monicah
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Post by monicah on Jan 21, 2022 21:41:33 GMT
I think anything under a year, but idk if my boyfriend proposed tonight I would say yes and we’ve only been together for 8-9 months.
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jan 21, 2022 21:53:29 GMT
I agree, under a year. But many people say "they know" before that and don't want to wait.
I heard travelling together is a good idea before marriage. You really get to know if you get on.
Logistics, interests, temperament,,,,. I know travelling is tough right now, but I thought it was a good idea.
Good Luck!
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Post by monicah on Jan 21, 2022 21:58:06 GMT
I agree, under a year. But many people say "they know" before that and don't want to wait. I heard travelling together is a good idea before marriage. You really get to know if you get on. Logistics, interests, temperament,,,,. I know travelling is tough right now, but I thought it was a good idea. Good Luck! We live together, and we talked about traveling together on a road trip or something. We’ve talked about marriage a lot and he says he knows how he will propose. I think hes going to do it around our one year anniversary  |
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Post by alittlebirdie on Jan 21, 2022 22:01:15 GMT
I agree, under a year. But many people say "they know" before that and don't want to wait. I heard travelling together is a good idea before marriage. You really get to know if you get on. Logistics, interests, temperament,,,,. I know travelling is tough right now, but I thought it was a good idea. Good Luck! We live together, and we talked about traveling together on a road trip or something. We’ve talked about marriage a lot and he says he knows how he will propose. I think hes going to do it around our one year anniversary  A road trip would be great. Sounds like it's going to happen! a little early, but congrats!!!!
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Post by Penn Guinn on Jan 21, 2022 22:07:24 GMT
monicahLiving together for an extended period of time is an excellent idea. If you are just "dating", personal habits that might be show stoppers for the other person may never become apparent. A trip involving confined space and BOTH people being in unknown situations also can be quite "telling" and might be an "eye opener". Even so ... 8-9 months may be a tad short a time to really get to know another person before making what will hopefully be a lifetime commitment.
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Post by Sandman on Jan 22, 2022 23:24:02 GMT
We live together, and we talked about traveling together on a road trip or something. We’ve talked about marriage a lot and he says he knows how he will propose. I think hes going to do it around our one year anniversary monicah I live with my girlfriend and things are going great. If I asked her to merry me pretty sure she would say yes. But with things going so good why rock the boat? |
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Post by ant-mac on Jan 22, 2022 23:27:27 GMT
A guy pulls up next to a girl at the traffic lights.
He leans out his window and says: "Wanna get married?"
She looks at him. "What?"
"I said do you wanna get married?"
She shakes her head. "No, of course not."
He shrugs. "I suppose a fuck's out of the question?"
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Post by ck100 on Jan 23, 2022 5:53:07 GMT
Well definitely too soon for under six months. I'd think it's too soon for a year, but it depends on how well the two people know each other.
I am in favor of living together as a "trial run" before any kind of commitment and would likely encourage it for a couple.
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Post by Nora on Jan 23, 2022 19:01:48 GMT
it really depends on the two people, their characters and situation. generally i would say under 6 months its too soon. but then again, my father proposed to my mom on their 3rd date, they married 5 months after they met (no my mom was not pregnant) and last week they celebrated 50 years together. So… you never know. Generally I would say if both are over 30 and a mentally developed/stable people then anything outside of six months of proper dating (not seeing each other twice a month or so but more like every other day) and have been through at least one big fight/crisis together and have spent at least a week or two together in one room/flat, and know each others friends/family, and each others medical conditions and financial situation properly, I would say why not. As long as both genuinely want to do it and believe the other person is the best person for them of course |
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Post by Catman on Jan 23, 2022 21:24:59 GMT
Catman and Catwoman got engaged three months after first meeting and were married six months later.
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Post by Stammerhead on Jan 23, 2022 22:36:34 GMT
Getting married after only meeting at a party just because the glass slipper fits is never a good idea. I mean, what kinda idiot wears glass slippers to a party?  |
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Post by mstreepsucks on Jan 24, 2022 9:18:31 GMT
under 18 is too soon to be engaged.
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Post by politicidal on Jan 24, 2022 15:42:20 GMT
Getting married after only meeting at a party just because the glass slipper fits is never a good idea. I mean, what kinda idiot wears glass slippers to a party? Attention whores.
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Post by Xcalatë on Jan 24, 2022 16:03:16 GMT
25 to 30 minutes.
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Post by Ass_E9 on Jan 24, 2022 17:24:46 GMT
Doing so before running a complete background check.
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Post by Sarge on Jan 25, 2022 5:15:04 GMT
I'm already married, sorry.
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Jan 28, 2022 6:35:24 GMT
A guy pulls up next to a girl at the traffic lights. He leans out his window and says: "Wanna get married?" She looks at him. "What?" "I said do you wanna get married?" She shakes her head. "No, of course not." He shrugs. "I suppose a fuck's out of the question?" You never fail to make me laugh!  monicah - My late husband had been married twice previously, so he insisted that we live together for a year before making that big of a commitment; he wanted me to know what I was signing up for. It was an eye-opener for sure, but the bottom line was this: I got lucky. I had no idea how he would respond to my cancer diagnosis five years after our wedding. His support during my treatment made me want to live, to fight a really difficult battle. There was no way I could have foreseen that, and it was one of the most important aspects of our marriage. And when he was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I got to repay him for all the support he had given me. We fulfilled the vow, 'in sickness and in health'. It is not possible to anticipate everything that might happen during a marriage. Hopefully, if your partner is a basically kind person, and you are familiar with each other's family, you should know him as well as one can in that time period. And don't think for a minute that you will be able to 'change' him if there is a flaw. We all have flaws; are his ones that you can live with? Good luck!
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Post by ant-mac on Jan 28, 2022 7:54:03 GMT
A guy pulls up next to a girl at the traffic lights. He leans out his window and says: "Wanna get married?" She looks at him. "What?" "I said do you wanna get married?" She shakes her head. "No, of course not." He shrugs. "I suppose a fuck's out of the question?" You never fail to make me laugh!  monicah - My late husband had been married twice previously, so he insisted that we live together for a year before making that big of a commitment; he wanted me to know what I was signing up for. It was an eye-opener for sure, but the bottom line was this: I got lucky. I had no idea how he would respond to my cancer diagnosis five years after our wedding. His support during my treatment made me want to live, to fight a really difficult battle. There was no way I could have foreseen that, and it was one of the most important aspects of our marriage. And when he was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I got to repay him for all the support he had given me. We fulfilled the vow, 'in sickness and in health'. It is not possible to anticipate everything that might happen during a marriage. Hopefully, if your partner is a basically kind person, and you are familiar with each other's family, you should know him as well as one can in that time period. And don't think for a minute that you will be able to 'change' him if there is a flaw. We all have flaws; are his ones that you can live with? Good luck! Another suggestion I've heard is to observe how he interacts and treats his mother and other female family members, as that could be a hint as to what the future may hold for his future wife.
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Post by novastar6 on Jan 28, 2022 13:41:37 GMT
I can't say much on it, my parents met once, didn't date, didn't get engaged, and got married in 2 weeks, and this July they'll have been married for 40 years. Despite this, my mom shakes her head when she hears of people getting engaged/eloping after 2/3 weeks.
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Post by rachelcarson1953 on Jan 28, 2022 17:46:29 GMT
You never fail to make me laugh! monicah - My late husband had been married twice previously, so he insisted that we live together for a year before making that big of a commitment; he wanted me to know what I was signing up for. It was an eye-opener for sure, but the bottom line was this: I got lucky. I had no idea how he would respond to my cancer diagnosis five years after our wedding. His support during my treatment made me want to live, to fight a really difficult battle. There was no way I could have foreseen that, and it was one of the most important aspects of our marriage. And when he was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I got to repay him for all the support he had given me. We fulfilled the vow, 'in sickness and in health'. It is not possible to anticipate everything that might happen during a marriage. Hopefully, if your partner is a basically kind person, and you are familiar with each other's family, you should know him as well as one can in that time period. And don't think for a minute that you will be able to 'change' him if there is a flaw. We all have flaws; are his ones that you can live with? Good luck! Another suggestion I've heard is to observe how he interacts and treats his mother and other female family members, as that could be a hint as to what the future may hold for his future wife. Absolutely. Observing his behavior towards family, and women in general, is always informative. But my husband would have failed that 'test' because his mother was abusive, and that complicates everything. Fortunately, my husband chose to go no contact with his mother, and strive to be good person, regardless of his very troubled youth. Some people can do that; others can't and remain locked in a cycle that goes on for generations. One of my requirements, if I were to start dating again (not bloody likely, I'm too old and set in my ways) is how the other person treats animals. I think that was one of the big votes in my husband's favor; my German Shepherd loved him from the first meeting. They were good buddies. Animals sense things that humans can't, or don't want to. Working, as I have for years, in animal rescue groups has given me multiple opportunities to see how cats, waiting for adoption, many times 'choose' their new family by connecting with those people, and ignoring other potential adopters. It really is fascinating to watch. But even that is no guarantee; one of my exes loved my animals, but wouldn't pay child support for his son. And he had his eye on my bank account. Honestly, it really is a crap shoot sometimes, this choosing a partner, and far too many youngsters let their hormones do the talking. Or they think that the other person will improve over time, with their guidance. By the late teens, our personalities are pretty much set. So the willingness to compromise becomes an issue. There is no formula for success; it's always on a case-by-case basis but looking at relevant behavior helps. Shared interests help, too. My college partner and I were both studying in the same field. We ended up going in different directions, but remained friends, and after my husband's death we ended up working together for a while but didn't pursue any romance; my heart was still broken and I wasn't able to even think about 'moving on'.
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