Do you have children?

don't wanna step on anyones tailfeathers  but im gonna agree with both ops


gameboy - yes it can be a fun experience having children and watching them grow up and experience things parents and grandparents did as kids like movies. first date. first car. first job. etc

them1ghtyhumph - again I agree the world is a far more scarier and dangerous place than it was 15-20 years ago.

that said I voted no not because I don't want kids. not because I do want them. but because i'm a lazy ass im only 26 years old (soon to be 27  next month)  I've never worked in my life. never voted because again im a lazy ass. hell im still a virgin 

now will I ever have kids? I don't know since im only 26 and still have my whole life ahead of me. but when I think of how much responsibility having a wife and children are. the lazy ass comes out in me again and says do I really want to do that?

It is interesting to me to have read through all the posts here, and see the extreme ends of the spectrum, and the points in between.

@marilynluvstigger, I'm glad your daughter was the best surprise of your life. It was a positive in your life, and hers, and that is a good thing. People that are happy with their lives.

them1ghtyhumph, you remind me of another poster that was on the RFS board for a while; miccee. He was an anti-natalist, and felt that suffering was unavoidable as a sentient being, and he went so far as to say that if sentient life ended, there would be no more suffering. He also advocated for physician-assisted suicide.

I didn't reproduce because I didn't think I would be a good mother, and my decision was right for me.

Point being, there is no blanket answer to the question of whether having kids is good or bad. Every human's situation is different. To the person whose life has been bad, not bringing kids into that life is probably best for all involved. To a person who has a good life, and wants to bring kids into that life, that is a positive.

Of course, all living humans should be cognizant of this planet's environment, and the effect of having more humans to feed is a concern. But there cannot be a generalized condemnation of someone who has made a different decision than others.

The results of the poll are interesting in that on this board, there are few parents here. What does that say? Maybe something as simple as 'people with kids don't have time to post on message boards'. Or it might indicate a growing trend of people opting not to have kids.

I just think it shouldn't have to come down to name-calling and insults. There is enough of that on other boards here.

I have two oxymoronic "grown children." I enjoyed watching them grow and then fly away to make lives of their own. Don't understand the angst suffered by some "empty nesters." My Lovely Wife and I are having the times of our lives. It's fine if they call now and then or we talk by Skype, but they both live a long way from us and from each other. Mom and Dad are in the U.S. Southwest, #1 progeny lives in London, England while #2 offspring is employed in upstate New York.

Because, from my observations, life is dismal. And I've led a relatively good life.

Well good for fuckin' you.

Now I'll just go tell you to go fuck yourself.

You know nothing about me.

Hahaha. I can only go by the self-pitying crap you wrote on this thread. That tells me all I need to know.

Self-pitying? You understand nothing. It is you I pity.

Gotta say, from what I've picked up from your postings in this forum, I consider that a compliment.

Thank you.