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Post by hi224 on Mar 23, 2020 21:07:29 GMT
My ex blocked me and I flipped out again and finally messaged him.... so trying to calm down now..... I apologize for bugging you all about this so much as well.
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Post by Nora on Mar 23, 2020 22:06:20 GMT
My ex blocked me and I flipped out again and finally messaged him.... so trying to calm down now..... I apologize for bugging you all about this so much as well. so is there a mental professional you could contact? That might be the best course of action. wishing u the best. girls come and go, BELIEVE me, you will love and be loved again, guaranteed. If I had nuts I would bet my left nut on it :-)
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Post by TheOriginalPinky on Mar 23, 2020 22:10:07 GMT
Why would you want to contact your ex? Your ex is your ex for a reason. Whether by your or your's ex's design, an ex is an ex and doesn't need to keep in touch.
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Post by Sulla on Mar 25, 2020 1:17:18 GMT
I agree with Nora and Pinky on this. Your ex clearly doesn't want to hear from you. You're wasting your time and torturing yourself thinking about her. I've had several girlfriends and one wife so far (not at the same time ) and I've done the same thing. Speaking from experience, you'll be much happier with a new girlfriend. You've already gotten at least one that we know of, so you can do it again. Don't waste your efforts on someone who's not interested.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 25, 2020 2:48:49 GMT
My ex blocked me and I flipped out again and finally messaged him.... so trying to calm down now..... I apologize for bugging you all about this so much as well. You mean you messaged your brother or your ex? i messaged my brother to talk basically.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 25, 2020 2:49:04 GMT
I agree with Nora and Pinky on this. Your ex clearly doesn't want to hear from you. You're wasting your time and torturing yourself thinking about her. I've had several girlfriends and one wife so far (not at the same time ) and I've done the same thing. Speaking from experience, you'll be much happier with a new girlfriend. You've already gotten at least one that we know of, so you can do it again. Don't waste your efforts on someone who's not interested. its very complicated.
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Post by Sulla on Mar 25, 2020 3:06:58 GMT
I agree with Nora and Pinky on this. Your ex clearly doesn't want to hear from you. You're wasting your time and torturing yourself thinking about her. I've had several girlfriends and one wife so far (not at the same time ) and I've done the same thing. Speaking from experience, you'll be much happier with a new girlfriend. You've already gotten at least one that we know of, so you can do it again. Don't waste your efforts on someone who's not interested. its very complicated. Okay. Hopefully your brother can be of some help to you. I wish you luck.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 25, 2020 3:14:14 GMT
Okay. Hopefully your brother can be of some help to you. I wish you luck. well thank you.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 25, 2020 3:28:50 GMT
i messaged my brother to talk basically. As long as it isn't putting undue pressure on your brother. People need to sort out their own relationship issues at times. One guy I used to work with would ring his brother to bitch or confide about something and his brother would hang up on him. why i usually have a therapist as well.
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Post by TheOriginalPinky on Mar 25, 2020 12:37:11 GMT
I agree with Nora and Pinky on this. Your ex clearly doesn't want to hear from you. You're wasting your time and torturing yourself thinking about her. I've had several girlfriends and one wife so far (not at the same time ) and I've done the same thing. Speaking from experience, you'll be much happier with a new girlfriend. You've already gotten at least one that we know of, so you can do it again. Don't waste your efforts on someone who's not interested. its very complicated. It's only complicated if you make it so.
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Post by Morgana on Mar 25, 2020 17:54:41 GMT
why i usually have a therapist as well. Yes, good idea. They get paid to listen. I have depression, and I've often wondered if seeing a therapist would be of any help. Do they just listen while you talk?
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Post by Nora on Mar 25, 2020 18:20:14 GMT
Yes, good idea. They get paid to listen. I have depression, and I've often wondered if seeing a therapist would be of any help. Do they just listen while you talk? it is a big help. please try it. some just listen but most will ask good questions that help you address what you struggle with or will give you tools to cope with or even mitigate your depression. i found therapist visits incredibly helpful and constructive.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 25, 2020 23:08:08 GMT
Yes, good idea. They get paid to listen. I have depression, and I've often wondered if seeing a therapist would be of any help. Do they just listen while you talk? first of all what you see in movies and TV basically is false, a therapist doesn't provoke or challenge you as you see in stuff like Big Little Lies or Sopranos, but they are their to work with you and listen.
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Post by hi224 on Mar 25, 2020 23:08:27 GMT
It's only complicated if you make it so. I simply meant my history with my ex.
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Post by Morgana on Mar 26, 2020 10:35:41 GMT
I have depression, and I've often wondered if seeing a therapist would be of any help. Do they just listen while you talk? it is a big help. please try it. some just listen but most will ask good questions that help you address what you struggle with or will give you tools to cope with or even mitigate your depression. i found therapist visits incredibly helpful and constructive. Thank you, Nora, I wish I could but, to be honest, the reason I have never seen one comes down to my not being able to afford it. I have often wondered how they help though. I'm glad you feel you were helped by going to one. Do you still go? Is it a long term thing?
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Post by Morgana on Mar 26, 2020 10:41:14 GMT
I have depression, and I've often wondered if seeing a therapist would be of any help. Do they just listen while you talk? They will assess your situation and if they are good at what they do, offer you pertinent and insightful advise and may even assist in empowering you. I think though, you would need to do some homework and get some feedback from reliable sources who have seen a therapist and can recommend someone to you. I've never been to one because of cost. I could go once perhaps, which would be of zero help I'm sure.
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Post by Morgana on Mar 26, 2020 10:42:07 GMT
I have depression, and I've often wondered if seeing a therapist would be of any help. Do they just listen while you talk? first of all what you see in movies and TV basically is false, a therapist doesn't provoke or challenge you as you see in stuff like Big Little Lies or Sopranos, but they are their to work with you and listen. Which do you find to have been of most help - the meds or the therapist?
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Post by Morgana on Mar 29, 2020 9:21:16 GMT
I've never been to one because of cost. I could go once perhaps, which would be of zero help I'm sure. Are there perhaps some community psychologists or counselors you could search in your region who work pro-bono, or whatever it is called for therapists. Google can be your best friend. Also, as an alternative, have you tried going to a mediation session or even yoga. Many of these teachers are very highly connected within themselves and mediation can help with depression issues. There aren't any pro-bono doctors, or self-help groups where I live. I'll explain in a pm if that's okay.
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