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Post by mstreepsucks on Jun 5, 2021 0:24:19 GMT
no and no. Except for being punched for no reason.
I would say you wouldn't find anyone here that was a bully. But i could be wrong.
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Post by clusium on Jun 5, 2021 0:49:43 GMT
I was mainly bullied in school. Occasionally, took part in the bullying (mainly for revenge; but was still wrong).
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Post by Prime etc. on Jun 5, 2021 0:54:54 GMT
In my last year of elementary school there was a big guy who always picked on me.
I didnt think much of it--because he never did anything physical-he just was mean to me all the time.
Well one day he said to me "you want to hit me don't you? Why don't you then, hit me!"
And I dont remember what happened but apparently I hit him in the nose, and I only recall him looking at me in shock, grabbing his nose, and running off. His blood was on a desk but I don't remember that at all.
After that he ALWAYS was so nice to me. Ridiculously cheerful to me.
In high school-there was one incident where these assholes blocked the gymnasium change rooms and people were shoving on the door. and it burst open and I happened to be near the front and I was keeling over and this asshole grabbed me by the back of my shirt and shoved me--and I went ass over end into the corner.
I got up and jumped on him and he was trying to put me into a sleeper hold but I fought back--then a teacher came.
Now this guy was a jerk-he told people that I jumped him and he threw me into a corner.
I never went to my reunions-I hated high school--didnt even go the graduation ceremony.
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Post by moviemouth on Jun 5, 2021 1:42:57 GMT
I was lucky in that I wasn't bullied in school all that much and never physically. I was more just ignored and I preferred it that way. There is only one specific instance of school bullying that I remember clearly and that one was easily the worst. I was being made fun of in history class by the girl behind me and another boy because I supposedly smelled bad and they kept it up for 20 minutes straight. This was my freshman year.
I don't remember ever bullying anyone myself. If I did it was not often.
I had a very strange teenage years though and was only in public school for 50% of the time. For 2 years of high school I was in a minimum security detention unit and my senior year was in an alternative school for kids who had trouble in the regular school (kids with ADD etc.). It was a program through the same school though, it was just held at a different location. Only about 20 students.
I graduated in 2001 btw.
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Post by moviemouth on Jun 5, 2021 1:59:23 GMT
Bullies usually change as they grow up but some of them are hung up on hurting others and those are the ones who don't deserve our sympathy when they are on the receiving end. 
I disagree, most people don't change, which is why a lot of people never attend their high school reunions, they know the people that treated them like shit 20-40-50 years ago are going to do the same shit all over again to show off and be 'funny' and 'cool'.
You are absolutely wrong imo. Most people don't change in any significant way after the age of 30, but most people mature and learn from experience. Usually bullying/making fun of other people to their face with the purpose of hurting them for no reason is a peer pressure thing and that is most prevalent when you are a teenager. Most people grow out of this I think. Many people are forced to change. For the average person you can't just go around being an asshole to people, because in the adult world this has much more severe consequences. The reason most people don't go to their high school reunions is likely because they just don't care. Many people probably didn't care for their experience in high school.
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Post by novastar6 on Jun 5, 2021 2:38:24 GMT
I disagree, most people don't change, which is why a lot of people never attend their high school reunions, they know the people that treated them like shit 20-40-50 years ago are going to do the same shit all over again to show off and be 'funny' and 'cool'.
You are absolutely wrong imo. Most people don't change in any significant way after the age of 30, but most people mature and learn from experience. Usually bullying/making fun of other people to their face with the purpose of hurting them for no reason is a peer pressure thing and that is most prevalent when you are a teenager. Most people grow out of this I think. Many people are forced to change. For the average person you can't just go around being an asshole to people, because in the adult world this has much more severe consequences. The reason most people don't go to their high school reunions is likely because they just don't care. Many people probably didn't care for their experience in high school.
Bullies don't survive by declaring war on the entire school. They don't go after the star athletes, the popular kids, they go after the ones that nobody is going to step up to defend, they usually have a few pet victims they target more than anybody else, and when anyone else is around who MIGHT actually do something, they're just as nice and agreeable and easy to get along with as anybody else, so the victims are always told they're being too sensitive and making too big a deal out of it. People like that full well exist in the adult world, 'normal' and 'easygoing' with 90% of people, hell personified to a handful for whatever the reason they decide they have to treat these people like shit to feel big about themselves. Think of the cops who beat their wives but all their buddies at the station swear up and down 'oh he's a great guy, he would NEVER!', not to them, not to anyone else, just to those they can dominate over because they're weaker, smaller, undermine them, cross them, etc.
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Post by moviemouth on Jun 5, 2021 2:43:18 GMT
You are absolutely wrong imo. Most people don't change in any significant way after the age of 30, but most people mature and learn from experience. Usually bullying/making fun of other people to their face with the purpose of hurting them for no reason is a peer pressure thing and that is most prevalent when you are a teenager. Most people grow out of this I think. Many people are forced to change. For the average person you can't just go around being an asshole to people, because in the adult world this has much more severe consequences. The reason most people don't go to their high school reunions is likely because they just don't care. Many people probably didn't care for their experience in high school.
Bullies don't survive by declaring war on the entire school. They don't go after the star athletes, the popular kids, they go after the ones that nobody is going to step up to defend, they usually have a few pet victims they target more than anybody else, and when anyone else is around who MIGHT actually do something, they're just as nice and agreeable and easy to get along with as anybody else, so the victims are always told they're being too sensitive and making too big a deal out of it. People like that full well exist in the adult world, 'normal' and 'easygoing' with 90% of people, hell personified to a handful for whatever the reason they decide they have to treat these people like shit to feel big about themselves. Think of the cops who beat their wives but all their buddies at the station swear up and down 'oh he's a great guy, he would NEVER!', not to them, not to anyone else, just to those they can dominate over because they're weaker, smaller, undermine them, cross them, etc.
I didn't say they don't exist in the adult world. They do obviously and in large numbers. There are 8 billion people on the planet and I said most people. 6 billion is most people, so that still leaves 2 billion people who are complete scumbags. I think it is way more complicated than either of us are able to calculate though, so without being able to survey the lives and times of every human being I can only speculate and take from my own experience and observations. You said you don't think people change and that is what I am objecting to. It is an absolute fact that people change, whether for better or worse. Interesting fact for you - The human mind doesn't even fully develop until age 25. The human brain isn't fully developed until 25 years of age. Everything is there except for the frontal cortex, which is the last thing to mature. An immature frontal cortex explains the spectrum of teenage behaviors: it's what makes adolescents adolescent. The frontal cortex extends from the area behind the forehead back to the precentral gyrus. As a whole, the frontal lobe is responsible for higher cognitive functions such as memory, emotions, impulse control, problem solving, social interaction, and motor function.
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