Some people are so miserable and mad they have no control

Some people are so miserable and mad they have no control Aug 23, 2021 5:26:48 GMT theravenking, divtal, and 2 more like this

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Post by Sarge on Aug 23, 2021 5:26:48 GMT

Aug 22, 2021 23:47:03 GMT langdona said:

Aug 22, 2021 22:49:31 GMT divtal said:

I suppose that's true ... on many fronts. However, I think that a little context would be in order.

My parents are miserable. They clearly hate each other but stay married. I guess they're old now...so I guess that's why they stay together BUT I don't recall them ever liking each other. my dad, he likes to insult me when I point out concerning things in their lives. Example...My dad has health issues but still drinks a lot. As much as I'd like to distance myself from them...that's kind of hard... I do end up saying things they don't like hearing once in a while. I don't wanna take it personally when he or both them insult me but they know me...those things they say hurt. I've worked on myself, I have some success...I actually love my family LOL. So that makes it hurt less but idk why he has to be cruel towards me when I suggested he should see a doctor. Its just so telling of how miserable they both are.

Your father becomes defensive when you criticize him, or when he feels insecure, or vulnerable, ... just like everyone else. Kids struggle to see their parents as people and vice versa. Once, your parents loved one another and then something happened that you don't know about and it changed their relationship. Maybe they still wish they loved one another but can't go back. People get old, their body betrays them, they realize youth is gone, it's depressing. I used to get hurt, sleep it off and feel great the next day; now it takes days or weeks to heal and I hate it. Some things I saw coming, some I didn't; same for them. And maybe the things you say that hurt them, things they should hear; that goes both ways and you should hear what they are saying to you.