No, you're not getting it. And you're saying that whichever one somebody picks, the choice was something beyond that person's control.
This is correct, and demonstrably true. None of us was ever in a position to choose one's own personality.
This is not correct. You are still accountable for your actions. If there's something wrong with my car, the car is still what needs to be fixed - doesn't matter that the car is blameless. Imagine if I rammed the car in front of me because I was driving too close to his tail, and I wasn't paying attention when he hit the brakes. Imagine I then take the car to the mechanic, and instead of fixing my car he beats me up. "That'll teach you." Well, maybe that will teach me, but it didn't do much good for my car, did it? Similarly, if someone commits a crime, it is because of the conditions in which he had been raised. Conditions beyond his control. Society is ultimately to blame, but it is still the individual what needs fixing. So while the criminal may not be to blame for his personality, he still needs to be held accountable for it.
We never
decide to want anything. Doesn't work that way. You may try to
tell yourself, "I want this!" But it's not going to make you want it. If people could simply
decide what to want, then everybody would be in tip top shape because they would simply
decide to like healthy food and exercise, and
decide to hate unhealthy foods and pastimes. There wouldn't be any infidelity either, because people would simply
decide that their significant other was enough in every respect.
Absolutely not. I would
love to love the sweat and toil, but I simply don't.
It isn't subject to decisions at all. Do you like strawberries? Why? Or why not? Can you
choose to change your mind? Can you
choose the flavour, or how your brain reacts to it? Not in the slightest. If you say you can, you lie.
