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Post by Toasted Cheese on Dec 25, 2018 22:14:30 GMT
not only i was not bullied, i dont even know anyone who was bullied or was a bully. there was maybe some teasing here and there, but i have never seen or heard about anyone get beat up, i have never seen anything like the US teen movies show us (different cliques, bullies that constantly pick on someone, destroy their stuff, spit on them, call them horrible names and do all sorts of vile things to them) and never heard about it either. not in elementary school, not in high school (and certainly not in college). and i have asked around a lot. i used to think it was just a US movie trope. that it didnt really happen. now, having moved here and talking to different people about it i realize it does happen, but unsure why. were our schools stricter? if a child would get punched/beaten up at the school yard, the bully would get expelled from school immediately. bunch of us were almost expelled for one day leaving the school premises. hitting another kid would sure result in bye bye. or were the kids nicer to each other in the 80ties/90ties or in Europe? Or was it because i went to a relatively small school? What is a small school? We had about 500 students there. Is that small or big? Or what other reasons could there be? Or was I just somehow lucky that I didnt experience or see it, and same with my friends? We create our own realities Nora. You can only know of what you experience, or what one is perhaps willing to be open to and acknowledge. Even if you have heard of it, if something isn't affecting your life, these things are usually not relevant.
I got picked on and beat up, but if at one stage it was at the hands of one specific kid, I wasn't the only casualty. Who would of known I was bullied, or felt harassed except myself if no-one else knew of it. A couple of friends of mine knew I was scared of one older kid, but parental attitudes were also that it will toughen one up.
The teachers were bullies too and I was even bullied in front of one and they did nothing. My father was a bully, my mother was a passive bully. It is just part of the culture for many. I have encountered adult bullies at work throughout my entire working career. The bully cannot be escaped in any facet of life. Look at politicians and CEO's.
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Post by QueenB on Dec 25, 2018 22:28:42 GMT
Yes, I was one of the smallest girls in school. There was no way I was not going to be bullied. I had a boy spit on me once and one of the mean girls put gum in my hair. I have a few older brothers and they taught me how to fight. Once I stood my ground, they didn't really bother me much after that.
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Post by MCDemuth on Dec 25, 2018 22:31:32 GMT
I'm not sure if I was "bullied" or not...
I was rarely touched by anyone... Though I did get occasional things Such As: Pinches, Flicks, Shoves, and Wedgies... But most of that wasn't aimed at ME in terms of being personal attacks... Just students wanting to do something to someone, right then and there, and I was in the wrong place at the wrong time...
However, I was verbally teased and harassed quite frequently by my fellow classmates that I knew...For various reasons...
There was only time where I was physically hurt... And I didn't even know the student. I think he was in a different grade than I was in...
It was at the end of the day, and I was walking down the hall trying to go home, when some kid randomly punched me in the stomach. I think he was dared by his friends to do it. It knocked the wind out of me... I didn't know why he did it, or who he was, and so I fled, just in case he wanted to punch me some more. He and his goons following my to the Bike racks, where I was getting my bike so I could go home... He ask me, why I didn't fight back, and I said that: I didn't know him, or why he did that to me, and I was afraid of being punched again, and so I fled, and that I just wanted to go home... They let me get my bike and I went home... I never saw him again.
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Post by Eλευθερί on Dec 26, 2018 2:16:23 GMT
My father says that when I was a little kid I was being bullied when I walked to school. He says that it stopped after I got myself an equalizer (a big stick). I have no recollection of this.
When I was older, there were several times that I joined in the shunning or verbal harassment of kids that the groupthink decided were undeserving of being treated like everyone else. One of the kids was a girl who had a prosthetic arm (and back in those days, prostheses were much more primitive than some of the high-tech prostheses many folks have today). We were mean to her because of her arm. (She was also a jerk, though, tbh; and I'm pretty sure I would have disliked her even if she hadn't been disabled.)
Years later, there was a developmentally disabled kid who had a speech impediment and was mentally slow. I think he was also gay. We were extremely cruel in shunning him.
There was a point in jr high or early high school where I made fun of a kid who, when we were younger, had been my very best friend. By this later point, he wasn't cool enough any more. He was the only one that I, later in high school, was able to apologize to for my bad behavior. I regret how I treated all of these kids.
None of it ever got to the point of physical abuse though. And I was never in any kind of clique or gang.
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Post by moviebuffbrad on Dec 26, 2018 2:26:35 GMT
I was bullied in middle school when I gained weight, but not before or after. And I never bullied anyone
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Post by kls on Dec 26, 2018 3:05:05 GMT
not only i was not bullied, i dont even know anyone who was bullied or was a bully. there was maybe some teasing here and there, but i have never seen or heard about anyone get beat up, i have never seen anything like the US teen movies show us (different cliques, bullies that constantly pick on someone, destroy their stuff, spit on them, call them horrible names and do all sorts of vile things to them) and never heard about it either. not in elementary school, not in high school (and certainly not in college). and i have asked around a lot. i used to think it was just a US movie trope. that it didnt really happen. now, having moved here and talking to different people about it i realize it does happen, but unsure why. were our schools stricter? if a child would get punched/beaten up at the school yard, the bully would get expelled from school immediately. bunch of us were almost expelled for one day leaving the school premises. hitting another kid would sure result in bye bye. or were the kids nicer to each other in the 80ties/90ties or in Europe? Or was it because i went to a relatively small school? What is a small school? We had about 500 students there. Is that small or big? Or what other reasons could there be? Or was I just somehow lucky that I didnt experience or see it, and same with my friends? The 80s teen movies with jock bullies seemed so far fetched to me when I was in high school because the jocks in my school would never risk their spot on a team or reputation to bully anybody. If anything people couldn't bully because the jocks and the rest of the student body wouldn't put up with it. I went to a fairly large school. About 700 per graduating class. |
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Post by cwsims on Dec 26, 2018 3:08:36 GMT
no
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Dec 26, 2018 3:26:35 GMT
Thankfully, no.
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Dec 26, 2018 19:22:55 GMT
I was bullied. A little in grade school. A lot in Junior High. Not much at all in High School.
But I never, never, had a desire to come to school and shoot shit up. What the fuck is that? Thats just insanity. And what I really don't get is when they go in and start shooting just anyone. Why? Most of those kids didn't bully you or even knew you! Why not go after specific targets? Not that I'm recommending that in any way, but come on!
The most I ever wanted was to have an older brother that would defend me. That would've been nice.
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Post by kls on Dec 26, 2018 19:25:40 GMT
I was bullied. A little in grade school. A lot in Junior High. Not much at all in High School.
But I never, never, had a desire to come to school and shoot shit up. What the fuck is that? Thats just insanity. And what I really don't get is when they go in and start shooting just anyone. Why? Most of those kids didn't bully you or even knew you! Why not go after specific targets? Not that I'm recommending that in any way, but come on!
The most I ever wanted was to have an older brother that would defend me. That would've been nice.
I have two younger sisters. But I don't think I would have been much help defending them if they were bullied. My sister two years younger than I am was taller and heavier when she was one than I was at three. The one four years younger when she was four and I was eight. |
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Dec 26, 2018 19:25:42 GMT
Catman's bully kept it up until one night when the bully robbed a liquor store. The police showed up, there was gunfire exchanged, and he was killed. I'm fascinated! How did Catman manipulate events to arrange that? |
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Post by CynicalDreamer2 on Dec 26, 2018 21:35:12 GMT
What constitutes bullying?
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Post by Utpe on Dec 27, 2018 1:07:25 GMT
Once in a great while.
When in grammar school (or more specifically middle school), I was picked on by my classmates for wearing Payless shoes. My dad never believed a brand of a shoe should matter, as long as it's comfortable. I agreed up until it became a point where I was harassed for it. We went and bought a pair of Converses and that was that.
The only other instance I can recall was some girl kicking the back of my chair in shop class. After finally exchanging words, the teacher reassigned her a few rows down. Not really so much bullying but rather her being a nuisance. Nowadays we're actually friends on Facebook, lol.
I think being picked on is just a part of growing up. I feel bad that some people think the only solution is to come back with guns blazing. At the very least, tell your guidance counselor. They have the authority to transfer them out of the class or into some other school depending on the circumstances.
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Post by kls on Dec 27, 2018 1:08:51 GMT
Once in a great while. When in grammar school (or more specifically middle school), I was picked on by my classmates for wearing Payless shoes. My dad never believed a brand of a shoe should matter, as long as it's comfortable. I agreed up until it became a point where I was harassed for it. We went and bought a pair of Converses and that was that. The only other instance I can recall was some girl kicking the back of my chair in shop class. After finally exchanging words, the teacher reassigned her a few rows down. Not really so much bullying but rather her being a nuisance. Nowadays we're actually friends on Facebook, lol. I think being picked on is just a part of growing up. I feel bad that some people think the only solution is to come back with guns blazing. At the very least, tell your guidance counselor. They have the authority to transfer them out of the class or into some other school depending on the circumstances. I can't recall being picked on about anything that mattered to me (or by anyone who mattered to me). |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Dec 27, 2018 1:27:05 GMT
Yes, I was one of the smallest girls in school. There was no way I was not going to be bullied. I had a boy spit on me once and one of the mean girls put gum in my hair. I have a few older brothers and they taught me how to fight. Once I stood my ground, they didn't really bother me much after that. You know QueenB, it is great you had your brothers looking out for you and showing you some life skills. At that same though, fighting back can also have detrimental effects and societies rules doesn't want others assaulting each other—unless it is in a sporting context and they can profit of it. Kids I suppose though, tend to get a special compensation.
If you smack back, the bully is going to think twice about picking on you, but it is a double standard that gets promoted.
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Dec 27, 2018 1:32:38 GMT
Once in a great while. When in grammar school (or more specifically middle school), I was picked on by my classmates for wearing Payless shoes. My dad never believed a brand of a shoe should matter, as long as it's comfortable. I agreed up until it became a point where I was harassed for it. We went and bought a pair of Converses and that was that. The only other instance I can recall was some girl kicking the back of my chair in shop class. After finally exchanging words, the teacher reassigned her a few rows down. Not really so much bullying but rather her being a nuisance. Nowadays we're actually friends on Facebook, lol. I think being picked on is just a part of growing up. I feel bad that some people think the only solution is to come back with guns blazing. At the very least, tell your guidance counselor. They have the authority to transfer them out of the class or into some other school depending on the circumstances. Privileged kids just grow up spoiled and use that as a mean-spirited cast. At least your dad understood, but it just goes to show how much conditioning and emphasis is placed on brand names. My cousin's kids are into brands and get pandered to and it even becomes a big source of discussion. They have become entitled.
That girl just wanted your attention, even if she was a nuisance in her manner of getting it. At least you are still friends.
Bullying can build up resilience as well, because it is just a part of life in many facets.
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Post by movieliker on Dec 27, 2018 16:06:34 GMT
I was bullied. A little in grade school. A lot in Junior High. Not much at all in High School.
But I never, never, had a desire to come to school and shoot shit up. What the fuck is that? Thats just insanity. And what I really don't get is when they go in and start shooting just anyone. Why? Most of those kids didn't bully you or even knew you! Why not go after specific targets? Not that I'm recommending that in any way, but come on!
The most I ever wanted was to have an older brother that would defend me. That would've been nice.
I think often these kids who feel justified in "going postal" at school feel they have nothing to lose. Especially the ones who kill themselves after. Most kids who are bullied have other good things in their lives they don't want to lose. Like family, friends, interests, etc. The two who shot up Columbine apparently had nothing. Their parents were not paying attention to them. And they had no other family or friends they were close to. |
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Post by jamesbamesy on Dec 27, 2018 16:48:23 GMT
Never, thankfully.
Why’s the poll locked?
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Post by movieliker on Dec 27, 2018 16:57:04 GMT
Never, thankfully. Why’s the poll locked? I never understood that. I can see on the Sports board closing "Who will win?" after the game starts. But polls like this? I don't understand why they would ever close a poll like this. |
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Post by TheSowIsMine on Dec 27, 2018 17:17:37 GMT
I was one of the weirdo's but I was not bullied. Some people were afraid of me though.
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