 people there. It was embarrassing and lame. I'll never forget what that felt like as an eight year old kid. It also taught me I wasn't special, so in a way it humbled me. So I guess I could be thankful for that.
In any case, the next year I didn't want a birthday party. I told my mom, "Can we just go to the movies and have a nice dinner somewhere? Some place I like to eat. Can we go to the beach and spend the night over the weekend? Something, anything. I didn't even need presents. She kept INSISTING I have a DAMN party. I remember just sitting there, not enjoying myself, not wanting to participate, not wanting to eat. I remember her being embarrassed and people asking what was wrong with me. Finally, after three years of this she just gave up. I think she felt like I was robbing her of something she wanted to do as a mother, but it's not about her.
WHY DO BIRTHDAY PARTIES exist? Who says that's the ONLY way to celebrate? By the time you spend money on the food, the decorations, the presents, etc... You can take that money and invest it into trip, an experience, do something fun.
Think about it, the people at the party don't want to be there either. They feel obligated, they have to buy you a present, they have to all sit around and watch you open your gifts. You are making people your prisoners for a few hours and forcing them to worship your life. On top of that, they have to buy you a gift.
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Post by politicidal on Jun 9, 2019 15:43:20 GMT
I think ideally it's for the family to demonstrate their attentiveness or affection for the person in question;shouldn't need a party to do that but whatever. After a certain age though, people should grow out of it.
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Post by hi224 on Jun 9, 2019 16:01:46 GMT
When I was a kid my mom used to throw me birthday parties. My family and friends would show up or whatever.
Well, one year, when I was eight years old a lot of people couldn't make it for whatever reason. Some were sick, some had other plans. At the end of the day, there were like 3 people there. It was embarrassing and lame. I'll never forget what that felt like as an eight year old kid. It also taught me I wasn't special, so in a way it humbled me. So I guess I could be thankful for that.
In any case, the next year I didn't want a birthday party. I told my mom, "Can we just go to the movies and have a nice dinner somewhere? Some place I like to eat. Can we go to the beach and spend the night over the weekend? Something, anything. I didn't even need presents. She kept INSISTING I have a DAMN party. I remember just sitting there, not enjoying myself, not wanting to participate, not wanting to eat. I remember her being embarrassed and people asking what was wrong with me. Finally, after three years of this she just gave up. I think she felt like I was robbing her of something she wanted to do as a mother, but it's not about her.
WHY DO BIRTHDAY PARTIES exist? Who says that's the ONLY way to celebrate? By the time you spend money on the food, the decorations, the presents, etc... You can take that money and invest it into trip, an experience, do something fun.
Think about it, the people at the party don't want to be there either. They feel obligated, they have to buy you a present, they have to all sit around and watch you open your gifts. You are making people your prisoners for a few hours and forcing them to worship your life. On top of that, they have to buy you a gift.
So do I. |
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Post by hi224 on Jun 9, 2019 16:15:26 GMT
I think ideally it's for the family to demonstrate their attentiveness or affection for the person in question;shouldn't need a party to do that but whatever. After a certain age though, people should grow out of it. Everyone has traditions right as well. |
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Post by DarkManX on Jun 9, 2019 16:25:53 GMT
I never had birthday parties and I consider myself lucky. My birthday was always just a an excuse for the family to get together. I have a feeling I would have been one of those kids who throws a party and no one shows up.
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Post by James on Jun 9, 2019 17:01:54 GMT
It’s definitely getting tedious as people get older, myself included. Sure it’s nice to have gifts and all that jazz, but I want to spend time where not everybody has to keep coming for the hell of it. Plus, you may not get the gifts you truly want, so you’re better off just getting money.
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