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Post by NJtoTX on Aug 17, 2021 20:49:13 GMT
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Post by klawrencio79 on Aug 17, 2021 20:54:51 GMT
I hope it's not drawn out and painful.
I don't fear it.
I have a bucket list and am processing through it (slowly but surely).
I care what happens to my body after (insofar as I don't want to be buried in a cemetery, but rather, I want to be cremated and have my ashes scattered in the ocean or on top of a mountain).
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Post by sdm3 on Aug 17, 2021 21:05:48 GMT
I must admit I think about it a lot. It comes and goes, especially recently.
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Post by tristramshandy on Aug 17, 2021 21:06:55 GMT
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Post by tristramshandy on Aug 17, 2021 21:07:57 GMT
Of all of the questions, the one I have the strongest opinion about is making sure I'm gone before either of my kids are.
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Post by klawrencio79 on Aug 17, 2021 21:10:11 GMT
I must admit I think about it a lot. It comes and goes, especially recently. I fear, and think about, the deaths of others, but not so much my own. I guess having lost my father many years ago and with the prospect of losing my mom growing ever-closer, it's natural. The whole prospect of what lies ahead - watching her go, wrapping up her estate, cleaning out and selling her house (all of which compounds the grief); it will be rough.
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Post by sdm3 on Aug 17, 2021 21:11:19 GMT
To clarify, I don’t necessarily mean I want to die or anything in a really morbid sense. It’s just a looming presence in the mind. My wife and I have “agreed” that I’m dying after her, but I often wonder how it would be if it were the other way around.
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Post by Rey Kahuka on Aug 17, 2021 21:37:29 GMT
Picard: Someone once told me that time was a predator that stalked us all our lives. But I rather believe than time is a companion who goes with us on the journey, and reminds us to cherish every moment because they'll never come again. What we leave behind is not as important how we lived. After all, Number One, we're only mortal.
Riker: [smiling] Speak for yourself, sir. I plan to live forever.
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Post by Xeliou66 on Aug 17, 2021 23:02:19 GMT
I think about death rather often, and while I don’t fear it in general I am afraid it might be painful, and I don’t want that. Other than that I don’t fear death at all, many days I feel like I would be better off dead than alive, I feel that I might be at peace if I was dead instead of dealing with my issues/demons that I have right now.
I don’t know if there’s an afterlife, I tend to think there isn’t one but who really knows what happens when you’re dead, and there might be an afterlife, I kind of hope there’s some kind of an afterlife but I tend to doubt it.
I’ve contemplated suicide plenty of times and came close to attempting it once as a teenager but I don’t think I’ll ever do it, like I say, I’m afraid of the pain or of something going wrong. And I do have things in life that I enjoy, enough to keep me from taking my own life. But I am very lonely and depressed much of the time, and not many people would care if I killed myself, I do not have close relationships with many people.
So those are my feelings about death - rather morbid I know, but that’s how I feel.
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Post by NJtoTX on Aug 17, 2021 23:14:18 GMT
I think about death rather often, and while I don’t fear it in general I am afraid it might be painful, and I don’t want that. Other than that I don’t fear death at all, many days I feel like I would be better off dead than alive, I feel that I might be at peace if I was dead instead of dealing with my issues/demons that I have right now. I don’t know if there’s an afterlife, I tend to think there isn’t one but who really knows what happens when you’re dead, and there might be an afterlife, I kind of hope there’s some kind of an afterlife but I tend to doubt it. I’ve contemplated suicide plenty of times and came close to attempting it once as a teenager but I don’t think I’ll ever do it, like I say, I’m afraid of the pain or of something going wrong. And I do have things in life that I enjoy, enough to keep me from taking my own life. But I am very lonely and depressed much of the time, and not many people would care if I killed myself, I do not have close relationships with many people. So those are my feelings about death - rather morbid I know, but that’s how I feel. I can relate to a lot of that. Life can be wearying. I've also lost most everyone imoortant to me, and I'm mostly out of sight, out of mind to the few that are. I debated checking that "may make it happen" box.
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Post by Rey Kahuka on Aug 17, 2021 23:36:19 GMT
I forbid any valued members of this board from dying.
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Post by hoskotafe3 on Aug 17, 2021 23:59:41 GMT
I don't fear it at all. Not for me or my loved ones. I mean when my sister died it sucked and was incredibly sad, but I don't live in fear it might happen again. I was fortunate to have a very strong relationship with that sister so I don't look back with regret that I didn't see enough of her. Taught me to stay in touch with my other two sisters.
Two of my good friends from school committed suicide within 2 days of each other about 2010 I think it was. Again, the confusion was brutal, but I don't live in fear of it happening again. I do my best when I have a friend going through a hard time. That's all I can do.
I'm a religious man, but life and death are pretty random. Ultimately your days are numbered, so use them wisely.
If I live to be 90 I might end up like my grandfather. He told me "A man can live too long. All my friends are gone. The world I knew is gone." He died of natural causes a few weeks later. But I don't fear that either.
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Post by klawrencio79 on Aug 18, 2021 0:51:27 GMT
I think about death rather often, and while I don’t fear it in general I am afraid it might be painful, and I don’t want that. Other than that I don’t fear death at all, many days I feel like I would be better off dead than alive, I feel that I might be at peace if I was dead instead of dealing with my issues/demons that I have right now. I don’t know if there’s an afterlife, I tend to think there isn’t one but who really knows what happens when you’re dead, and there might be an afterlife, I kind of hope there’s some kind of an afterlife but I tend to doubt it. I’ve contemplated suicide plenty of times and came close to attempting it once as a teenager but I don’t think I’ll ever do it, like I say, I’m afraid of the pain or of something going wrong. And I do have things in life that I enjoy, enough to keep me from taking my own life. But I am very lonely and depressed much of the time, and not many people would care if I killed myself, I do not have close relationships with many people. So those are my feelings about death - rather morbid I know, but that’s how I feel. It takes a lot of guts to openly admit a lot of the feelings that you have. Honestly, a lot of people have trouble opening up about those types of feelings and it can only hasten the problem. I know that doesn't alleviate the struggles that you have, but hopefully you can find some comfort in knowing that simply admitting these feelings requires a good amount of strength. Life can be tough, man, for sure. I won't sit here and offer platitudes or anything, but just know that if you were gone, the people on this board would definitely care.
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Post by Xeliou66 on Aug 18, 2021 1:01:57 GMT
I think about death rather often, and while I don’t fear it in general I am afraid it might be painful, and I don’t want that. Other than that I don’t fear death at all, many days I feel like I would be better off dead than alive, I feel that I might be at peace if I was dead instead of dealing with my issues/demons that I have right now. I don’t know if there’s an afterlife, I tend to think there isn’t one but who really knows what happens when you’re dead, and there might be an afterlife, I kind of hope there’s some kind of an afterlife but I tend to doubt it. I’ve contemplated suicide plenty of times and came close to attempting it once as a teenager but I don’t think I’ll ever do it, like I say, I’m afraid of the pain or of something going wrong. And I do have things in life that I enjoy, enough to keep me from taking my own life. But I am very lonely and depressed much of the time, and not many people would care if I killed myself, I do not have close relationships with many people. So those are my feelings about death - rather morbid I know, but that’s how I feel. It takes a lot of guts to openly admit a lot of the feelings that you have. Honestly, a lot of people have trouble opening up about those types of feelings and it can only hasten the problem. I know that doesn't alleviate the struggles that you have, but hopefully you can find some comfort in knowing that simply admitting these feelings requires a good amount of strength. Life can be tough, man, for sure. I won't sit here and offer platitudes or anything, but just know that if you were gone, the people on this board would definitely care. Thanks for your nice words my friend. I greatly enjoy coming to this board and posting, it’s a very nice community we have here.
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Post by klawrencio79 on Aug 18, 2021 1:04:41 GMT
I forbid any valued members of this board from dying.
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Post by tristramshandy on Aug 18, 2021 1:49:59 GMT
But I am very lonely and depressed much of the time, and not many people would care if I killed myself, I do not have close relationships with many people. I know it's not the exact same as being able to see people in the flesh and that what we do here might not be "close relationships", but I enjoy this board. I enjoy the people on this board. When someone goes missing for a while by their own choice or have been banned temporarily, I miss them being here. I was on vacation for 17 days recently and I didn't check in as much as I usually do, and I was happy when my vacation was over, so I could check back in (the vacation was good too, but I did miss here as well). I like talking to you about baseball and football. That brings me happiness. I understand that this board isn't going to make up for loneliness and depression, but I would absolutely care if you weren't here. You are valued by me and I'm sure by many others here as well.
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Post by Xeliou66 on Aug 18, 2021 1:52:07 GMT
But I am very lonely and depressed much of the time, and not many people would care if I killed myself, I do not have close relationships with many people. I know it's not the exact same as being able to see people in the flesh and that what we do here might not be "close relationships", but I enjoy this board. I enjoy the people on this board. When someone goes missing for a while by their own choice or have been banned temporarily, I miss them being here. I was on vacation for 17 days recently and I didn't check in as much as I usually do, and I was happy when my vacation was over, so I could check back in (the vacation was good too, but I did miss here as well). I like talking to you about baseball and football. That brings me happiness. I understand that this board isn't going to make up for loneliness and depression, but I would absolutely care if you weren't here. You are valued by me and I'm sure by many others here as well. Thank you my friend - as I said above, I love our community here on this board and I love discussing sports with the people here, it’s a really nice community we have and I always miss posters when they disappear from the board for a while.
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Post by Rufus-T on Aug 18, 2021 1:53:24 GMT
A morbid topic. I try not to think about my own death. Too busy trying to live correctly. Although, it does come across the mind.
I hope it's not drawn out and painful. - It is not death I am concern, but the process of dying.
It will be as if I'd never lived.
I don't have a bucket list.
I don't care what happens to my body after.
Other - I thought when we die, we wake up in a pod with wires connect to the back of our head.
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Post by Rey Kahuka on Aug 18, 2021 2:40:50 GMT
My earlier dopey post forbidding anyone from dying was shorthand for what some other posters have expressed much more eloquently. I know it isn't the same as real world friendships, but if any of you are ever feeling down, just know you have a community here who truly values and appreciates your presence. Even if your team sucks.  |
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Post by Jep Gambardella on Aug 18, 2021 3:18:49 GMT
I don’t think much about it. I worry more about retirement than I do about death. I hope I can hang around for another twenty years at least, which would bring me to mid-seventies. I don’t think I want to go much further than 80. Ideally I will get a cancer diagnosis in my late 70s with a prognosis of an extra year or so, which would give me time to wrap things up nice and proper and then take the early checkout option before things get too bad.
I don’t believe in an afterlife at all but nothing would please me more than finding out I was wrong about that all along.
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