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Post by langdona on Sept 22, 2021 22:12:12 GMT
....you can go out and do alone. nobody even talks during a movie, at least they shouldn't be. Its a pretty great solo activity actually.
Now going to a restuarant and eating alone is fcking awkward. People who do that alone regularly are special. Do y'all do that?
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Post by Sarge on Sept 23, 2021 5:04:30 GMT
I used to go to matinées alone all the time, sometimes I've been the only person in the theater. Love it. I've also gone to restaurants alone, it confuses the staff who keep asking if you're waiting for someone.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Sept 23, 2021 8:15:17 GMT
I agree
I can go to the cinema, to a museum and travel all over the world alone, i have no problem with that and i prefer it.
But i could not go and eat alone at a restaurant, that is the one thing i can not do alone.
I just go and buy takeaway and go back to the hotel room and eat there.
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Post by PreachCaleb on Sept 23, 2021 13:43:20 GMT
Eating alone in a restaurant is no more awkward than watching a movie alone. It can be a relaxing experience. Sometimes, I just want to enjoy a nice meal. No talking, no waiting for anyone else to figure out what they want, no splitting the bill. I can eat at my own pace and leave when I feel like it.
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Post by Stammerhead on Sept 23, 2021 14:41:15 GMT
I just pretend to be a food critic… 
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Post by Nora on Sept 23, 2021 17:05:36 GMT
....you can go out and do alone. nobody even talks during a movie, at least they shouldn't be. Its a pretty great solo activity actually. Now going to a restuarant and eating alone is fcking awkward. People who do that alone regularly are special. Do y'all do that? I go to the movies alone 90% of the time, since I go every other day, and i dont mind it at all. Not anymore anyway. I occasionally eat alone in restaurants too, or more like cafes, and usually have something to read at the same time or I play with my phone. Somehow just sitting there staring in front of me while eating would feel weird yes. Just a few days ago my phone died on me and I had to recharge it so I did it at a restaurant (the hostess kept it in her charging station) while I sat at the bar and had a salad. The bartender was busy on the other side of the bar, preparing drinks for the tables and there were no other patrons at the bar. And there was literally NOTHING to read, so I just ate my salad while reading the labels of the alcohol bottles in front of me. In general if I have something to read I dont mind eating alone (although most likely its just a quick bite like a salad or soup not a 3 course meal) but this one experience was weird even for me. 
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Post by Nora on Sept 23, 2021 17:06:21 GMT
Eating alone in a restaurant is no more awkward than watching a movie alone. It can be a relaxing experience. Sometimes, I just want to enjoy a nice meal. No talking, no waiting for anyone else to figure out what they want, no splitting the bill. I can eat at my own pace and leave when I feel like it. do you read something while you do eat out alone, or use your phone or do you really just eat and focus on eating only?
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Post by PreachCaleb on Sept 23, 2021 21:53:49 GMT
Eating alone in a restaurant is no more awkward than watching a movie alone. It can be a relaxing experience. Sometimes, I just want to enjoy a nice meal. No talking, no waiting for anyone else to figure out what they want, no splitting the bill. I can eat at my own pace and leave when I feel like it. do you read something while you do eat out alone, or use your phone or do you really just eat and focus on eating only? I've done all of the above. I tend to read or use the phone mostly in between while I'm waiting for my meal to come out or when I'm done and just letting the food settle a bit.
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Post by langdona on Sept 23, 2021 22:54:57 GMT
Eating alone in a restaurant is no more awkward than watching a movie alone. It can be a relaxing experience. Sometimes, I just want to enjoy a nice meal. No talking, no waiting for anyone else to figure out what they want, no splitting the bill. I can eat at my own pace and leave when I feel like it. I guess with me its a weird feeling...like people are watching me. I feel I have to hurry up and leave since I would be taking up space... Eating at a restuarant seems more social to me, I would like to be talking to someone during the meal. But yeah, I honestly haven't even been to a restuarant alone in years. it was something I'd try occasionally when I was single, felt odd
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Post by langdona on Sept 23, 2021 23:09:59 GMT
I agree I can go to the cinema, to a museum and travel all over the world alone, i have no problem with that and i prefer it. But i could not go and eat alone at a restaurant, that is the one thing i can not do alone. I just go and buy takeaway and go back to the hotel room and eat there. Museums are nice alone. with others it could be a different experience, good or bad. Once went with a girl and felt very rushed through the museum and I was pretty annoyed... But I've been with my niece and nephew too, obviously with kids you don't get to view it the same but its an experience I enjoy. I look forward to bringing my kids to some museums when they get older and covid as much of a thing... the Field Museum in Chicago is my fav 
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Post by politicidal on Sept 24, 2021 2:46:30 GMT
Movies, sure a few times. Restaurants, I just get takeout. It's simpler.
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Post by TheGoodMan19 on Sept 24, 2021 3:17:05 GMT
I went to see Godfather III by myself. Got my ticket, walked into the theater and the nine people there stood up, cheered and applauded. I though maybe they thought i was Al Pacino or something (I look nothing like Al). I was confused through the whole film. A guy came up to me after and told me "The manager had cam in before and said that if he didn't have 10 people show, he wasn't showing the movie".
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Post by phantomparticle on Sept 24, 2021 8:54:29 GMT
I've never had a problem or felt awkward about going to the movies or to a restaurant alone, even when I was a kid.
As a single child, when my friends weren't around I found ways to entertain myself, even if it was just walking around the city and visiting the various 5&10's and department stores. If I had the money, a quarter in the fifties, I went to movies on my own and often remained after a Saturday matinee to see the adult feature even though the gang had gone home. Wound up watching films like Butterfield 8 as the only kid in the theatre while the usher (remember those?) stood by and scratched his head.
It was nothing to me to sit at a Woolworth's counter alone and order a hamburger and coke. For years I carried a paperback book in a coat pocket and read while waiting for my order in a restaurant. Never thought it was odd or paid attention to those around me. I've always been able to enjoy the relative solitude in my own space, and that has carried through to today in my late years.
And in case you are wondering, no, I'm not a hermit or old fogie. I've been a member of the theatrical community since high school and completely comfortable in the company of many people or alone with my own thoughts.
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Post by ck100 on Sept 24, 2021 8:56:22 GMT
I've gone to the movie theater plenty of times by myself and it has never bothered me once.
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Post by twothousandonemark on Sept 24, 2021 12:51:22 GMT
Movies as a social thing I always found overrated, though it probably takes someone a few times to realize that. Restaurants alone isn't that strange unless maybe it's somewhere far to drive to or a very family oriented place. Most places nowadays have bars to sit at which is actually more welcoming for soloists.
This reminds me of using stalls in a public washroom. When I'm at your house, do I piss with the door open?
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Post by PreachCaleb on Sept 24, 2021 13:33:36 GMT
I can understand how some people might feel that way, but as long as you're a customer paying for your meal, there's no reason to feel you're taking up space. That space is meant to be taken up by someone who is there to eat. Believe me, the restaurant would rather have one person at the table than no person at the table.
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Post by DanaShelbyChancey on Sept 24, 2021 15:03:22 GMT
Back when I was single in my 20's and 30's I did both things alone. The only thing was, I usually went to matinees of movies, or late afternoon/ early evening shows. I even went once on a Saturday night, and it wasn't awkward. No one ever said "Are you alone? What's wrong with you?"
I used to go to diners and eat dinner and read a magazine. It was great after a long work week. I went after the lunch crowd and before the dinner rush. I was at one diner and a few servers said things about me being alone, and that made me feel funny. So I found another place, where the staff didn't mind that I was alone, they were happy to have me there.
Now I'm 65 and been married 28 years, movies are expensive and we are too tired to go out to eat.
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Post by langdona on Sept 24, 2021 21:06:13 GMT
I can understand how some people might feel that way, but as long as you're a customer paying for your meal, there's no reason to feel you're taking up space. That space is meant to be taken up by someone who is there to eat. Believe me, the restaurant would rather have one person at the table than no person at the table. haha you're right, its definitely not the most rational thought. I think it is a bit of a social anxiety thing. idk, do you ever go into a grocery store and feel awkward taking too long to pick out an avocado? Literally nobody cares how long I take looking at the produce but I do somehow think... "ah I better hurry up or these random ass people in the produce section are going to think I'm dumb"
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Post by NewtJorden on Sept 24, 2021 22:33:32 GMT
I always prefered going to see a movie alone.
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Post by PreachCaleb on Sept 27, 2021 13:04:55 GMT
Ha ha, now that I can definitely relate to. Gotta pick out a good one, but I gotta pick it out fast. lol
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