Post by klawrencio79 on Nov 15, 2019 18:50:48 GMT
This is something I've learned to cope with and live with, but it is annoying... largely because it's so constant. My wife is aware of this completely and usually ends her rants with something like, 'Thanks for letting me vent,' or 'sorry for being annoying,' even though she knows I'm only half listening.
The other thing is she complains about the exact same behavior from other friends of ours and especially from her mom. If I feel like I wanna stir the pot a bit (at my own peril) I can point that out. Especially when I come home and start cooking or changing or whatever and she follows me around room to room to tell me these stories, a move we've dubbed the 'follow-bother.'
On one hand, it's annoying and I don't fully understand it since I don't like to unload the things I'm annoyed about from my day on her. I do, sometimes, but in general I'd rather not revisit all of those things at the end of the day.
What I do now is call on my drive home so the air is mostly cleared by the time I get home. It doesn't totally take care of that, but kinda helps, and you might not get caught not listening as easily.
Anyway, it's annoying, but I understand it's part of my job, but we don't get to vent about THAT annoyance back to them. I guess that's what this thread is for, though.
Plus, we recognize it as a mere annoyance. Given that I don't get shit for traveling with my friends, going to festivals without her, etc., I can't really complain too much about her complaining.