Post by rachelcarson1953 on Sept 19, 2017 22:59:58 GMT
When I read your post and you referenced me as using myself as an example, I feared for what kind of responses might be posted, given the responses I got. And, so far, you've gotten two of the negative kind and one positive one. This post is positive one #2.
As I read your story my stomach clenched up in a knot, that recognition of an extremely dysfunctional family. I'm so sorry for what happened to you. You do seem to have coped well in adulthood, and have a healthy attitude and outlook. Reading your post is the first exposure I have had to the term Grower's orientation, and will be researching this online.
Just a bit of advice: there are posters that will respond to this negatively, try to tell you that it's your own fault, blah, blah, blah. Put them on 'block'. That way you can read through the thread seeing the other responses you get that truly want to have an intelligent conversation.
I came up with the “grower’s/strangler’s orientation” terms, inspired by working in the garden, when working on this thread. I have a few more thoughts about the idea, which I will try to post soon (though many of my posts take much longer than I think they will.)
