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Post by moviemouth on Aug 26, 2021 5:40:18 GMT
You have to realize that some people have reached a point of no return in their mind. They no longer care. There is a point where you have to give up or you will just cause yourself to become more miserable. You got to let go in some cases. You also have to realize that everyone isn't the same. Some people are stronger than other people. There are people who have run out of fucks to give. I struggle with this every day. I have become borderline indifferent to what happens to me and I am trying to hang on tightly to caring about what happens to other people. I say that, because if that goes away then I have nothing left to live for. When you are existing just for the sake of existing then what is even the point? Harping on things can come from a place of concern. Harping on something just means that you keep bringing it up. If that isn't what you are doing then I take that back. You could be doing it and not even realizing that you are coming off a certain way. Part of everyone's problems is that it is very difficult to see ourselves from the perspective of other people. Self-awareness has a limit. People have to want to change. You can only do so much. Yeah, thank you for the reply and sharing your perspective. appreciate it. I do wanna reply to this more and hear more about you, you seem kinda interesting... I'm just actually really tired right now lol. Dont be offended pleasexD I'll come bsck and reply tomorrow hopefully. I get pretty busy I'm not offended at all. I am an open book and willing to keep talking to anyone as long as they aren't being disrespectful and aren't making me too uncomfortable.
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Post by langdona on Sept 12, 2021 23:38:04 GMT
Yeah I agree about him taking it as an insult.. I think its some kind of knee jerk reaction. He does continously do it though...so instead of being an asshole that nobody wants to be around...he should do some self reflection and work on himself. I'm not perfect at all but at least I try to fix things. Its selfish to just act whatever way you want...not caring about the consequences to your health or to others and then bitch(and refuse to think about it) when someone points it out that you should change. I don't harp on things, I do come from a place of concern. Have you told your father that his insult hurt your feelings and it is making you lose respect for him? Have you asked him whether he wants to change or wants things to get better? There are people who like wallowing in their own misery. That get a twisted pleasure from it. This is a real thing. Is he the kind of person who you can even sit down and have a discussion with? Based on what you have said it seems not. I want to help, but I don't know how you would get around this without him getting annoyed and angry every time and just walking away. He seems very stubborn. I avoided my dad until today actually. I just acted like nothing happened lol.. because its more a pain to argue and bring up hurt feelings. But its funny because recently I wanted to see what was up with some family I haven't seen in a while. A lot of pathetic people on my father's side. One of my uncles is an alcoholic and drug addict...he's also just extremely paranoid. He told me one of my other uncle's approached him and said he was worried about him but then said my other uncle had dementia or something. He hasn't seen his daughters in years and years... Also said some racist crap, my dad is racist too. Anyway, my cousin is in rehab or some in patient thing..he keeps getting in trouble. He got divorced, idk if he sees his kids. But his mom, my aunt might be the most normal one. Even she has been married 3 times or some ridiculous amount lmao. Another aunt still hates me and won't talk to me. I'd honestly kill myself if I end up like some of these people, specifically my dad, uncle or cousin. Terrible fathers to their children tbh. /end rant xD |
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Post by moviemouth on Sept 12, 2021 23:48:29 GMT
Have you told your father that his insult hurt your feelings and it is making you lose respect for him? Have you asked him whether he wants to change or wants things to get better? There are people who like wallowing in their own misery. That get a twisted pleasure from it. This is a real thing. Is he the kind of person who you can even sit down and have a discussion with? Based on what you have said it seems not. I want to help, but I don't know how you would get around this without him getting annoyed and angry every time and just walking away. He seems very stubborn. I avoided my dad until today actually. I just acted like nothing happened lol.. because its more a pain to argue and bring up hurt feelings. But its funny because recently I wanted to see what was up with some family I haven't seen in a while. A lot of pathetic people on my father's side. One of my uncles is an alcoholic and drug addict...he's also just extremely paranoid. He told me one of my other uncle's approached him and said he was worried about him but then said my other uncle had dementia or something. He hasn't seen his daughters in years and years... Also said some racist crap, my dad is racist too. Anyway, my cousin is in rehab or some in patient thing..he keeps getting in trouble. He got divorced, idk if he sees his kids. But his mom, my aunt might be the most normal one. Even she has been married 3 times or some ridiculous amount lmao. Another aunt still hates me and won't talk to me. I'd honestly kill myself if I end up like some of these people, specifically my dad, uncle or cousin. Terrible fathers to their children tbh. /end rant xD Not sure how to respond.
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Post by langdona on Sept 13, 2021 0:19:57 GMT
I avoided my dad until today actually. I just acted like nothing happened lol.. because its more a pain to argue and bring up hurt feelings. But its funny because recently I wanted to see what was up with some family I haven't seen in a while. A lot of pathetic people on my father's side. One of my uncles is an alcoholic and drug addict...he's also just extremely paranoid. He told me one of my other uncle's approached him and said he was worried about him but then said my other uncle had dementia or something. He hasn't seen his daughters in years and years... Also said some racist crap, my dad is racist too. Anyway, my cousin is in rehab or some in patient thing..he keeps getting in trouble. He got divorced, idk if he sees his kids. But his mom, my aunt might be the most normal one. Even she has been married 3 times or some ridiculous amount lmao. Another aunt still hates me and won't talk to me. I'd honestly kill myself if I end up like some of these people, specifically my dad, uncle or cousin. Terrible fathers to their children tbh. /end rant xD Not sure how to respond. No need!  |
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