have you had any lost love?

Yes. When I was 17 I was involved for a year with a 19-year-old boy who was one of the most wonderful human beings I've ever known. He was too good for me. He wanted to marry me, but his family hated me. I ended things before he went into the service. I still think of him, almost 25 years later.

In my 20's I spent 6 years with a man who was in every way my best friend. He loved my baby daughter and was helping me raise her. He was older than me, and did not want marriage because he had already done that. He also could not stay faithful, so we had somewhat of an open relationship. I left because I wanted more than that. Now I wonder if I should have just stayed and enjoyed what we had, and ignored his occasional weekend indiscretions. I have never had the intimacy or friendship with anyone else that I had with him (and I'm not just talking sex). Sex is sex and love is love, and I know he loved me even if monogamy was not possible. He's dead now anyway, so it doesn't matter.

And this isn't necessarily "one that got away", but I had a Polynesian friend who wanted to marry me and take me back to Hawaii. "You'll learn to love" he said. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I'd done it.

I wouldn't say lost but I did have a crush on a friend and now its too late.