Post by Toasted Cheese on Jun 25, 2019 15:13:55 GMT
I stood up to my mother once, too. It was on the phone and she was being especially manipulative and I cussed her out and she responded with more crocodile tears. That's really what she has in her. Poor slob. We didn't talk for two months. Actually, now that I think about it, I stood up to her twice. I told her she was a classic narcissistic mother, all the signs were there. She said she was never going to speak to me again. I touched a nerve. It was quite gratifying to get that off my chest. The silent treatment lasted a week.
Some people out there will say that one's parents are sacred and these people usually will not budge on this regardless of circumstances. Mothers, in particular, are held as sacred. I am not a member of this camp. Stephen King once said that parents try to murder their own children. I totally get that. Parents can be nice and loving, but they can also be just terrible to their children. I know that parents are people, too. It's a fine line where to cut them some slack.
So if you ever had to let a parent finally have what was coming to to them, how did it go?
Yes, but due to their sensitivity, rigidity, control issues and also phony scenes of crocodile tears, they use that as a defense mechanism so I dare not push too hard, or wanted to push too hard because they weren't going to make it easy for me. It falls on deaf ears for the most part anyway. I could sense the invisible barrier shields come down right before me, but these walls were so transparent and I had it in my power to totally and utterly annihilate them, I was afraid of myself and took a more emphatic route.
I didn't see the point in tearing our family apart, when in a sense we were already apart by distance. I can't make them be something or understand something about themselves, that they are too fearful of seeing. That would have been way too cruel to push and besides, my father was already made aware of how I felt about them through a third party. The rest of that was a residue of resentment that got projected back at me. It is not as bad now. They are much older and not as strong, or perhaps care so much anymore anyway.

