Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 15:01:51 GMT
Physical discipline would work just fine and I think it's far more effective than taking stuff away at certain times in a kids life.
At the end of the day, a negative experience helps you remember the wrong that was bad enough to get you punished.
It just shouldn't be used for all the bad, stupid things kids do...Only the dangerous ones or perhaps some type of severe disrespect.
By the time they are teens, a kids personality is almost etched. A spanking is just going to cause more rebellion
However, all that is separate from societal expectation which quite bluntly forbids any notion of spanking regardless of age. It's for the worst, but it's not worth going to jail over and especially if it's your kid calling the cops.
I don't understand why people think its actually good to spank their kids.. maybe only as a last resort (though i cant really think of what a kid could do that would make a parent feel they need to) And it turns out my dad spanked me because my mom made him do it and that probably explained why he was more gentle about it in his approach. I just think there are better forms of discipline that are more effective like taking away a cell phone like you said.
I think it also depends on what the child is getting in trouble for.. In boarding school we got in trouble for the stupidest things like missing a spot on a chore even if it was something barely noticed. and I think those types of things makes kids want to rebel even more when they're in an environment that is too strict. Also if the consequences actually make sense and it is explained to them why they are given the consequence they seem to comply with it a lot more..