Post by Toasted Cheese on Jul 25, 2019 2:03:24 GMT
Jul 25, 2019 1:46:30 GMT Nora said:
And also added to the well known fact, that gay people DO NOT have as big as a pond to fish in and when someone does find somebody that they mutally desire, are on the same wavelength and considering that Elio was almost an adult and the age gap narrows as one grows older, there was a natural and genuine quality to how this relationship evolved. Oliver was also living up to the expectations of others and I'd say he would have ended up quite unhappy with his choices. Elio had the loving support of his parents.
How would attitudes have played out, if Oliver was a 24yr old hot female seducing a 17yr old boy. Yeah man! He scored!
I mean it’s challenging enough to find someone you click with even when you are straight.
The age gap didn’t bother me at all. In Europe the age of consent is usually 15 and this was a very consensual relationship.
People often put moral judgements on the older person for choosing a younger one. Admittedly and understandably it can be questionable and even creepy, but in the context of this film's scenario, it wasn't. There was about a 7yr gap between the characters and Elio wasn't at the lower end of the teen spectrum.
I worked with a 17yr old who's gf was in her mid 20's and had a kid from a previous relationship. People understandably did pass a few comments and I didn't really like him and thought he was douchy. He ended up knocking her up, but they did get married. If it was the other way round, societal hypocritical double standards would have been more biased against an older male with a late teen girl or guy.