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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2019 14:49:57 GMT
So the boyfriend said this to me, and I'm very what WTF about it. I wear a U.S. size 6-8. When I pointed that out he says women's sizes mean nothing to him and that I am big for my height. He also says I'm over sensitive and shouldn't have my feelings hurt by this because he likes it. He knows I have body image issues. I don't expect him to lie to me, but I also think this is one of things you keep to yourself, unless someone outright asks you your opinion on it, which I never have.
Am I being over sensitive?
ETA: I request no one quote that Fat idiot because I have it on ignore and am not interested in seeing its posts, especially on this topic. Please just tag it to respond instead, thank you.
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Post by rogerthat on Jun 16, 2019 14:55:33 GMT
I voted no based on what you wrote and the perceived intentions of your boyfriend. He loves your size. How is that an insult? That said it was probably an awkwardly worded way of telling you something he loves about you, but I don't think he meant it as an insult.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 14:56:50 GMT
This question could be taken in a whole different way. 6-8 lol
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jun 16, 2019 15:28:44 GMT
Well I wouldn’t take that as an insult. I feel like he’s complimenting on your size.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 15:37:33 GMT
Well I wouldn’t take that as an insult. I feel like he’s complimenting on your size. Could be a chubby chaser though |
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jun 16, 2019 15:49:00 GMT
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 15:55:24 GMT
Fetishism is bad because the person doesn't see the person as a person but for more of the trait that they fetishize. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2019 16:12:22 GMT
Interesting poll results! Thank you , everyone. Keep the opinions coming.
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jun 16, 2019 16:20:41 GMT
Harmless elfI don’t see how the guy she’s talking about has a fetish for fatness.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 16:29:22 GMT
Harmless elfI don’t see how the guy she’s talking about has a fetish for fatness. She said he likes big girls. |
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Post by politicidal on Jun 16, 2019 16:57:23 GMT
No, I think he meant it innocuously.
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jun 16, 2019 17:19:10 GMT
Harmless elfMaybe not in a fetishist way. He’s probably just saying it to make her feel content.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 17:26:33 GMT
Harmless elfMaybe not in a fetishist way. He’s probably just saying it to make her feel content. By the way I think it's a little ironic that she called me a fat idiot so she's making fun of my weight by calling me a fat idiot. |
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Post by ant-mac on Jun 16, 2019 17:26:42 GMT
So the boyfriend said this to me, and I'm very what WTF about it. I wear a U.S. size 6-8. When I pointed that out he says women's sizes mean nothing to him and that I am big for my height. He also says I'm over sensitive and shouldn't have my feelings hurt by this because he likes it. He knows I have body image issues. I don't expect him to lie to me, but I also think this is one of things you keep to yourself, unless someone outright asks you your opinion on it, which I never have. Am I being over sensitive? ETA: I request no one quote that Fat idiot because I have it on ignore and am not interested in seeing its posts, especially on this topic. Please just tag it to respond instead, thank you. Going by how you've described the interaction, I certainly don't think it was intended as an insult. Of course, this doesn't mean it can't be taken as one. However, it seems to me the two of you simply have different concepts or ideas when it comes to a person's physical build. To me personally, I don't think that's a big deal or an insurmountable problem. It's all a matter of personal perspective. 
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2019 17:28:16 GMT
So the boyfriend said this to me, and I'm very what WTF about it. I wear a U.S. size 6-8. When I pointed that out he says women's sizes mean nothing to him and that I am big for my height. He also says I'm over sensitive and shouldn't have my feelings hurt by this because he likes it. He knows I have body image issues. I don't expect him to lie to me, but I also think this is one of things you keep to yourself, unless someone outright asks you your opinion on it, which I never have. Am I being over sensitive? ETA: I request no one quote that Fat idiot because I have it on ignore and am not interested in seeing its posts, especially on this topic. Please just tag it to respond instead, thank you. Going by how you've described the interaction, I certainly don't think it was intended as an insult. Of course, this doesn't mean it can't be taken as one. However, it seems to me the two of you simply have different concepts or ideas when it comes to a person's physical build. To me personally, I don't think that's a big deal or an insurmountable problem. It's all a matter of personal perspective. I appreciate you giving your perspective. Based on the responses here maybe I'm just too sensitive. |
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jun 16, 2019 17:29:26 GMT
Harmless elfDoesn’t help that you’re naming yourself after Fat Bastard from Austin Powers.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 17:38:53 GMT
As a guy who prefers thick women, I can tell you with 100% confidence that it's not an insult. Thicc or fat? There is a difference. |
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Post by ant-mac on Jun 16, 2019 17:51:41 GMT
Going by how you've described the interaction, I certainly don't think it was intended as an insult. Of course, this doesn't mean it can't be taken as one. However, it seems to me the two of you simply have different concepts or ideas when it comes to a person's physical build. To me personally, I don't think that's a big deal or an insurmountable problem. It's all a matter of personal perspective. I appreciate you giving your perspective. Based on the responses here maybe I'm just too sensitive. It doesn't hurt to be a little bit sensitive from time to time. These days, we seem to be living in a world that's lacking any sensitivity. Besides, if you're aware of your sensitivity to certain topics, you can take measures to counteract any negative outcomes. So I think you're in a pretty good position to deal with the matter.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 17:59:48 GMT
I appreciate you giving your perspective. Based on the responses here maybe I'm just too sensitive. It doesn't hurt to be a little bit sensitive from time to time. These days, we seem to be living in a world that's lacking any sensitivity. Besides, if you're aware of your sensitivity to certain topics, you can take measures to counteract any negative outcomes. So I think you're in a pretty good position to deal with the matter. Yeah people are sure not sensitive enough these days....... |
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Post by Harmless elf on Jun 16, 2019 18:08:47 GMT
Harmless elfDoesn’t help that you’re naming yourself after Fat Bastard from Austin Powers. Well I don't know what I said to her I don't even remember talking to her. I would think Nora would put me on ignore, but I don't think she takes me seriously. |
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