Could you be married to someone if you hated what they did for a living?

Yeah, I could do that, although there would be some exceptions--either if I strongly disagree with their work from a moral standpoint or if it would logistically, negatively interfere with my life in some significant way.

In general, talk between wives and I hasn't focused much on work. That's the case even though with my present wife we both travel often enough for work, sometimes we accompany each other, and sometimes my wife experiences my work (for example, by attending a gig). I didn't even talk work very much with my first wife, despite the fact that we worked together, which is how we met. We tried to keep work talk for work, and our private life focused on other stuff--other interests, hobbies, family, daily stuff that anyone has to deal with.

With my current wife I have very little interest in what she does for a living, and I would personally hate doing it for a living.  I'm glad she enjoys it, and the skills she uses for it are very useful to us in general.  She  has a lot of businesses and financial expertise that I would have to otherwise hire someone to take care of for me, because I hate dealing with that stuff.

Might life not be more difficult and awkward if they felt that they could not share their work experiences, feelings, work problems  etc with you because you hate what they do for a living?


A part of their life would be verboten and a barrier between you and the problem would be of YOUR creation. . 

I can't see it being an issue if we were compatible in other ways.

No.
One time I talked to this elderly woman who was a painter and she said her husband had zero interest in her work which "made me weepy sometimes."
I found that to be a disturbing comment.
If someone hated what you did--I dont see how that could work unless it was a job you did strictly to make money.

no, but I can't think of any jobs I actually hate. There Are lots of jobs I wouldn't want to do myself, but I acknowledge their essential nature. WOrking in a slaughterhouse for instance, or being an undertaker. Could I cope with being married to someone who was always handling dead people? I'm not sure, I can't say I've ever fancied an undertaker, but then I've never met many. I might actually be put off by the idea of the slaughterhouse, but that seems rather hypocritical. it is hard to say.

NO!

Sounds like you are pushing people into not marrying.

People should do what they want.

It seems weird to me that people would talk about work a lot when home anyway. Even loving what I do for work, when I'm not at work I don't want to think about work, and I know a lot of other people who feel the same way. It's like people who let (people from) work bother them when they're supposed to be on their own time. I'd not be answering any phone calls, emails, etc. from work when I'm not at work. If I'm not at work I want to focus on other things that I enjoy in my life.

Most folks' bosses aren't going to be happy if one spends a lot of time at work looking up baseball stats, or watching films, or whatever else one enjoys doing. So when you're on your own time and focusing on baseball or watching a film or whatever, your work should expect the same sort of reaction if it tries to intrude.