Post by langdona on Aug 26, 2021 4:10:36 GMT
Your father becomes defensive when you criticize him, or when he feels insecure, or vulnerable, ... just like everyone else. Kids struggle to see their parents as people and vice versa. Once, your parents loved one another and then something happened that you don't know about and it changed their relationship. Maybe they still wish they loved one another but can't go back. People get old, their body betrays them, they realize youth is gone, it's depressing. I used to get hurt, sleep it off and feel great the next day; now it takes days or weeks to heal and I hate it. Some things I saw coming, some I didn't; same for them. And maybe the things you say that hurt them, things they should hear; that goes both ways and you should hear what they are saying to you.
The first thing I thought about just based on the vague thread title and OP is slaves. They had/have no control and have every right to be angry about it. If they weren't angry and miserable they would have no incentive to try and change their situation.
Yeah I see how slaves would be angry and that's justified. That's not what I was really getting at here though. Was thinking about how miserable people will sometimes project their unhappiness onto other people when they really don't deserve it. I don't think people have the right to insult others voicing concern just because they think that person is somehow controlling them. Its like an anti-vax person getting all angry and mean when someone says they should get the vaccine. They don't wanna be controlled. They probably feel lack of control in their lives in general and cling to something stupid like not taking the vaccine as an important statement of their personal liberty. Just an example