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Post by Jep Gambardella on Nov 11, 2018 13:38:05 GMT
No. I always assumed I would some day but it never happened. Now it's too late and I am OK with it - I am a person who tends to worry a lot about my loved ones, and if I had children I would go crazy with worry every time they coughed or were ten minutes late returning home. So from this perspective I am glad that I don't have to live in a state of constant stress because of the health and safety of my children - not to mention that I think the world is turning to shit and I would have to worry about that too.
On the other hand, when I see my brother with his children, or my friends talking about their children, or even a tender father-child moment on TV, I sometimes feel a pang of pain from knowing that it's something I will never have.
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Nov 11, 2018 15:18:54 GMT
them1ghtyhumph You serious? ; because surely you realize it's actually quite the opposite of that, right? because having a child takes self out of the equation because you can't really do what you personally like to do as much as the child requires you sacrifice for his/her benefit and sacrifice is not self-centered at all. it's those who are so self-centered that they neglect raising the child as those parents who are too concerned with self usually end up being crap parents who are barely involved with their kids etc.
p.s. some people have a way too negative view on life. I am not the most positive person out there by any means, but damn, some people are WAYYYYY to negative. The most selfish and cruelest act any person can commit When one is raised by a narcissistic mother who grew up in a terribly dysfunctional home, and that mother expects her child to be an extension of herself, and do and be everything for her... yes, it is a selfish and cruel act. The child never has the encouragement to have a life of their own, to be a separate human being with wants and needs of their own. I am 65, my mother is 95, and NEVER have I ever done enough for her, in her opinion. As I have said before, I had a great Dad, so I was fortunate to have one parent. But I knew that if I had kids, I wouldn't know how to be a good mother, and their grandmother would play head games with them, too. So I spared any children from that. I still struggle with setting boundaries, taking care of myself and having a life of my own. Therapy has helped, to an extent. But that legacy, starting with my grandfather and grandmother, has produced multiple dysfunctional families with three grandchildren's suicides and one of their sons, my uncle, basically drank himself to death. Additionally, the world is overpopulated, reproduction just adds to the load of negative effects of that. In this day and age, everyone should seriously consider not having children, or adopting children already here and in need of parents. And not every person is qualified to be a good parent. |
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Post by gameboy on Nov 11, 2018 15:52:47 GMT
Despite overpopulation we do need to reproduce a new generation of humans. I mean when I'm 80 years old I'll still wanna see some young butt in my porno. But seriously, we need youth to strengthen and renew the system. So the breeder still has an important role in society. I don't envy them having to put up with a bunch of snotnosed brats. Though we are superior to them we still must give the devil his due. This is like watching two cats boast about how they rule the house they live in. Kewl is for cats. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 11, 2018 20:30:58 GMT
Breeders! Stop breeding for your own self-gratification. Even breeders stop breeding eventually.
Even having one is too much sometimes.
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Post by Stammerhead on Nov 11, 2018 21:01:25 GMT
Even breeders stop breeding eventually.
Even having one is too much sometimes.
Depends on the person who actually resides behind the generalisation. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 11, 2018 21:11:43 GMT
Even having one is too much sometimes.
Depends on the person who actually resides behind the generalisation. Ultimately, it depends on the person who is breeding. |
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Post by Stammerhead on Nov 11, 2018 21:13:36 GMT
Depends on the person who actually resides behind the generalisation. Ultimately, it depends on the person who is breeding. And the person making the judgement. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 11, 2018 21:14:43 GMT
Ultimately, it depends on the person who is breeding. And the person making the judgement. Yes, the judgement about the breeder fool. |
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Post by Stammerhead on Nov 11, 2018 21:25:26 GMT
And the person making the judgement. Yes, the judgement about the breeder fool. Although the judge can also be the fool. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 12, 2018 2:25:02 GMT
Yes, the judgement about the breeder fool. Although the judge can also be the fool. Yes, I know breeders breed more fools, so what is your point? |
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Post by Stammerhead on Nov 12, 2018 8:53:02 GMT
Although the judge can also be the fool. Yes, I know breeders breed more fools, so what is your point? Just having fun with a fool with a big chip on his shoulder. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 12, 2018 9:08:14 GMT
The most selfish and cruelest act any person can commit When one is raised by a narcissistic mother who grew up in a terribly dysfunctional home, and that mother expects her child to be an extension of herself, and do and be everything for her... yes, it is a selfish and cruel act. The child never has the encouragement to have a life of their own, to be a separate human being with wants and needs of their own. I am 65, my mother is 95, and NEVER have I ever done enough for her, in her opinion. As I have said before, I had a great Dad, so I was fortunate to have one parent. But I knew that if I had kids, I wouldn't know how to be a good mother, and their grandmother would play head games with them, too. So I spared any children from that. I still struggle with setting boundaries, taking care of myself and having a life of my own. Therapy has helped, to an extent. But that legacy, starting with my grandfather and grandmother, has produced multiple dysfunctional families with three grandchildren's suicides and one of their sons, my uncle, basically drank himself to death. Additionally, the world is overpopulated, reproduction just adds to the load of negative effects of that. In this day and age, everyone should seriously consider not having children, or adopting children already here and in need of parents. And not every person is qualified to be a good parent. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 12, 2018 9:25:10 GMT
Yes, I know breeders breed more fools, so what is your point? Just having fun with a fool with a big chip on his shoulder. Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.  |
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Post by Stammerhead on Nov 12, 2018 9:31:31 GMT
My option isn’t included in this poll. I’m an adoptive parent who never had that great urge to reproduce. One of me is enough.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 16, 2018 6:33:47 GMT
No. We were considering having children at one point and my Sister was willing to have a baby for us but we decided it would be too much hard work and responsibility and I love the way things are now with it just being the two of us and don't want that to change. We have 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 rabbits, a pig, a bird, fish and a horse that lives on my Aunt and Uncle's farm and our pets are our babies and we also have my nieces and my youngest niece often stays here with us. 
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