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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2017 17:19:09 GMT
My dad went to Catholic school when he was young and he said that he was beat all the time by the nuns. he told me a story of one time he and his friends were in line just waving their arms to be funny.. and then this nun walks by with a whip and whips their arms one by one and my dad told me his reaction was like "AHHH! my arms"ð and didnt want to cry until he made it home when no one saw him.. and if he ever told his parents they would beat him too so he never really talked about it.. sounds brutal Luckily the thinking is changing on that. It's my understanding that now the laws in Florida prohibit anything other than spanking on the butt with an open hand. I'm not even sure if schools do that anymore. But I've come to believe that striking a child for any reason is a bad idea. Aside from the potential physical harm, I think it could affect them in a negative way psychologically. But after reading the description of the way you and your friends behaved in class, I would probably make an exception and beat you all.
yeah you probably should have ð im not even sure what lead us to act that bad.. i guess the teacher just didnt now how to control a classroom effectively i would agree with that most of the time you shouldnt hit a child.. but i guess there a special circumtances where it seems justified ð I was actually spanked as a kid too, but the way my dad did it was different i feel from most parents because he didnt let his anger get to him and never hit me out of anger. he would just do it as if it was a chore that had to get done and get it over with.. and he would always calmly tell me it was going to hurt and counted to three before he did so i was prepared.. and he used a ping-pong paddle and called it the "buster" ð
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Post by CoolJGS⺠on Apr 14, 2017 17:26:32 GMT
That's similar to my style.
If I were ever to spank my kids, they knew exactly what the reason would be not only because I would tell them at that moment but there was already a [small but serious] list of things that warranted a spanking.
It worked, but it's a very small window from which spankings can be effective.
Of course, if I had a little kid now, spankings wouldn't even be an option at all. Discipline gets more lax every decade or so. Pretty soon, we will start paying kids when they do something wrong.
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Post by Sulla on Apr 14, 2017 17:33:28 GMT
That's similar to my style. If I were ever to spank my kids, they knew exactly what the reason would be not only because I would tell them at that moment but there was already a [small but serious] list of things that warranted a spanking. It worked, but it's a very small window from which spankings can be effective. Of course, if I had a little kid now, spankings wouldn't even be an option at all. Discipline gets more lax every decade or so. Pretty soon, we will start paying kids when they do something wrong. I recently learned of a very effective punishment. My sister took my teenage niece's portable device away for a week. On the second day the girl was begging for it back. There was a clear change in attitude after that week.
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Post by CoolJGS⺠on Apr 14, 2017 17:38:18 GMT
That's similar to my style. If I were ever to spank my kids, they knew exactly what the reason would be not only because I would tell them at that moment but there was already a [small but serious] list of things that warranted a spanking. It worked, but it's a very small window from which spankings can be effective. Of course, if I had a little kid now, spankings wouldn't even be an option at all. Discipline gets more lax every decade or so. Pretty soon, we will start paying kids when they do something wrong. I recently learned of a very effective punishment. My sister took my teenage niece's portable device away for a week. On the second day the girl was begging for it back. There was a clear change in attitude after that week. That's what I do too. I even take stuff they paid for.
That said, aside from normal teenage angst, my kids are pretty well behaved. About the only time they get in trouble now is for lying.
Spankings on teenagers would never work...Right up there with spanking babies and toddlers.
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Post by koskiewicz on Apr 14, 2017 17:48:29 GMT
...I attended parochial school from Kindergarten to 8th grade:
Good: I learned more from the nuns than imaginable...I then attended public high school and breezed through 4 years thanks to my training from the nuns...
Bad: nothing I can remember...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2017 18:02:15 GMT
I recently learned of a very effective punishment. My sister took my teenage niece's portable device away for a week. On the second day the girl was begging for it back. There was a clear change in attitude after that week. That's what I do too. I even take stuff they paid for.
That said, aside from normal teenage angst, my kids are pretty well behaved. About the only time they get in trouble now is for lying.
Spankings on teenagers would never work...Right up there with spanking babies and toddlers.
My dad had a friend apparently or someone he just knows that had a teen daughter that was uncontrollable so her husband tried to take action in disciplining her.. the girl ended up accusing him of sexual assault and is in jail now for I think about 6 months.. we were talking about whether it was even true or not or if the girl just made it up since she was already a bad kid anyway... idk I just think physical discipline just doesn't work nowadays.. Ive seen girls put up videos on youtube of their dads beating them up and get them in trouble for being abusive. My dad was never like how those kids' parents were in the videos though.. but my dad also stopped spanking me when I was 7 or 8.. those girls looked like they were at least 12. it just seems a lot more inappropriate when the kid is older to spank them.... i didnt have a phone until i was 14.. but taking away certain privileges seems more effective. I rarely got in trouble as a teen even though I did bad stuff..(my parents sort of gave up on me and sent me to boarding school instead) but as a kid I mainly just got time outs
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Post by CoolJGS⺠on Apr 14, 2017 18:13:57 GMT
monicahPhysical discipline would work just fine and I think it's far more effective than taking stuff away at certain times in a kids life. At the end of the day, a negative experience helps you remember the wrong that was bad enough to get you punished. It just shouldn't be used for all the bad, stupid things kids do...Only the dangerous ones or perhaps some type of severe disrespect. By the time they are teens, a kids personality is almost etched. A spanking is just going to cause more rebellion However, all that is separate from societal expectation which quite bluntly forbids any notion of spanking regardless of age. It's for the worst, but it's not worth going to jail over and especially if it's your kid calling the cops.
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Post by lowtacks86 on Apr 14, 2017 21:59:08 GMT
When Father John forgot to bring the lube, man that really pissed me off.
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Post by camimac on Apr 14, 2017 22:18:28 GMT
I went to parochial school for fifth grade. I can't specify any one particular bad thing that happened to me there, but it was a generally negative experience (though I did like the classes that focused on religion). I was glad to return to public school for 6th grade.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 15:01:51 GMT
monicah Physical discipline would work just fine and I think it's far more effective than taking stuff away at certain times in a kids life. At the end of the day, a negative experience helps you remember the wrong that was bad enough to get you punished. It just shouldn't be used for all the bad, stupid things kids do...Only the dangerous ones or perhaps some type of severe disrespect. By the time they are teens, a kids personality is almost etched. A spanking is just going to cause more rebellion However, all that is separate from societal expectation which quite bluntly forbids any notion of spanking regardless of age. It's for the worst, but it's not worth going to jail over and especially if it's your kid calling the cops. I agree. I don't understand why people think its actually good to spank their kids.. maybe only as a last resort (though i cant really think of what a kid could do that would make a parent feel they need to) And it turns out my dad spanked me because my mom made him do it and that probably explained why he was more gentle about it in his approach. I just think there are better forms of discipline that are more effective like taking away a cell phone like you said. I think it also depends on what the child is getting in trouble for.. In boarding school we got in trouble for the stupidest things like missing a spot on a chore even if it was something barely noticed. and I think those types of things makes kids want to rebel even more when they're in an environment that is too strict. Also if the consequences actually make sense and it is explained to them why they are given the consequence they seem to comply with it a lot more..
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2017 3:40:47 GMT
this sounds more traumatizing than what it actually was..
but one time in kindergarten i threw a huge fit in the principal's office and started crying. the principal didnt know what to do so she threw me in her closet and locked me inside it while i kept crying.. she called my mom to come get me and pick me up.. she even apologized to my mom for locking me in her closet but my mom didnt seem to think much of it.. my dad even made joke about it.. because my yearbook picture was missing that same year and my dad would make a joke like "you mean they didn't use a picture of the closet door you were locked up in with your name under it?" lol
but when i told my therapist this happened to me he said that this was a serious thing and shouldn't be laughing about it.. :/
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