Some people are so miserable and mad they have no control

Some people are so miserable and mad they have no control Aug 26, 2021 5:37:34 GMT

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Post by moviemouth on Aug 26, 2021 5:37:34 GMT

Aug 26, 2021 5:04:36 GMT langdona said:

Aug 26, 2021 4:35:49 GMT moviemouth said:

I'm going to add more because I love exploring this type of psychological stuff, in part because I am in a constant battle with my own emotions. Clinical depression, extreme social anxiety, rage issues etc.

Talking about this stuff and thinking about it can cause you to assess yourself better. Most people don't want to think about it too much. It is too painful for some people I think.

You criticizing your parents is pointing out their flaws and forcing them to think about their own miserable situation. That is the more likely reason that your father insults you, because he probably takes what you said as an insult to him. It is a slight fight or flight response due to his own fears.

Also, if your father tells you he doesn't want to talk about something and you keep harping on him, he is going to get annoyed and feel threatened. I think most of use can sympathize with this.

I am not a psychiatrist btw, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I have read quite a bit about psychology and some is just common sense, but I am not an expert by any means.

Yeah I agree about him taking it as an insult.. I think its some kind of knee jerk reaction. He does continously do it though...so instead of being an asshole that nobody wants to be around...he should do some self reflection and work on himself. I'm not perfect at all but at least I try to fix things. Its selfish to just act whatever way you want...not caring about the consequences to your health or to others and then bitch(and refuse to think about it) when someone points it out that you should change. I don't harp on things, I do come from a place of concern.

Have you told your father that his insult hurt your feelings and it is making you lose respect for him?

Have you asked him whether he wants to change or wants things to get better? There are people who like wallowing in their own misery. That get a twisted pleasure from it. This is a real thing.

Is he the kind of person who you can even sit down and have a discussion with? Based on what you have said it seems not.

I want to help, but I don't know how you would get around this without him getting annoyed and angry every time and just walking away. He seems very stubborn.