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Post by hi224 on Sept 22, 2021 2:37:47 GMT
Maybe this would be the wrong place to mention this as well.
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Post by gameboy on Sept 22, 2021 3:45:57 GMT
Yes. My dad was a workaholic and I felt betrayed by him. When I was an adult I didn't speak to him for 10 years.
However, he was good to my mother and there was no abuse in my family. He supported us and put me through college.
When he was old and sick we finally became friends.
So I forgave him.
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Post by onethreetwo on Sept 22, 2021 4:20:48 GMT
Not anymore. It was strained for the first 30ish years, but I like him as the person he is now.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Sept 22, 2021 7:59:47 GMT
I have no relationship with my father, i cut him out of my life years ago.
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Sept 22, 2021 20:40:43 GMT
I have no relationship with my father, i cut him out of my life years ago. Same here.
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Post by langdona on Sept 22, 2021 22:18:22 GMT
Maybe
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Post by Sarge on Sept 23, 2021 5:37:44 GMT
We didn't have much of a relationship, then he died. Most of what I know about him was told to me after he died, and half of that is surely bullshit. He had good traits and bad ones, but I don't have any good memories of him.
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Post by Vodkie on Sept 23, 2021 11:56:09 GMT
He's dead. I didn't have one at all after age 8.
He chose to move out before i was 3.
Not only was he cheating on my mother, he was honest about it
He basically told my mom "you already know I'm cheating right? I'm getting my own apartment so I can bang my mistresses without risking the kids finding out. "
Karma got him. He had a stroke while driving in 1991. I saw him on weekends. He had to travel the 140 mile round trip since we had moved in 1990 to come get me and my brother On Friday then again on sunday
One sunday, karma got him. He had a stroke while driving home, which caused a car accident.
His car was old and produced without seat belts because it was produced before seat belts were required by law.
The car accident left him paralyzed, brain damaged, and cared for in a nursing home until his 2013 death
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Post by Ass_E9 on Sept 23, 2021 17:13:35 GMT
Bad, no. And his parenting improved with experience over the years; more able to listen and be accepting.
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Sept 23, 2021 17:33:47 GMT
I have no relationship with my father, i cut him out of my life years ago. Same here. Since some folks have gone into a little more detail, I will too. I didn't meet my dad until I was 8. After that, even though he knew where I lived and had my phone number, I can count one hand how many times he made an effort to call or come see me or get me. And its not like he was far away. We all lived in the same borough (If you don't know what a borough it, its like saying he lived in the other side of town or in the same county). IMO that's like not making any effort at all. How hard is it to make a ten minute drive to see your own child? By the time I was in my early teens we'd lost contact with one another again. I'm middle aged now. And since then, I've only spoken to him once, about two years ago. We basically talked about the weather for a half hour. A man is not a man if he makes children all over the place (yes there are others too) but doesn't take care about them or care for them. A man is not a man if he cant swallow his pride and say "I'm sorry for how things turned out". I would never do to anyone what my father did. Regardless, I decided long ago to put it out of my head and be a good person without.
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Post by monicah on Sept 23, 2021 18:40:22 GMT
I never really had a relationship with my dad growing up and don’t really have much of one now but it’s better now than it was then. It’s just casual we talk at times but I’m not like really close to him. He’s a really hard person to get to close to
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Post by FridayOnElmStreet on Sept 23, 2021 19:32:46 GMT
I dont have the best relationship with all my family members but my parents and I are very close. I have been helping him out more since he had a stoke last October.
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