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Post by ck100 on Feb 16, 2019 21:50:40 GMT
How do you feel about it? Are you someone who has, or wants, to wait until marriage for sex? Or are you someone who would have no problem with having pre-marital sex?
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Post by mslo79 on Feb 17, 2019 0:20:49 GMT
It's really simple... God forbids it prior to legitimate marriage.
but since people are people, they tend to largely ignore it nowadays.
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Post by kls on Feb 17, 2019 2:39:21 GMT
I would never feel comfortable engaging in casual sex. That's just not for me.
I don't necessarily think sex is wrong if people aren't married, but I think a couple should have real feelings that could be called love and a potential for forever/long term commitment before engaging in it.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Feb 17, 2019 2:46:19 GMT
I am fine with Pre-Marital Sex. I don`t see anything wrong with it.
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Post by No_Socks_Here on Feb 17, 2019 3:21:22 GMT
Let's face it, none of us would ever buy a car without taking it for a test drive first.
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Post by Ass_E9 on Feb 17, 2019 3:35:30 GMT
 "Kids, take it from me: Sex can wait." |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Feb 17, 2019 6:28:53 GMT
It's really simple... God forbids it prior to legitimate marriage. but since people are people, they tend to largely ignore it nowadays. God does not forbid it. It makes no reasonable sense to forbid it and that is why people are people and ignore it, because God's law is baloney. |
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Post by kls on Feb 17, 2019 6:30:37 GMT
It's really simple... God forbids it prior to legitimate marriage. but since people are people, they tend to largely ignore it nowadays. God does not forbid it. It makes no reasonable sense to forbid it and that is why people are people and ignore it, because God's law is baloney. I don't understand. If you're saying God does not forbid it why are you calling God's law baloney (as if He is forbidding it)? |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Feb 17, 2019 6:32:47 GMT
I would never feel comfortable engaging in casual sex. That's just not for me. I don't necessarily think sex is wrong if people aren't married, but I think a couple should have real feelings that could be called love and a potential for forever/long term commitment before engaging in it. Many people aren't after commitment though k. They just want the intimate pleasure of a sexual union without the living in your pocket connection that goes with partnerships. Sex is not love anyway, even if in a loving relationship. It might be perceived as an expression of love for the other person and some of that may be an aspect of it, but ultimately, for guys anyway, it is about getting ones rocks off. Women tend to be the ones that are seeking and asking for the emotional connection. |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Feb 17, 2019 6:34:08 GMT
God does not forbid it. It makes no reasonable sense to forbid it and that is why people are people and ignore it, because God's law is baloney. I don't understand. If you're saying God does not forbid it why are you calling God's law baloney (as if He is forbidding it)? It was tongue in cheek k, because God's law doesn't exist. It was a "man" made law, disguised as God's law. |
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Feb 17, 2019 6:56:15 GMT
How do you feel about it? Are you someone who has, or wants, to wait until marriage for sex? Or are you someone who would have no problem with having pre-marital sex? Pre Marital sex is an ABSOLUTE MUST!!!
How the hell else would you know how to do it?
How the hell else would you know you're compatible with your partner? How the hell else would you know if you want to be with that partner forever more? And how much of an ass would you feel like if you found out all of that SUCKED on your wedding night; AFTER you're locked in FOREVER?!!
Fuck no. The "saving my virginity until I'm married" mentality is for dummies brainwashed with outdated morality. I wont even date someone very long unless we're moving to that stage.
I can only imagine the inner distress of entire bygone generations of women after their first time on their wedding nights... "Five minutes, pain and discomfort, and that's it?!"
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Feb 17, 2019 6:58:16 GMT
It's really simple... God forbids it prior to legitimate marriage. but since people are people, they tend to largely ignore it nowadays. God does not forbid it. It makes no reasonable sense to forbid it and that is why people are people and ignore it, because God's law is baloney. And thank god we agree on something! |
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Feb 17, 2019 6:59:38 GMT
I don't understand. If you're saying God does not forbid it why are you calling God's law baloney (as if He is forbidding it)? It was tongue in cheek k, because God's law doesn't exist. It was a "man" made law, disguised as God's law. OH SHIT! And we keep agreeing! Hallelujah! |
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Post by kls on Feb 17, 2019 7:06:31 GMT
How do you feel about it? Are you someone who has, or wants, to wait until marriage for sex? Or are you someone who would have no problem with having pre-marital sex? Pre Marital sex is an ABSOLUTE MUST!!!
How the hell else would you know how to do it?
How the hell else would you know you're compatible with your partner? How the hell else would you know if you want to be with that partner forever more? And how much of an ass would you feel like if you found out all of that SUCKED on your wedding night; AFTER you're locked in FOREVER?!!
Fuck no. The "saving my virginity until I'm married" mentality is for dummies brainwashed with outdated morality. I wont even date someone very long unless we're moving to that stage.
I can only imagine the inner distress of entire bygone generations of women after their first time on their wedding nights... "Five minutes, pain and discomfort, and that's it?!"
I'm really not so sure a ho hum first time with someone means you could never be compatible. Communication about what you both like would probably mean an enjoyable sex life with time and more experience with each other (if the relationship is otherwise worth it and the couple pays enough attention to learn). |
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Feb 17, 2019 7:15:07 GMT
Pre Marital sex is an ABSOLUTE MUST!!!
How the hell else would you know how to do it?
How the hell else would you know you're compatible with your partner? How the hell else would you know if you want to be with that partner forever more? And how much of an ass would you feel like if you found out all of that SUCKED on your wedding night; AFTER you're locked in FOREVER?!!
Fuck no. The "saving my virginity until I'm married" mentality is for dummies brainwashed with outdated morality. I wont even date someone very long unless we're moving to that stage.
I can only imagine the inner distress of entire bygone generations of women after their first time on their wedding nights... "Five minutes, pain and discomfort, and that's it?!"
I'm really not so sure a ho hum first time with someone means you could never be compatible. Communication about what you both like would probably mean an enjoyable sex life with time and more experience with each other (if the relationship is otherwise worth it and the couple pays enough attention to learn). But if you ultimately decide you're not compatible... TOOO BAAADDD!!!! You're already married!!! Now DEATH has to do you part. Enjoy!
And as to your other point about "casual" sex... There's nothing casual about it. I take sex absolutely 100% seriously. Questions asked, condoms used, feelings explored, and plans to see you again made. I never said one should be a slut.
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Post by kls on Feb 17, 2019 7:18:29 GMT
I'm really not so sure a ho hum first time with someone means you could never be compatible. Communication about what you both like would probably mean an enjoyable sex life with time and more experience with each other (if the relationship is otherwise worth it and the couple pays enough attention to learn). But if you ultimately decide you're not compatible... TOOO BAAADDD!!!! You're already married!!! Now DEATH has to do you part. Enjoy!
And as to your other point about "casual" sex... There's nothing casual about it. I take sex absolutely 100% seriously. Questions asked, condoms used, feelings explored, and plans to see you again made. I never said one should be a slut.
But I never called anybody a slut. What works for me works for me. What works for others they can go with. |
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Post by gameboy on Feb 17, 2019 7:31:23 GMT
I'm gay. What do you call getting a blow job in a public toilet? That's not pre-marital because I have no intentions of getting married and I frankly don't believe two males can marry even if the government pretends they can.
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Post by Nora on Feb 17, 2019 8:58:02 GMT
I see marriage as a largely technical social
construct that doesnt really serve the function it had originally (when women has limited rights and freedoms and very deminished value if unmarried)
so in my ideal world marriage wouldnt really exist or matter so sex before or after question wouldnt matter.
in this world - yes by all means engage in sex before marriage and see what you like and if you really click with that person on physical level as well as ok emotional
one. those two can be very different.
all you need to know is - you might be with that person for a very long time, it would be nice if you liked having sex with them. and its Not guaranteed just because u like them as friends or companions.
i would also strongly recommend sleeping with more than one person before getting married.
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Feb 17, 2019 11:04:46 GMT
It was tongue in cheek k, because God's law doesn't exist. It was a "man" made law, disguised as God's law. OH SHIT! And we keep agreeing! Hallelujah! Have we ever really been in disagreement much lenlen? It is healthy anyway to have some healthy discourse. At any rate, try before you buy I say...  |
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Feb 17, 2019 11:15:42 GMT
I'm gay. What do you call getting a blow job in a public toilet? That's not pre-marital because I have no intentions of getting married and I frankly don't believe two males can marry even if the government pretends they can. Two males can marry, because the government says they can. End Of Story here gamey!
Yes, that is a good point about pre-marital sex, because what is it really? Does it only become pre-marital sex when one gets engaged, which means plans to marry? Before the engagement, any sex isn't really pre-marital then, because where is the intention within the relationship to get married?
Pre-marital sex term is outdated and phony baloney, just like God's so called law regarding it, and uptight Christians are too caught up in their deluded and distorted morals to see the logic and basic need behind people just wanting to f<>k because they want to. Religious undertones have nothing to do with sex.
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