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Post by mortsahlfan on Jun 5, 2019 18:44:02 GMT
Many start threads asking for a certain type of movie. If you suggest something, would you rather hear the movie was awful, or would you rather not hear about it and hope the person who just saw the movie you recommended kept it to themselves?
EDIT: Also, does that make you think lesser of THEIR recommendations. Such as, "Well if he/she hates what I love, maybe I won't love what they love?"
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Post by Deleted on Jun 5, 2019 18:53:32 GMT
Many start threads asking for a certain type of movie. If you suggest something, would you rather hear the movie was awful, or would you rather not hear about it and hope the person who just saw the movie you recommended kept it to themselves? I remember being 17 and getting 'Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring" on DVD in 2003. We just bought a DVD player. I used to sit through these crappy romance movies with my mom as a kid because my dad refused to watch them and I felt sorry for her. Mainly I guess to give us something to do and spend time together. So anyway, after I got the LOTR DVD, I asked her to watch it with me. We got all the way to the part where Ganfalf says "YOU SHALL NOT PASS" I could tell she was bored. She finally says, "Is this the ending?" and I was like "no, there's more." She rolled her eyes and looked like she could bite a nail in half. I said, "if you don't like it, I'm not forcing you to finish it" she said, "thank you. I can't take any more." I'll never forget that moment. I tell you one thing, I never say through a POS romance movie with her again. After that there have been many times a friend or my wife have hated films I love, I am old enough to "get" it, I know they have different personalities, but for some reason that stuck out to me because as a parent now, if I knew my kid watched all the films I love just to spend time with me, not really caring about the movie, I'd pretend I loved the hell out of whatever he wants me to watch. Or at the very least finish it, then say, "it's not my thing, but it's good. I see why you like it." |
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Post by anthonyrocks on Jun 5, 2019 18:55:02 GMT
Many start threads asking for a certain type of movie. If you suggest something, would you rather hear the movie was awful, or would you rather not hear about it and hope the person who just saw the movie you recommended kept it to themselves? Well it really depends on the person that answers.
I mean I myself would always prefer to hear the truth instead of having somebody tell you just what you want to hear.
That way if there really is indeed anything bad with your Movie Suggestions or Ideas then you can just simply ask them (anybody who complains) what about it they do not like and then you can look at your idea again (if it is just 1 person that doesn't like your idea then you can just simply accept it and keep going but if it is multiple people then you can go back and look at your idea again) and see if there is a way you can adapt it to where people would indeed like it and also in a way that is perfectly okay with you yourself as well.
But that is just how I myself would handle it if it happened to me and again it really on depends on the type of person that answers and whether they would tell you the truth or just tell you what they think you would want to hear.
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Post by mslo79 on Jun 5, 2019 19:14:51 GMT
I guess we all want to have people like roughly what we like so we have something in common with them. but obviously, that won't always be the case as some people can be quite opposites not only with movies but stuff in general. but I think when it comes to movies, while many around here could make a case and say I dis plenty of movies(since I give nearly 80% of everything I have seen a Thumbs Down(although I will say most of what I have seen was at least decent enough not to have wasted my time)), I tend to see it more as not that many movies are worth mentioning is all and my scores on movies tend to reflect that. also, while I realize we all like what we all like, I tend to feel my taste in movies is probably not much different from plenty of others out there as some peoples taste in movies starts to get too far away from the common person and in cases like that, their opinion would be worth less to most people and in this regard I feel I do better than a fair amount of others out there. but even if your mostly on the same page as someone else, you can't please everyone as unless someone is easily pleased with movies they will almost certainly disagree with each other at least here and there. but anyways... I usually don't really suggest movies on those topics because it's hard to be a bit more precise and guess what that person might like as I would rather give someone a list of movies that I think stand out from the pack and let that person decide if they will watch them or not. just some random thoughts  p.s. my general Thumbs Up or Thumbs Down status of a movie boils down to whether it's worth re-watching here and there or not. so in this regard nearly 80% of everything I have seen is not worth re-watching. although like I said above, I would say most of what I have seen is decent enough not to have wasted my time.
I completely agree.
because while I won't like it, I would rather hear that then some lie just to make me feel better. basically I would generally respect the person more for telling the truth then lying just to tell me what I want to hear.
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I would disagree a bit there because while spending time with them is cool and all, what your doing is basically a lie by faking you like it. I know the kid will probably want you to like it, but I just can't see faking it, especially if your having a hard time getting through the movie. because if they later find out you faked it, that might make them more upset over it than if you where honest in the first place.
because if it was at least watchable for you and they are getting into it, that would make the general situation better for everyone as a whole as then you can at least semi like what they like instead of near total opposite level.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 5, 2019 19:27:28 GMT
I guess we all want to have people like roughly what we like so we have something in common with them. but obviously, that won't always be the case as some people can be quite opposites not only with movies but stuff in general. but I think when it comes to movies, while many around here could make a case and say I dis plenty of movies(since I give nearly 80% of everything I have seen a Thumbs Down(although I will say most of what I have seen was at least decent enough not to have wasted my time)), I tend to see it more as not that many movies are worth mentioning is all and my scores on movies tend to reflect that. also, while I realize we all like what we all like, I tend to feel my taste in movies is probably not much different from plenty of others out there as some peoples taste in movies starts to get too far away from the common person and in cases like that, their opinion would be worth less to most people and in this regard I feel I do better than a fair amount of others out there. but even if your mostly on the same page as someone else, you can't please everyone as unless someone is easily pleased with movies they will almost certainly disagree with each other at least here and there. but anyways... I usually don't really suggest movies on those topics because it's hard to be a bit more precise and guess what that person might like as I would rather give someone a list of movies that I think stand out from the pack and let that person decide if they will watch them or not. just some random thoughts p.s. my general Thumbs Up or Thumbs Down status of a movie boils down to whether it's worth re-watching here and there or not. so in this regard nearly 80% of everything I have seen is not worth re-watching. although like I said above, I would say most of what I have seen is decent enough not to have wasted my time.
I completely agree.
because while I won't like it, I would rather hear that then some lie just to make me feel better.
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I would disagree a bit there because while spending time with them is cool and all, what your doing is basically a lie by faking you like it. I know the kid will probably want you to like it, but I just can't see faking it, especially if your having a hard time getting through the movie. because if they later find out you faked it, that might make them more upset over it than if you where honest in the first place.
because if it was at least watchable for you and they are getting into it, that would make the general situation better for everyone as a whole as then you can at least semi like what they like instead of near total opposite level.
I didnt mean fake like it. I meant saying "it's not my thing, but I understand why you and others would. It's good, but not my taste." |
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Post by moviebuffbrad on Jun 5, 2019 19:34:41 GMT
It's disappointing but I appreciate the honesty. I had a friend who would say he liked everything I recommended, including supposedly the first two LOTR movies, but for a year couldn't bring himself to watch ROTK. "It's long so I need to find the time". Bitch, you stream 5 hours of TV a day.
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Post by mslo79 on Jun 5, 2019 19:35:01 GMT
@thegodfather
Yeah, but you sort of said a couple of conflicting things, which are...
"I'd pretend I loved the hell out of whatever he wants me to watch."
but then went on to say...
"Or at the very least finish it, then say, "it's not my thing, but it's good. I see why you like it.""
I can basically agree with your 2nd choice here as it's sort of semi sugar coating things a bit for the kid (since it's more of a neutral comment instead of a flat out dis of what the kid liked) where as the first answer is basically faking it which I would rather avoid.
but I guess I say it's a bit sugar-coated because you don't really like it so it's not really that good for you and seems a bit fake to say it's good etc. but I guess I can't fault you for saying that too much since, at least with half way decent name movies, it would be true in saying it would be good for quite a few others.
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Post by Marv on Jun 5, 2019 19:37:20 GMT
Disappointed that we couldn't both share in the same joys...but not personally hurt or anything. Different folks for different strokes. I do think it's a little more disappointing if you feel like you know the persons tastes well and you still miss the mark.
Thing about it is tho...everything from being tired to having a bad day couldve made them not enjoy that film. Doesn't always mean they wouldn't like it if they had a rewatch. Ive had bad moods spoil movies for others more than almost anything else. Bad moods and cell phone attention spans.
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Post by Ass_E9 on Jun 5, 2019 19:41:12 GMT
It wouldn't feel great, but OK as long as it's the movie that's being criticized and not a personal attack.
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Post by vegalyra on Jun 5, 2019 20:59:43 GMT
I remember a guy I used to work with in the early '00s said that Saving Private Ryan was his favorite war film. I suggested The Thin Red Line. He watched it and said he couldn't finish it because it was too "talky". I quit recommending films after that to co-workers. None of the people I work with are big movie "buffs" though. I was later in a conversation with someone about some of the best actors of all time and when I mentioned Bogart it was like I was talking to a stuffed animal. The guy seriously didn't know who I was referring to. All of his favorites were actors from the '80s and up. It's a pain working with people that have very little background in film.
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Post by sdrew13163 on Jun 5, 2019 21:36:40 GMT
I hope they like it, but if not it doesn’t hurt my feelings or anything. It’s when they openly disrespect my recommendation and sit on their phone or moan and groan through the whole thing.
My closest friend got a new sound system shortly after Blade Runner 2049 came out on Blu-Ray, and he hadn’t seen it yet, so I brought my copy over to his house and we blasted that movie as comfortably high as possible and yet he still just sat on his phone. Then by the end of the movie he said it was just okay because he had no idea what the ending meant. That makes me mad. Honest criticism is more than fine with me; ignoring the movie and then claiming it’s not good is not.
And just as a word of warning, never recommend any of S. Craig Zahler’s movies to anyone. I love his work and I don’t know how you can be immune to the charms of a movie called Brawl in Cell Block 99, but I almost lost friends over that recommendation. No joke.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Jun 5, 2019 21:40:19 GMT
I don`t care if people hate a movie i like.
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Post by kingkoopa on Jun 5, 2019 21:50:16 GMT
It's funny that LOTR has popped up. I, as a boy who loved reading "The Hobbit", have still yet to make it through a Peter Jackson LOTR movie. Just like the books, the details (while splendid) tire me out. I was in college for "Return of the King." My then-girlfriend asked me to go to it with her. I tried to tell her to invite her friends who were into it, because I was probably going to fall asleep. She insisted. I fell asleep. She was used to punching me in the shoulder when I was being a dick. Bummer for me was that I fell asleep on my shoulder. She went to punch that and nailed me square in the face.
She felt terrible and I said it'd be water under the bridge if I got to pick the next home rental (we were living together). I settled on "Robocop" (as it is a legitimately good movie that I thought she'd never have seen otherwise). She enjoyed it, but as a flaboyant reactor to graphic stuff, she elbowed me accidentally during the toxic waste guy's entrance and broke my nose.
Our next rental, which I absolutely earned from that, was "What About Bob?" which to this day is still one of my favorite comedies. I sufferred no injuries, thankfully.
To each their own. I'd have missed out on a lot of good movies if I relied solely on my own tastes.
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jun 5, 2019 21:57:32 GMT
Not sure if I had that experience yet, but sometimes when I hear someone say a movie they don’t like and I do, all power to them. Just as long as they don’t use insults directed at anybody who does like that particular movie.
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Post by mortsahlfan on Jun 5, 2019 22:13:55 GMT
It's disappointing but I appreciate the honesty. I had a friend who would say he liked everything I recommended, including supposedly the first two LOTR movies, but for a year couldn't bring himself to watch ROTK. "It's long so I need to find the time". Bitch, you stream 5 hours of TV a day. LOL... Reminds me of a time my cousin was saying how much he loved prison/isolation movies, so I went to describe bit-by-bit "The Birdman of Alcatraz" and every new sentence, he was more and more intrigued, so instead of downloading it (and having to wait a short while), I put $5 down on his table to order it from the remote control. 2 seconds after it starts, he has a look of horror in his face..
"Is this black and white?" and when I said yes, that was it for him......... After that, I took my laptop into the kitchen as he watched "Pineapple Express" TWO FUCKING TIMES back to back! And he laughed BOTH times!
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Post by moviemouth on Jun 5, 2019 23:31:02 GMT
My reaction is just disappointment that they didn't enjoy it.
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Post by moviemouth on Jun 5, 2019 23:33:50 GMT
It's disappointing but I appreciate the honesty. I had a friend who would say he liked everything I recommended, including supposedly the first two LOTR movies, but for a year couldn't bring himself to watch ROTK. "It's long so I need to find the time". Bitch, you stream 5 hours of TV a day. This^^^ LOL at your friend though.
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Post by TheSowIsMine on Jun 6, 2019 0:03:15 GMT
I don't care.
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Post by politicidal on Jun 6, 2019 0:23:47 GMT
Try to watch everything once I say. *pause* with some exceptions.
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Post by sdrew13163 on Jun 6, 2019 0:26:03 GMT
It's funny that LOTR has popped up. I, as a boy who loved reading "The Hobbit", have still yet to make it through a Peter Jackson LOTR movie. Just like the books, the details (while splendid) tire me out. I was in college for "Return of the King." My then-girlfriend asked me to go to it with her. I tried to tell her to invite her friends who were into it, because I was probably going to fall asleep. She insisted. I fell asleep. She was used to punching me in the shoulder when I was being a dick. Bummer for me was that I fell asleep on my shoulder. She went to punch that and nailed me square in the face. She felt terrible and I said it'd be water under the bridge if I got to pick the next home rental (we were living together). I settled on "Robocop" (as it is a legitimately good movie that I thought she'd never have seen otherwise). She enjoyed it, but as a flaboyant reactor to graphic stuff, she elbowed me accidentally during the toxic waste guy's entrance and broke my nose. Our next rental, which I absolutely earned from that, was "What About Bob?" which to this day is still one of my favorite comedies. I sufferred no injuries, thankfully. To each their own. I'd have missed out on a lot of good movies if I relied solely on my own tastes. Your girlfriend was strong as fuck |
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