Post by lenlenlen1 on May 8, 2019 19:11:49 GMT
Are YOU a part of the LGBTQ community? If not, then you cant say what they should or shouldn't do. Let them figure themselves out, and you mind your business.
Being gay isn't about conforming to what you want. Its about figuring out what they want to be.
They're not telling you how you should be. Imagine if they did? I think you'd have a strong word or two in response, no?
That kind of thinking is what I'm talking about.
Trying to put people in a box is wrong.
I am a heterosexual white male who loves sports, hunting, fishing, boxing etc... But I have a friend from H.S. on my old basketball team who turned out to be gay. He had more in common with me than he did a makeup wearing, feminine, theatre singer etc...
My point is, that ONE thing doesn't define who you are and how you act. And this LBGTQ+ community puts labels on people and puts them in a box. It makes people like my old basketball teammate feel alienated.
What kind of thinking? The kind of thinking where I respect them enough for them to make their own decisions? You mean that kind of thinking? 
What made your friend in H.S. feel alienated was that he knew that if he came out the hetero kids would have made fun of him for it. You and I may not have, and I commend you for that, but you know as well as I do that most of the other "fellas" would have. Its not his own community he's feeling persecution from. Its ours. (also, most kids in H.S. who are gay are still trying to figure it all out themselves, so you're friend almost certainly hadn't figured it all out yet either.)
You're trying to turn the tables and say "they're the ones that are doing the thing that's creating the problem!" Nope. Nice try. They're different from us and that's okay.
Part of what makes them hard to understand to us heteros is that they display many different attributes. Some are "macho" as you say, and some are very flamboyant. But its not up to them to change who they evolve into because some of their attributes bother you/us.
Its up to us to accept them as they are whether they present themselves to us as macho, flamboyant, or covered in green paint with sparkles all over them. If you don't find those attributes acceptable then just walk away. But its not up to us to tell them how they should be. I was born and raised in NYC, believe me I seen all kinds!
Also, this notion you have that they're the ones that put labels on people is quite inaccurate. My experience has been that its us heteros who want to quantify them. They really don't give a fuck. They just want to be themselves.
Live and let live
