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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 7, 2019 8:44:55 GMT
It has to be triggered by something, but if it just boils down to self-pity, it needs to be eliminated. If it is regarding something traumatic that happens, time does need to be given to heal. You make it sound so easy....just eliminate it....I wish it were so simple. Nothing is easy when it comes to the mind, and each of us has the right to feel the way we do, but sometimes attachments and holding onto to things we can't possibly have any control over can cause more deep-seated issues. I can get down and used to be real big on the pity party thing, but I guess much of that was because when going through emotional turmoil, I was looking to see who was on my side and who wasn't. Thing is, the detriment behind that, is that I could tend to forget that others were going through their own s<>t. Being too self-absorbed can turn people away.
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Post by Morgana on Nov 7, 2019 8:50:37 GMT
You make it sound so easy....just eliminate it....I wish it were so simple. Nothing is easy when it comes to the mind, and each of us has the right to feel the way we do, but sometimes attachments and holding onto to things we can't possibly have any control over can cause more deep-seated issues. I can get down and used to be real big on the pity party thing, but I guess much of that was because when going through emotional turmoil, I was looking to see who was on my side and who wasn't. Thing is, the detriment behind that, is that I could tend to forget that others were going through their own s<>t. Being too self-absorbed can turn people away. I agree with that quote. It took me a long, long time to forgive and even longer to let go. But sadness is different.
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Post by Toasted Cheese on Nov 7, 2019 9:06:46 GMT
Nothing is easy when it comes to the mind, and each of us has the right to feel the way we do, but sometimes attachments and holding onto to things we can't possibly have any control over can cause more deep-seated issues. I can get down and used to be real big on the pity party thing, but I guess much of that was because when going through emotional turmoil, I was looking to see who was on my side and who wasn't. Thing is, the detriment behind that, is that I could tend to forget that others were going through their own s<>t. Being too self-absorbed can turn people away. I agree with that quote. It took me a long, long time to forgive and even longer to let go. But sadness is different. Forgiveness is not an easy thing and that is about letting go. Sadness can be put down to many things, but when it comes down to it, what are we really being sad over? It can also involve compassion and empathy for other's situations, but if sadness is derived from feeling sorry about our own situation\circumstance, that is when we perhaps need to look at how precious we may becoming and get a reality check put onto it. Or ask how long are we going to keep playing the same record and feel sad over and over again for the same thing?
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