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Post by alittlebirdie on Jul 2, 2021 16:04:12 GMT
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Post by someguy on Jul 2, 2021 17:17:50 GMT
Early 30s. For most people, they would still be in their physical prime, or pretty close at least, but also have accumulated enough money to afford children, and they’ve gotten the excitement of early adulthood and independence out of their system.
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Post by TutuAnimationPrincess on Jul 2, 2021 17:37:10 GMT
I don't necessarily think there's one designated age range that's definitely the best. Late 20s/early 30s sounds best on paper, but mere numbers don't measure one's maturity. People should start a family when they want one, when they feel they can handle one, and, most importantly, when they can afford one. The age is irrelevant.
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Post by Jokers_Wilde on Jul 2, 2021 18:03:16 GMT
I'll never know the feeling of this, BUT...
When I was born, my father and mother were 31 and 26 respectively.
When my brother was born, they were 36 and 31.
When my niece and nephew were born, my brother and my sister-in-law were both 32.
Joker's Wilde
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jul 2, 2021 21:42:05 GMT
I don't necessarily think there's one designated age range that's definitely the best. Late 20s/early 30s sounds best on paper, but mere numbers don't measure one's maturity. People should start a family when they want one, when they feel they can handle one, and, most importantly, when they can afford one. The age is irrelevant. I agree with a lot of your points Tutu, it has to feel right, but.. well my question assumes that a couple want to have kids eventually. My thing is many people wait until the "right time" or until they've done 'enough living' themselves. It's never really the right time, you're never really ready, imo. Even if you don't have much money, it's amazing how resourceful you become. You have more energy and can relate to a child better when you're younger. Plus you're still young enough to have 2 or 3 kids. Of course this is all personal, just pondering.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Jul 2, 2021 21:43:29 GMT
Between 25 and 35
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jul 2, 2021 21:43:40 GMT
I'll never know the feeling of this, BUT... When I was born, my father and mother were 31 and 26 respectively. When my brother was born, they were 36 and 31. When my niece and nephew were born, my brother and my sister-in-law were both 32. Joker's Wilde ok 
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Post by ellynmacg on Jul 3, 2021 3:17:27 GMT
I checked "late 30s", but then, our kids were born when my husband was 38 and 42, and I was 36 and 40. I'm sure that had nothing to do with my checking that particular box.  |
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Post by Spitfire926f on Jul 3, 2021 4:45:35 GMT
I don't know. I was 19 when my daughter was born. It definitely wasn't ideal, but she's my ride or die bitch, been by my side for everything. We have more of a sibling type relationship because we grew up together. OTOH, I was 38 when my first grandchild was born. I'm now 44, and the grands are 5, 2, and 1. I know there are people who wait until their late 30s/early 40s to start having kids, but they must have more energy than me. I adore my grands but I can also give them back  Physically it varies. I worked as a nursing assistant up until a week before my daughter was born. Pregnancy/labor/recovery was so easy for me. I assumed my daughter would have the same experience because is also a young mom, but she had complications and difficult pregnancies/labor with all of them. So, I don't think there is a right answer. It's all very individual. All I know for sure is I have mad respect for middle-age, first time parents. I couldn't do it, nor would I want to be dealing with teens in my late 50's. |
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Post by ᵗʰᵉᵃᵘˣᵖʰᵒᵘ on Jul 3, 2021 16:11:57 GMT
Late 90s. You can take advantage of 2-for-1 value deals on nappies.  |
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Post by jamesbamesy on Jul 3, 2021 16:46:11 GMT
Late 20s at the earliest, that is if you've found a job and partner you love.
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Post by enigma72 on Jul 3, 2021 23:57:13 GMT
My youngest was born when I was 34. She has severe cerebral palsy. I wouldn't have been mature enough to deal with this in my 20's.
that said, people who have their children when they are in their early 20's, do not seem as uptight. they have more fun and kind of grow up with their kids. the kids become adults and the parents still have plenty of time to have a life.
There is no right answer. When it happens, it is right. if it doesn't, it doesn't
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jul 4, 2021 10:22:48 GMT
I checked "late 30s", but then, our kids were born when my husband was 38 and 42, and I was 36 and 40. I'm sure that had nothing to do with my checking that particular box. Thanks ellymacg There's also the spiritual aspect of birth. The soul comes into being when it's the right time. Who knows? Thanks for sharing.
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jul 4, 2021 10:35:07 GMT
I don't know. I was 19 when my daughter was born. It definitely wasn't ideal, but she's my ride or die bitch, been by my side for everything. We have more of a sibling type relationship because we grew up together. OTOH, I was 38 when my first grandchild was born. I'm now 44, and the grands are 5, 2, and 1. I know there are people who wait until their late 30s/early 40s to start having kids, but they must have more energy than me. I adore my grands but I can also give them back Physically it varies. I worked as a nursing assistant up until a week before my daughter was born. Pregnancy/labor/recovery was so easy for me. I assumed my daughter would have the same experience because is also a young mom, but she had complications and difficult pregnancies/labor with all of them. So, I don't think there is a right answer. It's all very individual. All I know for sure is I have mad respect for middle-age, first time parents. I couldn't do it, nor would I want to be dealing with teens in my late 50's. Yes, I think you're right Spitfire, as I read this thread more and more, it's very individual My thing was if I'm older, I've dealt with my crap and have more wisdom to share. So yeah,,, so my son barely talks to me. lol This is what I've been thinking about hence this thread, if I started earlier I would be closer in age, more energy, done younger. All the things you have with your daughter. But then who has a crystal ball? Maybe if I had ... well we'll never know Thanks for sharing, and nice to read about your lovely family
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jul 4, 2021 10:45:31 GMT
My youngest was born when I was 34. She has severe cerebral palsy. I wouldn't have been mature enough to deal with this in my 20's. that said, people who have their children when they are in their early 20's, do not seem as uptight. they have more fun and kind of grow up with their kids. the kids become adults and the parents still have plenty of time to have a life. There is no right answer. When it happens, it is right. if it doesn't, it doesn'tI wrote to Spitefire why I started this thread, but you're right, there's no right answer. Every soul has perfect timing. Thanks for sharing enigma
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Post by Nora on Jul 4, 2021 14:15:31 GMT
I don't know. I was 19 when my daughter was born. It definitely wasn't ideal, but she's my ride or die bitch, been by my side for everything. We have more of a sibling type relationship because we grew up together. OTOH, I was 38 when my first grandchild was born. I'm now 44, and the grands are 5, 2, and 1. I know there are people who wait until their late 30s/early 40s to start having kids, but they must have more energy than me. I adore my grands but I can also give them back Physically it varies. I worked as a nursing assistant up until a week before my daughter was born. Pregnancy/labor/recovery was so easy for me. I assumed my daughter would have the same experience because is also a young mom, but she had complications and difficult pregnancies/labor with all of them. So, I don't think there is a right answer. It's all very individual. All I know for sure is I have mad respect for middle-age, first time parents. I couldn't do it, nor would I want to be dealing with teens in my late 50's. I used to think mid to late 30s but now I say EARLY TWENTIES provided the person is at least somewhat mentally equipped to become a parent and/or has a good support system. Must be great to be in your forties and have an adult child as well as grandchild and still have decades of life ahead of you. Enjoy! |
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Post by Spitfire926f on Jul 4, 2021 15:02:00 GMT
I don't know. I was 19 when my daughter was born. It definitely wasn't ideal, but she's my ride or die bitch, been by my side for everything. We have more of a sibling type relationship because we grew up together. OTOH, I was 38 when my first grandchild was born. I'm now 44, and the grands are 5, 2, and 1. I know there are people who wait until their late 30s/early 40s to start having kids, but they must have more energy than me. I adore my grands but I can also give them back Physically it varies. I worked as a nursing assistant up until a week before my daughter was born. Pregnancy/labor/recovery was so easy for me. I assumed my daughter would have the same experience because is also a young mom, but she had complications and difficult pregnancies/labor with all of them. So, I don't think there is a right answer. It's all very individual. All I know for sure is I have mad respect for middle-age, first time parents. I couldn't do it, nor would I want to be dealing with teens in my late 50's. Yes, I think you're right Spitfire, as I read this thread more and more, it's very individual My thing was if I'm older, I've dealt with my crap and have more wisdom to share. So yeah,,, so my son barely talks to me. lol This is what I've been thinking about hence this thread, if I started earlier I would be closer in age, more energy, done younger. All the things you have with your daughter. But then who has a crystal ball? Maybe if I had ... well we'll never know Thanks for sharing, and nice to read about your lovely family Honestly, it wasn't easy for my daughter. I gave her a decent childhood, but her father and I split up before she was born and that was difficult. I made mistakes for sure, and she didn't have the stability a parent more established can give their child. Like I said, it wasn't ideal, but I'm proud of the person my daughter turned out to be. How old is your son? |
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Post by Ass_E9 on Jul 4, 2021 18:12:01 GMT
Late 20s, so you have the stamina to keep up with your kids when they're in their 20s?  |
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Post by novastar6 on Jul 4, 2021 18:15:50 GMT
I used to think it was ideal to have your first child as soon as you were 18/19, it's what my mom did, it's what most people of her generation did, why not? You're out of school, you're an adult, why not? Then I got a little older and realized everybody needs to spend a few years post-school to do what THEY want to do, so they'll actually have a few experiences instead of having to put them on a 20 year shelf for when their kids are grown up and they finally get a part of their life back to themselves.
I still think people who marry and start families young when they don't know much of anything might be ideal simply because ignorance is bliss and when you don't know what you don't know you're happier, when you're older, having kids might seem like a good idea, but an actual spouse, relationship, marriage? If you ain't done it yet, the appeal has already worn off.
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Post by gameboy on Jul 5, 2021 16:37:13 GMT
Quite frankly most the heterosexuals on this thread don't realize their real purpose as breeders. There's a reason you're fertile in your adolescence. Lol.
Of course in today's world one has to wait until they're prepared to enter the workforce. But I can't see the existential purpose for heterosexuals if they wait until they're in their 30's to have children.
Mid 20's is probably the best time for a married couple to start reproduction of new humans in the 21st century.
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