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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2019 19:22:54 GMT
Yes, and it sucks. Karma is a bi***.
When I was 24 years old (I got married young), I was married, wife was pregnant. When she found out she was pregnant she said, "I can't do this, I'm scared. What are our options?" I said, "Options? What the hell are you talking about? We are married. Our option is to have a kid/family." So she was MISERABLE the whole pregnancy.
I confided in a coworker, she was 32 at the time. Older. She had a bad marriage to an older man. I think she was looking for something. Anyway, I enjoyed her. I wasn't 'in love' with her, but I liked the way she flirted with me and made me feel. So I kept leading her on. Eventually we started having an affair. All the time. As much as we could. Well, she told me she loved me, and wanted to leave her husband for me. She told me how she was in love with some musician when she was young and broke it off and said she regretted it and married this guy for stability. She thought I was her second chance at 'true love' not just 'stability'. We had one more session together in her marital bedroom. I got a new job and I promised her I'd call her the next day to meet up. I used that as my 'out'. I didn't break it off, I didn't man up and tell her the truth, I just didn't contact her anymore. In the end, I think I was just pissed my wife was miserable in her pregnancy and contemplated an abortion. It doesn't make it right what I did to the 32 year old's feelings.
Then one of my best friends (which was a girl) used to have a 'flirty' relationship. We never crossed the line. I wanted to, but I didn't want to ruin what we had. I think she felt the same way. She ends up getting married to this guy who has hardly any family or friends. He asks me to be the BEST MAN at his wedding because we all hung out so much he really liked me. Trusted me. Well, one day I just come out and tell her my feelings. She tells me the whole time she walked down the aisle at her wedding she was wishing it were me she was marrying, not the guy she was actually marrying. We started having a passionate affair. I had real feelings for her. We would talk about leaving our spouses and being together. He even got really suspicious and when we were drinking at a bar he asked if I was having an affair with his wife, I told him no. He literally ONLY had her. Nothing else. I felt bad. Well, one day she was supposed to meet up with me at her house and she texts me to say, "I no longer need or want this relationship anymore. Respect my wishes and leave us alone." I tried to call her, but I think she blocked my number. I didn't hear from her or see her for a year. I did what she asked. Well, one day I 'reactivated' my Facebook (I deleted it after she broke us off, so I never unfriended her). When I reactivated it she had pictures on her profile. They had a baby. I started doing the math. She had to conceive the baby near the last time we 'got together'. We talk every now and then through a private email. The baby isn't mine, but at the time she thought "What if it was" and she realized how selfish it would have been for her to leave her husband. He has nobody. I'd give anything to take it all back and just go back to being friends. I'd rather have her in my life than not at all.
To this day I feel sick about that relationship. I couldn't and can't be with her. It eats me up. I think it eats her up too. But I feel like it's Karma for what I did to the 32 year old. To feel this way YEARS after it took place. I still have strong feelings for her. I feel guilty for my wife too.
Life and Love are a complicated thing. You can passionately love someone, and some people you can care deeply for. There is a difference. wow...thanks for sharing....
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 9, 2019 19:46:06 GMT
Yes, and it sucks. Karma is a bi***.
When I was 24 years old (I got married young), I was married, wife was pregnant. When she found out she was pregnant she said, "I can't do this, I'm scared. What are our options?" I said, "Options? What the hell are you talking about? We are married. Our option is to have a kid/family." So she was MISERABLE the whole pregnancy.
I confided in a coworker, she was 32 at the time. Older. She had a bad marriage to an older man. I think she was looking for something. Anyway, I enjoyed her. I wasn't 'in love' with her, but I liked the way she flirted with me and made me feel. So I kept leading her on. Eventually we started having an affair. All the time. As much as we could. Well, she told me she loved me, and wanted to leave her husband for me. She told me how she was in love with some musician when she was young and broke it off and said she regretted it and married this guy for stability. She thought I was her second chance at 'true love' not just 'stability'. We had one more session together in her marital bedroom. I got a new job and I promised her I'd call her the next day to meet up. I used that as my 'out'. I didn't break it off, I didn't man up and tell her the truth, I just didn't contact her anymore. In the end, I think I was just pissed my wife was miserable in her pregnancy and contemplated an abortion. It doesn't make it right what I did to the 32 year old's feelings.
Then one of my best friends (which was a girl) used to have a 'flirty' relationship. We never crossed the line. I wanted to, but I didn't want to ruin what we had. I think she felt the same way. She ends up getting married to this guy who has hardly any family or friends. He asks me to be the BEST MAN at his wedding because we all hung out so much he really liked me. Trusted me. Well, one day I just come out and tell her my feelings. She tells me the whole time she walked down the aisle at her wedding she was wishing it were me she was marrying, not the guy she was actually marrying. We started having a passionate affair. I had real feelings for her. We would talk about leaving our spouses and being together. He even got really suspicious and when we were drinking at a bar he asked if I was having an affair with his wife, I told him no. He literally ONLY had her. Nothing else. I felt bad. Well, one day she was supposed to meet up with me at her house and she texts me to say, "I no longer need or want this relationship anymore. Respect my wishes and leave us alone." I tried to call her, but I think she blocked my number. I didn't hear from her or see her for a year. I did what she asked. Well, one day I 'reactivated' my Facebook (I deleted it after she broke us off, so I never unfriended her). When I reactivated it she had pictures on her profile. They had a baby. I started doing the math. She had to conceive the baby near the last time we 'got together'. We talk every now and then through a private email. The baby isn't mine, but at the time she thought "What if it was" and she realized how selfish it would have been for her to leave her husband. He has nobody. I'd give anything to take it all back and just go back to being friends. I'd rather have her in my life than not at all.
To this day I feel sick about that relationship. I couldn't and can't be with her. It eats me up. I think it eats her up too. But I feel like it's Karma for what I did to the 32 year old. To feel this way YEARS after it took place. I still have strong feelings for her. I feel guilty for my wife too.
Life and Love are a complicated thing. You can passionately love someone, and some people you can care deeply for. There is a difference. wow...thanks for sharing.... Be nice cheetah, he poured his heart out to us. Nothing wrong with that. So enough with the sarcasm bitch
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Post by poelzig on Jun 9, 2019 19:59:50 GMT
Yep. I had it happen with a girl I worked with. She started on a different shift and I'd see her as I was coming into work, and I thought she was cute. She ended up coming to my shift and every once in a while we would be put on the same job together. I became smitten pretty quickly. The only problem was that she wasn't single and they had a child together. It was hell. I think she was somewhat interested as well just from the vibe that I got when we talked and when we worked in the same vicinity I would catch her looking at me. But after a year or so our company downsized and she was let go. We remained in contact for around a year after that through social media. She followed my band on Instagram and we sent messages to one another. But it stopped last June. I've thought about sending her a message from time to time, but I feel that I'm finally over it, and any further contact would put me right back at square one. I did write a song about it though and it appeared on our last CD, so I guess something positive came out of it. Whats your band called?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2019 20:05:23 GMT
wow...thanks for sharing.... Be nice cheetah, he poured his heart out to us. Nothing wrong with that. So enough with the sarcasm bitch i am being nice....which is more than i can say for you...
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Post by poelzig on Jun 9, 2019 20:06:21 GMT
I know you're hurting but I explained to you already I love my girlfriend.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2019 20:09:21 GMT
I know you're hurting but I explained to you already I love my girlfriend. i'll try to pick up the pieces and move on with my life...
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Post by poelzig on Jun 9, 2019 21:18:39 GMT
Yes, and it sucks. Karma is a bi***.
When I was 24 years old (I got married young), I was married, wife was pregnant. When she found out she was pregnant she said, "I can't do this, I'm scared. What are our options?" I said, "Options? What the hell are you talking about? We are married. Our option is to have a kid/family." So she was MISERABLE the whole pregnancy.
I confided in a coworker, she was 32 at the time. Older. She had a bad marriage to an older man. I think she was looking for something. Anyway, I enjoyed her. I wasn't 'in love' with her, but I liked the way she flirted with me and made me feel. So I kept leading her on. Eventually we started having an affair. All the time. As much as we could. Well, she told me she loved me, and wanted to leave her husband for me. She told me how she was in love with some musician when she was young and broke it off and said she regretted it and married this guy for stability. She thought I was her second chance at 'true love' not just 'stability'. We had one more session together in her marital bedroom. I got a new job and I promised her I'd call her the next day to meet up. I used that as my 'out'. I didn't break it off, I didn't man up and tell her the truth, I just didn't contact her anymore. In the end, I think I was just pissed my wife was miserable in her pregnancy and contemplated an abortion. It doesn't make it right what I did to the 32 year old's feelings.
Then one of my best friends (which was a girl) used to have a 'flirty' relationship. We never crossed the line. I wanted to, but I didn't want to ruin what we had. I think she felt the same way. She ends up getting married to this guy who has hardly any family or friends. He asks me to be the BEST MAN at his wedding because we all hung out so much he really liked me. Trusted me. Well, one day I just come out and tell her my feelings. She tells me the whole time she walked down the aisle at her wedding she was wishing it were me she was marrying, not the guy she was actually marrying. We started having a passionate affair. I had real feelings for her. We would talk about leaving our spouses and being together. He even got really suspicious and when we were drinking at a bar he asked if I was having an affair with his wife, I told him no. He literally ONLY had her. Nothing else. I felt bad. Well, one day she was supposed to meet up with me at her house and she texts me to say, "I no longer need or want this relationship anymore. Respect my wishes and leave us alone." I tried to call her, but I think she blocked my number. I didn't hear from her or see her for a year. I did what she asked. Well, one day I 'reactivated' my Facebook (I deleted it after she broke us off, so I never unfriended her). When I reactivated it she had pictures on her profile. They had a baby. I started doing the math. She had to conceive the baby near the last time we 'got together'. We talk every now and then through a private email. The baby isn't mine, but at the time she thought "What if it was" and she realized how selfish it would have been for her to leave her husband. He has nobody. I'd give anything to take it all back and just go back to being friends. I'd rather have her in my life than not at all.
To this day I feel sick about that relationship. I couldn't and can't be with her. It eats me up. I think it eats her up too. But I feel like it's Karma for what I did to the 32 year old. To feel this way YEARS after it took place. I still have strong feelings for her. I feel guilty for my wife too.
Life and Love are a complicated thing. You can passionately love someone, and some people you can care deeply for. There is a difference. have you eber thought about reaching out to the 32 year old and apologizig for what you did and they way you did it. It might give her or actually botj of you some closure and relief. Apologize to HER?!!!! What the fuck?!!! He needs to apologize to both of those husbands as well as his wife. Those poor husbands are stuck with low life whores and should know that. That first woman took advantage of him when he was in a vulnerable position. She was older and knew he was upset and she seduced him. She also admitted she married some poor guy just so someone would support her. She is not a good person, She deserves any and all turmoil she has. At least the second ho bag came to her senses and ended their relationship. The Don wasn't innocent in any of this either but I can give him a semi pass on the first adulterous relationship. His wife considered aborting their kid which obviously was not something he felt was right. Religious reasons? Catholic maybe? He's obviously a player so it was a mistake for him to ever get married. Working on that is more important than cheering up some old ho that seduced a young guy with a baby on the way. She deserved to be tossed away like garbage because she is garbage. Screwing around when you're not married is one thing but once you marry someone and you screw around you're kind of a shitty person. No offense to Godfather. I like the guy okay as far as liking an anonymous person who could easily just be making up a bunch of stuff goes but if any of that is true he is a bad husband and father. Hell he's a bad person in general if it's true. What kind of douchebag fucks a guys wife when the guy thinks the douchebag is his friend? The lowest and douchiest of douchebags. Granted many women are scandalous tramps who will fuck a guy JUST because he is in a relationship. You seem like you know all about that. However, Godfather needs to come clean with his family and get his life right or divorce his wife. Then again he might just be making this stuff up to amuse himself and others. 50/50 either way since this is the interwebs yo.
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Post by hi224 on Jun 9, 2019 21:31:07 GMT
have you eber thought about reaching out to the 32 year old and apologizig for what you did and they way you did it. It might give her or actually botj of you some closure and relief. Apologize to HER?!!!! What the fuck?!!! He needs to apologize to both of those husbands as well as his wife. Those poor husbands are stuck with low life whores and should know that. That first woman took advantage of him when he was in a vulnerable position. She was older and knew he was upset and she seduced him. She also admitted she married some poor guy just so someone would support her. She is not a good person, She deserves any and all turmoil she has. At least the second ho bag came to her senses and ended their relationship. The Don wasn't innocent in any of this either but I can give him a semi pass on the first adulterous relationship. His wife considered aborting their kid which obviously was not something he felt was right. Religious reasons? Catholic maybe? He's obviously a player so it was a mistake for him to ever get married. Working on that is more important than cheering up some old ho that seduced a young guy with a baby on the way. She deserved to be tossed away like garbage because she is garbage. Screwing around when you're not married is one thing but once you marry someone and you screw around you're kind of a shitty person. No offense to Godfather. I like the guy okay as far as liking an anonymous person who could easily just be making up a bunch of stuff goes but if any of that is true he is a bad husband and father. Hell he's a bad person in general if it's true. What kind of douchebag fucks a guys wife when the guy thinks the douchebag is his friend? The lowest and douchiest of douchebags. Granted many women are scandalous tramps who will fuck a guy JUST because he is in a relationship. You seem like you know all about that. However, Godfather needs to come clean with his family and get his life right or divorce his wife. Then again he might just be making this stuff up to amuse himself and others. 50/50 either way since this is the interwebs yo. lol this thread got funny very quickly.
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Post by mecano04 on Jun 9, 2019 21:31:15 GMT
It may not go as far as "fall" but yeah it happened. Two examples from the top of my mind are situations that lasted just mere seconds. The first one was in the subway. I was getting out of the wagon and on my way down the hall to another line and there was that woman coming in the opposite direction. Somehow our eyes made contact and locked. Her expression changed completely, brightening up. We kept eye contact while still walking in the directions we were headed. My expression must have changed too but the thing is, there was that spark in her eyes for a moment then it disappeared abruptly just about the time we actually crossed each other. It was then we kinda both realized it could be possible but it might be a stretch. I'm usually dressed in "classic" style while she was more like girl on the right: It's not that it couldn't have happened but from our respective style, it was kinda obvious we weren't living, or looking for, the same life. That spark appeared and vanished in about 10 seconds. I'm still fascinated how it happened in a few seconds while no words were said and only the facial expressions and the eyes said it all. The second situation was when I was walking on a boulevard last summer. I was walking in the downtown and passing in front of the luxury stores, on my way to visit a museum. Has I walked, from the corner of my eyes, I saw movement on my left and turned my head only to see an elegantly dressed woman come out of a store and we looked at each other for a brief moment. She made me a friendly smile and I returned it but then I noticed what she was holding in her hands. She was carrying two, yes two, filled Hermès ( www.hermes.com/ca/en/) bags. One would be have been like "OK, she has more money but we can still probably get a similar life" while two bags was like "OK, we're not even on the same planet". For those curious, Hermès bags are like this: But those she was holding were white with gold lettering and ropes. Everything I had on me, both clothes and what I had in my pockets, must have been worth maybe the price of just one of those bags. Forget what was inside! It's not that I was dressed poorly but I just can't follow that rhythm of life. Otherwise, there was also a time where I just couldn't offer the woman (I was gonna say girl but we were both in our thirties) the life she wanted. Nice girl but she always lived with a dog and want one. I'm allergic to the point where about 30 minutes in a house with one, I begin to empty Kleenex boxes because my nose is leaking like a broken pipe and my yes are red and itchy. I don't need an EpiPen but I'm making sure the anti-allergy pills factories stay in business. Well that was the first thing that couldn't work. Second one was travels. She can't live without traveling. Last year, my ear drums got ruptured even more with the pressure change during airplane travel. I already have Tinnitus since childhood because of ear damage (chronic otitis,the doctor seeing holes and describing my eardrums as battlefields). In other words, traveling by plane isn't an option anymore for me. Boat is something possible but the length of the travel doesn't fit our careers. Third, she wants children and it's a big no for me. While she is a sweet girl I had no right or desire to prevent her from getting and living the life she want. So that wasn't gonna happen with me.
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Post by ant-mac on Jun 9, 2019 21:52:43 GMT
Absolutely. There's nothing quite so exquisitely torturous as an unavailable or unrequited love...
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Post by Nora on Jun 9, 2019 22:14:15 GMT
Apologize to HER?!!!! What the fuck?!!! He needs to apologize to both of those husbands as well as his wife. Those poor husbands are stuck with low life whores and should know that. That first woman took advantage of him when he was in a vulnerable position. She was older and knew he was upset and she seduced him. She also admitted she married some poor guy just so someone would support her. She is not a good person, She deserves any and all turmoil she has. At least the second ho bag came to her senses and ended their relationship. The Don wasn't innocent in any of this either but I can give him a semi pass on the first adulterous relationship. His wife considered aborting their kid which obviously was not something he felt was right. Religious reasons? Catholic maybe? He's obviously a player so it was a mistake for him to ever get married. Working on that is more important than cheering up some old ho that seduced a young guy with a baby on the way. She deserved to be tossed away like garbage because she is garbage. Screwing around when you're not married is one thing but once you marry someone and you screw around you're kind of a shitty person. No offense to Godfather. I like the guy okay as far as liking an anonymous person who could easily just be making up a bunch of stuff goes but if any of that is true he is a bad husband and father. Hell he's a bad person in general if it's true. What kind of douchebag fucks a guys wife when the guy thinks the douchebag is his friend? The lowest and douchiest of douchebags. Granted many women are scandalous tramps who will fuck a guy JUST because he is in a relationship. You seem like you know all about that. However, Godfather needs to come clean with his family and get his life right or divorce his wife. Then again he might just be making this stuff up to amuse himself and others. 50/50 either way since this is the interwebs yo. lol this thread got funny very quickly. yeah thats poelzig for ya, he is a funny bloke.
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Post by hi224 on Jun 9, 2019 22:22:27 GMT
lol this thread got funny very quickly. yeah thats poelzig for ya, he is a funny bloke. with controversy for ages
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2019 22:36:59 GMT
[/quote]Apologize to HER?!!!! What the fuck?!!! He needs to apologize to both of those husbands as well as his wife. Those poor husbands are stuck with low life whores and should know that. That first woman took advantage of him when he was in a vulnerable position. She was older and knew he was upset and she seduced him. She also admitted she married some poor guy just so someone would support her. She is not a good person, She deserves any and all turmoil she has. At least the second ho bag came to her senses and ended their relationship. The Don wasn't innocent in any of this either but I can give him a semi pass on the first adulterous relationship. His wife considered aborting their kid which obviously was not something he felt was right. Religious reasons? Catholic maybe? He's obviously a player so it was a mistake for him to ever get married. Working on that is more important than cheering up some old ho that seduced a young guy with a baby on the way. She deserved to be tossed away like garbage because she is garbage.
Screwing around when you're not married is one thing but once you marry someone and you screw around you're kind of a shitty person. No offense to Godfather. I like the guy okay as far as liking an anonymous person who could easily just be making up a bunch of stuff goes but if any of that is true he is a bad husband and father. Hell he's a bad person in general if it's true. What kind of douchebag fucks a guys wife when the guy thinks the douchebag is his friend? The lowest and douchiest of douchebags. Granted many women are scandalous tramps who will fuck a guy JUST because he is in a relationship. You seem like you know all about that. However, Godfather needs to come clean with his family and get his life right or divorce his wife.
Then again he might just be making this stuff up to amuse himself and others. 50/50 either way since this is the interwebs yo.
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You're right. I did tell my wife about three years ago. We worked through it. I'm proud to say that's not me anymore.
We are in a good place and I spend most of my time with my son. Glad I didn't mess it up and have to be a part time dad.
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Post by Sandman on Jun 10, 2019 16:13:59 GMT
Sure here are 12 off the top of my head. Kate Winslet Jennifer Aniston Carla Gugino Vera Farmiga Scarlett Johansson Alyssa Milano Gemma Arterton Chloe Sevigny Kate Beckinsale Gina Gershon Juliette Lewis Jennifer Lopez Of those women, Scarlett Johansson, Gemma Arterton, and Jennifer Lopez have slept with me. You are one very lucky man!
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Jun 10, 2019 17:57:20 GMT
Yes, Gal Gadot, Margot Robbie, Scarlet Johansen, Jennifer Lawrence and the drive through girl in my neighborhood Wendy's are all unavailable to me.
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Jun 10, 2019 18:01:52 GMT
Yes, in my younger, more idealistic phase. I'm glad I never acted on it, though.
When I married my husband, I found out what real love was. In sickness and in health. I still miss that feeling of... shared struggle? feeling safe with someone no matter what the outside world does to you?
He told me, shortly before he died, that he wanted me to find someone, get married and be happy. I told him he was going to be a hard act to follow. Twenty six years after losing him, I still wear my rings - our rings, I had them fused. I was fortunate to have him as a spouse. I decided to quit while I was ahead.
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Jun 10, 2019 18:50:00 GMT
my undying yet futile love for Adam Sandler I was in love with a guy who was not only dating my friend but also never in love with me, yet my feelings for him lasted for several years almost no matter how much I tried to fight it. Help me understand those two things. Because I just... cant.
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Jun 10, 2019 18:53:39 GMT
wow...thanks for sharing.... Be nice cheetah, he poured his heart out to us. Nothing wrong with that. So enough with the sarcasm bitch Y'know... "wow...thanks for sharing...." could be interpreted not as the sarcasm you took it for, but as simply... "wow...thanks for sharing...." So maybe you jumped the gun a bit and shouldn't be casting stones? Just saying...
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Post by Nora on Jun 10, 2019 20:05:26 GMT
my undying yet futile love for Adam Sandler I was in love with a guy who was not only dating my friend but also never in love with me, yet my feelings for him lasted for several years almost no matter how much I tried to fight it. Help me understand those two things. Because I just... cant. what exactly do you not understand? how one can love adam sandler? its easy. he is smart incredibly talented, funny, and seems like a really good guy and i find those qualities very sexy. so... i have a real crush on him, have had it for years... or how someone can not love me back? Now that one Is Hard to understand, I agree. Dunno. I guess ask adam or my friend Yan why they dont love me even though I am such a catch?
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