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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2021 0:50:05 GMT
I hope your wife finds happiness. You sound like a pos though..Really! The op has openly expressed his feelings and there are also 2 sides to the story. You may not even want to be married to his wife if you knew her. of course I wouldn't want to be married to his wife. I have my own wife, we ain't looking for someone to join in at the moment, and I don't cheat. Cheating makes him an asshole. Not that he doesn't want to be with her anymore or that he wants to be single or polyamorous. That's all perfectly valid and fine... cheating and trying to justify it isn't. her being a bitch is a reason for him to leave her, not to cheat on her
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 22, 2021 2:25:44 GMT
You sound similar to me. Someone who likes their freedom and is too selfish for a relationship. The funny thing is that I still love my ex-girlfriend after 5 years being apart (10 years with her) and I sometimes wish I stayed. I have a very impulsive personality though and I know I would likely end up leaving her again. She is actually still friends with me, but doesn't trust me enough not to break her heart again. She has stayed single since I broke up with her. I don't date at all anymore. You sound like the man I was recently involved with. We had a lot of fun together but I stopped hearing from him and then when we would make a date, he wouldn't get back to me to confirm the time I really like him too so I was hurt and disappointed
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 22, 2021 2:35:02 GMT
So basically you're against monogamy and long-term committed relationships. I’m not sure if we’re actually designed or supposed to be committed for a lifetime long term relationship. That is a construct only and for males it is something they probably feel more forced into. Women are the ones that appear to want the full commitment. What do you think about this guy who contacted me on a dating site and "fell in love" with what I look like? He decided I was the one for him and wants me to be his wife He's really cute too and younger than me but I don't see how he can feel that way about a stranger
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 22, 2021 2:38:06 GMT
I’m not sure if we’re actually designed or supposed to be committed for a lifetime long term relationship. That is a construct only and for males it is something they probably feel more forced into. Women are the ones that appear to want the full commitment. Knowing men only want us for sex and that we have a shelf-life? And you guys wonder why many of us resort to being manipulative and use men while we can since you view us as disposable? Then you bitch about it later and wonder why.... Why? You made us this way for viewing us this way and deciding what our "worth" and "value" is: Our genitals, but only short-term. *smdh* I only want men for sex too, but not just any man. This guy in his 30s wants to have sex with me but I turned him down. Maybe I should reconsider
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Post by moviemouth on Feb 22, 2021 2:53:06 GMT
You sound similar to me. Someone who likes their freedom and is too selfish for a relationship. The funny thing is that I still love my ex-girlfriend after 5 years being apart (10 years with her) and I sometimes wish I stayed. I have a very impulsive personality though and I know I would likely end up leaving her again. She is actually still friends with me, but doesn't trust me enough not to break her heart again. She has stayed single since I broke up with her. I don't date at all anymore. You sound like the man I was recently involved with. We had a lot of fun together but I stopped hearing from him and then when we would make a date, he wouldn't get back to me to confirm the timeI really like him too so I was hurt and disappointed That doesn't fit with me and isn't really what I mean. When we were dating I would be with her when we made plans and if I was in a bad mood or something I would let her know. I wouldn't say I would do something and then just not give her a reason. Since we stopped dating she told me it would be too hard for her emotionally to do something together, because it would get her hopes up.
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 22, 2021 3:02:04 GMT
You sound like the man I was recently involved with. We had a lot of fun together but I stopped hearing from him and then when we would make a date, he wouldn't get back to me to confirm the timeI really like him too so I was hurt and disappointed That doesn't fit with me and isn't really what I mean. When we were dating I would be with her when we made plans and if I was in a bad mood or something I would let her know. I wouldn't say I would do something and then just not give her a reason. Since we stopped dating she told me it would be too hard for her emotionally to do something together, because it would get her hopes up. Sounds like she likes you a lot
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Post by moviemouth on Feb 22, 2021 3:03:55 GMT
I’m not sure if we’re actually designed or supposed to be committed for a lifetime long term relationship. That is a construct only and for males it is something they probably feel more forced into. Women are the ones that appear to want the full commitment. Knowing men only want us for sex and that we have a shelf-life? And you guys wonder why many of us resort to being manipulative and use men while we can since you view us as disposable? Then you bitch about it later and wonder why.... Why? You made us this way for viewing us this way and deciding what our "worth" and "value" is: Our genitals, but only short-term. *smdh* You would have to ask the individual. I see sex and relationships differently. I get bored by sex with the same person and sex is a big obsession with me. I would love to be with my ex-girlfriend and be able to have sex with her and other people. I would extend that to her as well, just out of fairness. This is due to my own selfish sexual obsessions and desire for variety and I won't deny that. This is why I have chosen to be alone, because ultimately I would only cause the people I love emotional pain.
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Post by moviemouth on Feb 22, 2021 3:07:59 GMT
That doesn't fit with me and isn't really what I mean. When we were dating I would be with her when we made plans and if I was in a bad mood or something I would let her know. I wouldn't say I would do something and then just not give her a reason. Since we stopped dating she told me it would be too hard for her emotionally to do something together, because it would get her hopes up. Sounds like she likes you a lot She does and I feel bad that I can't give her what she wants. I would only become more depressed and more resentful as time went on. I broke it off completely, because I would only do her more harm as time went on I think.
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 22, 2021 3:09:19 GMT
Knowing men only want us for sex and that we have a shelf-life? And you guys wonder why many of us resort to being manipulative and use men while we can since you view us as disposable? Then you bitch about it later and wonder why.... Why? You made us this way for viewing us this way and deciding what our "worth" and "value" is: Our genitals, but only short-term. *smdh* You would have to ask the individual. I see sex and relationships differently. I get bored by sex with the same person and sex is a big obsession with me. I would love to be with my ex-girlfriend and be able to have sex with her and other people. I would extend that to her as well, just out of fairness. This is due to my own selfish sexual obsessions and desire for variety and I won't deny that. This is why I have chosen to be alone, because ultimately I would only cause the people I love emotional pain. I couldn't have multiple sex partners because I'm not attracted to many guys
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Post by moviemouth on Feb 22, 2021 3:12:48 GMT
You would have to ask the individual. I see sex and relationships differently. I get bored by sex with the same person and sex is a big obsession with me. I would love to be with my ex-girlfriend and be able to have sex with her and other people. I would extend that to her as well, just out of fairness. This is due to my own selfish sexual obsessions and desire for variety and I won't deny that. This is why I have chosen to be alone, because ultimately I would only cause the people I love emotional pain. I couldn't have multiple sex partners because I'm not attracted to many guys I am attracted to many many women. I have so many different types. Also, many people will have their own different sexual personality.
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Post by autumn on Feb 22, 2021 3:32:28 GMT
Knowing men only want us for sex and that we have a shelf-life? And you guys wonder why many of us resort to being manipulative and use men while we can since you view us as disposable? Then you bitch about it later and wonder why.... Why? You made us this way for viewing us this way and deciding what our "worth" and "value" is: Our genitals, but only short-term. *smdh* I only want men for sex too, but not just any man. This guy in his 30s wants to have sex with me but I turned him down. Maybe I should reconsider If you only want sex, and he only wants sex, sure. Why not hook up? All your cards are on the table, and you both know where you stand. Have fun.
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 22, 2021 3:38:36 GMT
I only want men for sex too, but not just any man. This guy in his 30s wants to have sex with me but I turned him down. Maybe I should reconsider If you only want sex, and he only wants sex, sure. Why not hook up? All your cards are on the table, and you both know where you stand. Have fun. I also have to be very attracted
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Post by autumn on Feb 23, 2021 0:59:13 GMT
of course I wouldn't want to be married to his wife. I have my own wife, we ain't looking for someone to join in at the moment, and I don't cheat. Cheating makes him an asshole. Not that he doesn't want to be with her anymore or that he wants to be single or polyamorous. That's all perfectly valid and fine... cheating and trying to justify it isn't. her being a bitch is a reason for him to leave her, not to cheat on her The wife also has to take responsibility for her own part of the relationship and we don't know the full dynamic or story. Why did she allow her husband to fall out of step with her? Too much fuss is made over cheating as well. I'd say most married couples have given it some thought at some stage. My, how restrictive being in a monogamous married relationship must be. Stooges to a controlling and brainwashed system.
My old folks are such traditionalists. Both of them expressed this inadvertently yesterday to me and they can't see how transparent and ignorant they are. They just haven't stepped out of this notion that being married 'isn't' the most important and relevant thing in ones life, so they project this notion as much when they can. The belief is that this is what they were designed for. Hence, both are rigid and trapped in their relationship with not much room for growth and many other perceptions or notions get dismissed due to it being culture shock for them.
So a couple's only chance for growth and development,...the one and only factor that lets a couple blossom and grow together....is sleeping with other people. Riiiiight. Being monogamous is the one,.....the one and only factor absolutely guaranteed to cause people to experience "culture shock?" Really? Culture shock. Monogamy is the sole destroyer of souls. Wow.
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Post by autumn on Feb 23, 2021 1:27:01 GMT
So a couple's only chance for growth and development,...the one and only factor that lets a couple blossom and grow together....is sleeping with other people. Riiiiight. Being monogamous is the one,.....the one and only factor absolutely guaranteed to cause people to experience "culture shock?" Really? Culture shock. Monogamy is the sole destroyer of souls. Wow. No, that is not my point at all. That is distortion of point to evade what is being said. It is having the notion that marriage is the backbone of a decent and thriving society and makes one so darn righteous. I say 'bollocks!' It's an aspect, one you are hell-bent on tarnishing, just because you disagree with it. Some people find it desirable and comfortable. Not everyone wants to risk an STD or have casual sex and sleep around. I agree it's not for everyone, but don't dismiss it for those who are monogamous. Do your thing and let others do theirs. It's almost as if you get joy out of needing to ripping someone else's lifestyle apart.
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Post by Stammerhead on Feb 23, 2021 1:28:31 GMT
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 23, 2021 5:42:04 GMT
What do you think about this guy who contacted me on a dating site and "fell in love" with what I look like? He decided I was the one for him and wants me to be his wife He's really cute too and younger than me but I don't see how he can feel that way about a stranger Well, all I can say Madame Alpine, is that he didn't contact me about honing in on my territory and possession.... Who is he, what is he, where is he? He's in the Army in Afghanistan
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Feb 23, 2021 15:22:41 GMT
Knowing men only want us for sex and that we have a shelf-life? And you guys wonder why many of us resort to being manipulative and use men while we can since you view us as disposable? Then you bitch about it later and wonder why.... Why? You made us this way for viewing us this way and deciding what our "worth" and "value" is: Our genitals, but only short-term. *smdh* I only want men for sex too, but not just any man. This guy in his 30s wants to have sex with me but I turned him down. Maybe I should reconsider I think you should! You got it going on so well that you can throw chances like that away?! Must be nice to be you! lol
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Post by enigma72 on Feb 23, 2021 17:13:53 GMT
Really! The op has openly expressed his feelings and there are also 2 sides to the story. You may not even want to be married to his wife if you knew her. of course I wouldn't want to be married to his wife. I have my own wife, we ain't looking for someone to join in at the moment, and I don't cheat. Cheating makes him an asshole. Not that he doesn't want to be with her anymore or that he wants to be single or polyamorous. That's all perfectly valid and fine... cheating and trying to justify it isn't. her being a bitch is a reason for him to leave her, not to cheat on her
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 24, 2021 6:10:46 GMT
I only want men for sex too, but not just any man. This guy in his 30s wants to have sex with me but I turned him down. Maybe I should reconsider I think you should! You got it going on so well that you can throw chances like that away?! Must be nice to be you! lol If I was super attracted to him I would. It's not that enjoyable unless there's chemistry
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Post by alpineflower on Feb 24, 2021 6:14:25 GMT
He's in the Army in Afghanistan Well, it sounds like Johnny's gotta' gun. An Army Jock. Best to steer clear of him. He's probably lonely and confused and desperate for female affection. He's attractive enough that I don't think it's a problem for him finding someone. It probably won't go anywhere, I'm not very lucky when it comes to relationships
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