Have you ever had to stand up to your parents?

Have you ever had to stand up to your parents? Jun 25, 2019 20:11:53 GMT Toasted Cheese and rachelcarson1953 like this

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Post by dirtypillows on Jun 25, 2019 20:11:53 GMT

Jun 25, 2019 19:55:58 GMT lenlenlen1 said:

Jun 25, 2019 19:30:22 GMT dirtypillows said:

Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Can you provide some specific examples of how you stood up to them?

1) It could be better, but it could be far worse. The main problem is that they still don't see me as an adult and I don't know what more I can do to make that happen. Our relationship is stuck in an arrested state of development where I am still a kid in their eyes.

2) A specific recent example is them having problems with someone I dated. Quite frankly, they don't get an opinion in the matter. I'M the one who's going to do the dating, not them. I'd love it if they liked who I was dating, but if they don't "I love you, but too bad!"

Parents who can't see their children as adults do not want to face the fact that they are aging themselves. It is a matter of degrees. It is nice and warm and touching for the parent to want to see their child as still a child, this is sweet and it is nice when there is some of this. However, parents also need to learn to let go. And this can be near impossible for some parents. Ideally it is the parents job to guide their child into becoming a mature, productive and happy adult. But it hardly ever works out that way. Good parenting is to draw a fine line. I personally cannot imagine being a parent. To be, more or less, responsible for a human being for 18 + years seems incredibly daunting. But most parents unload their own baggage onto their hapless child. If the child is able to break the cycle, then more power to him or her.