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Post by goz on Apr 8, 2021 10:28:14 GMT
through words and the way they make you feel across oceans ...however I was just informed that the poster that I most revered and 'loved' has died.
Is it a true friend? I have been posting on this milieu of IMDB ( and now this board ) since Sept 5 2002.
I feel it deeply. I guess as some of you think, I am a ditz...up myself whatever...however this was sobering news.
A cousin of mine posted on Facebook...
It was more fun to be twenty in the seventies than seventy in the twenties .
I am not that old yet however it cut deep and with the losses of real life and online friends.
Does a kindred spirit really shine through?
RIP
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Post by Nora on Apr 8, 2021 10:36:51 GMT
through words and the way they make you feel across oceans ...however I was just informed that the poster that I most revered and 'loved' has died. Is it a true friend? I have been posting on this milieu of IMDB ( and now this board ) since Sept 5 2002. I feel it deeply. I guess as some of you think, I am a ditz...up myself whatever...however this was sobering news. A cousin of mine posted on Facebook... It was more fun to be twenty in the seventies than seventy in the twenties . I am not that old yet however it cut deep and with the losses of real life and online friends. Does a kindred spirit really shine through? RIP sorry for your loss. yes of course love and friendship can stem from interaction on line. I married the guy i fell in love with on line, and several other people i met online are my close friends that i would DEEPLY miss if they died. so.. take your time to grieve, it is a loss. doesnt matter if its a connection forged on line or not, if it was a connection to you thats all that counts. |
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Post by goz on Apr 8, 2021 10:40:46 GMT
through words and the way they make you feel across oceans ...however I was just informed that the poster that I most revered and 'loved' has died. Is it a true friend? I have been posting on this milieu of IMDB ( and now this board ) since Sept 5 2002. I feel it deeply. I guess as some of you think, I am a ditz...up myself whatever...however this was sobering news. A cousin of mine posted on Facebook... It was more fun to be twenty in the seventies than seventy in the twenties . I am not that old yet however it cut deep and with the losses of real life and online friends. Does a kindred spirit really shine through? RIP sorry for your loss. yes of course love and friendship can stem from interaction on line. I married the guy i fell in love with on line, and several other people i met online are my close friends that i would DEEPLY miss if they died. so.. take your time to grief, it is a loss. doesnt matter if its a connection forged on line or not, if it was a connection to you thats all that counts. Thank you m'dear. This might seem stupid and frivolous to the more pragmatic on here...I mean what contact did we have?...words online for many years , a meeting of minds...agreed values....fun stuff and just a connection. It seems to me that where ever you are, whoever you are...however you manage it... IF you find a connection..... it is priceless.
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Post by Winter_King on Apr 8, 2021 10:46:27 GMT
A friend of mine met a girl from Brazil online, he went there to meet her in person and they are still married to this day. Just had their first child.
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Post by Jonesy1 on Apr 8, 2021 10:50:12 GMT
sorry for your loss. yes of course love and friendship can stem from interaction on line. I married the guy i fell in love with on line, and several other people i met online are my close friends that i would DEEPLY miss if they died. so.. take your time to grief, it is a loss. doesnt matter if its a connection forged on line or not, if it was a connection to you thats all that counts. Thank you m'dear. This might seem stupid and frivolous to the more pragmatic on here...I mean what contact did we have?...words online for many years , a meeting of minds...agreed values....fun stuff and just a connection. It seems to me that where ever you are, whoever you are...however you manage it... IF you find a connection..... it is priceless. It's not stupid or frivolous, far from it. If you have a connection with someone regardless of whether it's online or not then the loss is very real. My condolences.
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Post by goz on Apr 8, 2021 10:51:12 GMT
A friend of mine met a girl from Brazil online, he went there to meet her in person and they are still married to this day. Just had their first child. That is nice of you to mention. I am happily married an post on here ( and the old IMDb) for fun. I have always really enjoyed the relationships I have found on this amorphous medium and it has actually shocked me that I feel this way about someone who I respected so much and never met.
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Post by goz on Apr 8, 2021 10:51:46 GMT
Thank you m'dear. This might seem stupid and frivolous to the more pragmatic on here...I mean what contact did we have?...words online for many years , a meeting of minds...agreed values....fun stuff and just a connection. It seems to me that where ever you are, whoever you are...however you manage it... IF you find a connection..... it is priceless. It's not stupid or frivolous, far from it. If you have a connection with someone regardless of whether it's online or not then the loss is very real. My condolences. Thankyou Sweetpea.
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Post by shaggypoo on Apr 8, 2021 15:52:49 GMT
It's possible but highly unlikely
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Post by divtal on Apr 8, 2021 16:12:42 GMT
Of course you can sense a "kindred spirit," with others online. We discuss a host of topics, and issues, and come to learn a lot about fellow posters.
You've suffered a loss, Goz. My condolences.
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Post by Spitfire926f on Apr 8, 2021 16:30:36 GMT
I'm sorry. It's amazing how much you can grow to care about someone you've never actually met.
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Post by ellynmacg on Apr 8, 2021 22:22:46 GMT
A friend of mine met a girl from Brazil online, he went there to meet her in person and they are still married to this day. Just had their first child. That sounds so romantic to me.  I think on-line romances are simply this generation's equivalent of pen pals falling in love.   
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Post by ellynmacg on Apr 8, 2021 22:24:42 GMT
through words and the way they make you feel across oceans ...however I was just informed that the poster that I most revered and 'loved' has died. Is it a true friend? I have been posting on this milieu of IMDB ( and now this board ) since Sept 5 2002. I feel it deeply. I guess as some of you think, I am a ditz...up myself whatever...however this was sobering news. A cousin of mine posted on Facebook... It was more fun to be twenty in the seventies than seventy in the twenties . I am not that old yet however it cut deep and with the losses of real life and online friends. Does a kindred spirit really shine through?RIP I firmly believe that it does, goz. 
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Post by politicidal on Apr 9, 2021 1:56:16 GMT
Sorry to hear that.
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Post by Morgana on Apr 9, 2021 9:32:29 GMT
I'm sorry to hear that, Goz. By the way, was the poster Cash? I only ask because he's the only one I heard died. I liked him and was sad to hear he had passed away.
I met someone online years ago, and I thought I loved him. We were 'together' for almost 5 years but then he met someone 'in real life' and that was that.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2021 9:51:32 GMT
My condolences.
I think emotional connections last longer through time and space than physical connections.
They cut you deeper and stay with you longer.
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Post by Nora on Apr 9, 2021 10:12:16 GMT
I'm sorry. It's amazing how much you can grow to care about someone you've never actually met. its pretty interesting really how humans can bond. one of my close friends, like someone i consider REALLY close (and viceversa) is a guy I met in person once, 10 years ago, but with whom I have been in online contact for the last 25 years - how crazy is that? In the meantime he became not only my friend but also my mentor, and coincidently, my husband ended up working for him - so funilly enough thw two of them shared office space for 2 years while he and I only met once for like a few hours  . He gave a job to another of my close friends and she absolutely adores working for him and its been 5 years she started working there. In my head I dont even consider him an Online friend. He is just as good of a friend as anyone I consider a close friens and and saw hundreds of time F2F. When there is a genuine behavior and its good people on both ends and they click, spiritual connection transcends the boundaries of “physical” life I think. (Rather than Real I call it physical, since the online friendship is just as real to me.) Its nice to see such connections being forged everywhere and even though this is a sad occasion, its clear there was a genuine connection here as well and thats beautiful. |
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Post by Spitfire926f on Apr 9, 2021 11:55:41 GMT
I'm sorry. It's amazing how much you can grow to care about someone you've never actually met. its pretty interesting really how humans can bond. one of my close friends, like someone i consider REALLY close (and viceversa) is a guy I met in person once, 10 years ago, but with whom I have been in online contact for the last 25 years - how crazy is that? In the meantime he became not only my friend but also my mentor, and coincidently, my husband ended up working for him - so funilly enough thw two of them shared office space for 2 years while he and I only met once for like a few hours . He gave a job to another of my close friends and she absolutely adores working for him and its been 5 years she started working there. In my head I dont even consider him an Online friend. He is just as good of a friend as anyone I consider a close friens and and saw hundreds of time F2F. When there is a genuine behavior and its good people on both ends and they click, spiritual connection transcends the boundaries of “physical” life I think. (Rather than Real I call it physical, since the online friendship is just as real to me.) Its nice to see such connections being forged everywhere and even though this is a sad occasion, its clear there was a genuine connection here as well and thats beautiful. I agree, and what a lovely soliloquy. My bestie in PA I grew up with, and we've gone like a year or more without seeing each other. I see her a lot more now, fortunately. But I am really attached to a few people I've never met. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2021 6:57:13 GMT
I am sorry to hear about that Goz. I lost one of my best friends in a car accident last year so I know how you are feeling now and I think when it comes to people online you can come to love them or fall in love with them after writing to them for a long period of time and I loved a fellow member of this forum like a Brother and he meant a lot to me but sadly he had to leave 'cause of some personal problems going on his life and I miss him dearly but I will always have the memories of the years we shared together and be grateful to him for being such a good friend. 
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Post by goz on Apr 11, 2021 23:33:27 GMT
I am sorry to hear about that Goz. I lost one of my best friends in a car accident last year so I know how you are feeling now and I think when it comes to people online you can come to love them or fall in love with them after writing to them for a long period of time and I loved a fellow member of this forum like a Brother and he meant a lot to me but sadly he had to leave 'cause of some personal problems going on his life and I miss him dearly but I will always have the memories of the years we shared together and be grateful to him for being such a good friend. Thank you. I have a full and happy life in real life and yet I look at the beautiful people I have met 'online' as a wonderful addition...an adjunct to my happiness and 'love life' of beautiful like minded people.
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Post by alpineflower on Apr 22, 2021 23:22:25 GMT
That happened to me as well with an online friend. I wasn't prepared for it, he was only 47
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. He gave a job to another of my close friends and she absolutely adores working for him and its been 5 years she started working there. In my head I dont even consider him an Online friend. He is just as good of a friend as anyone I consider a close friens and and saw hundreds of time F2F.
