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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2020 4:41:19 GMT
We’re both in school.
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Post by moonchild on Sept 20, 2020 3:39:01 GMT
Actually, I'm happiest when I'm in love. Gives me more of a zest for life
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 12:56:16 GMT
Eye on the prize, Eb. Any guy worth being with is one that will support you in your goals and dreams. An education is something no one can take away from you. |
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Post by shannondegroot on Sept 22, 2020 13:02:19 GMT
I miss a lot of things right now, with this Caronavirus going on.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 13:26:38 GMT
Eye on the prize, Eb. Any guy worth being with is one that will support you in your goals and dreams. An education is something no one can take away from you. He could end up a booby prize. I've just seen too many smart, capable women prioritize the men in their lives over their own education or goals. Then the investment results in them being right back where they started. A worthy partner will support investment in self.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 14:48:12 GMT
He could end up a booby prize. I've just seen too many smart, capable women prioritize the men in their lives over their own education or goals. Then the investment results in them being right back where they started. A worthy partner will support investment in self. During my first attempt at university when I was a teenager my "boyfriend" was a needy guy I met in high school. He gave me shit for needing to take pee breaks instead of responding immediately to MSN messages within seconds. And he cried after spending time together and accused me of "ignoring" him. When I was studying he accused me of taking too much time with that and not tending to his needs. After I told him I was done with him he told me he needed to "bother his doctor for pills" because apparently it made him depressed and that was somehow my fault. I wasn't even physically attracted to him and never had sex with him, but he kept pressuring me for handjobs, sent me unsolicited dick pics, and touched me inappropriately when I was sleeping. I only put up with him because of low self-esteem and thinking no one else would ever want me. And I grew up in an abusive household so all that shit was normal to me. I'm in my only healthy relationship now and it took until I was 26 to find a man who's actually worth my time.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 14:54:16 GMT
I've just seen too many smart, capable women prioritize the men in their lives over their own education or goals. Then the investment results in them being right back where they started. A worthy partner will support investment in self. During my first attempt at university when I was a teenager my "boyfriend" was a needy guy I met in high school. He gave me shit for needing to take pee breaks instead of responding immediately to MSN messages within seconds. And he cried after spending time together and accused me of "ignoring" him. When I was studying he accused me of taking too much time with that and not tending to his needs. After I told him I was done with him he told me he needed to "bother his doctor for pills" because apparently it made him depressed and that was somehow my fault. I wasn't even physically attracted to him and never had sex with him, but he kept pressuring me for handjobs, sent me unsolicited dick pics, and touched me inappropriately when I was sleeping. I only put up with him because of low self-esteem and thinking no one else would ever want me. And I grew up in an abusive household so all that shit was normal to me. I'm in my only healthy relationship now and it took until I was 26 to find a man who's actually worth my time. I can relate to all of that. www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2016/07/09/how-being-raised-by-a-narcissist-damages-your-life-and-self-esteem/You are strong woman, Ebony. It isn't just women who are raised in bad households who end up prioritizing relationships over self, though. Many people fall into that trap. I'm glad to hear you are in a good place with a good guy. You can support each other's goals! |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 15:11:07 GMT
But... you are a man, so you already have all the man you want all in Yourself!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 15:24:48 GMT
But... you are a man, so you already have all the man you want all in Yourself! does that make my bf gay?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 15:45:25 GMT
But... you are a man, so you already have all the man you want all in Yourself! Don't be a dick. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 22, 2020 16:06:57 GMT
But... you are a man, so you already have all the man you want all in Yourself! Don't be a dick. there's a difference btwn being a dick and having a dick. |
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Post by divtal on Sept 22, 2020 18:40:30 GMT
Assuming that this is a real relationship ... and, I don't leap to that assumption ... it sounds to be more of an obsession, than a romance. Lives which include schooling, a career, or independent interests and pursuits, should not be a drain on happiness because it temporarily separates the parties' physical nearness. Some separation should be an enhancement.
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Post by dirtypillows on Sept 23, 2020 0:24:11 GMT
This song is for you, girlfriend!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2020 0:31:55 GMT
I've just seen too many smart, capable women prioritize the men in their lives over their own education or goals. Then the investment results in them being right back where they started. A worthy partner will support investment in self. There has to be a balance with relationships and goals, yet relying on men, or anyone, for encouragement and investment in "self" is only going to lead to disappointment at some stage. Men are not going to make women complete, nor vice versa. ITA! |
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Post by poelzig on Sept 23, 2020 3:02:29 GMT
Eye on the prize, Eb. Any guy worth being with is one that will support you in your goals and dreams. An education is something no one can take away from you. He could end up a booby prize. There is a hilarious joke to be made but I'm too much of a gentleman to make it. I am curious tho if the op EVER posts about anything other than her "man"?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 23, 2020 4:32:44 GMT
I think its nice you like someone that much [giveup]
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