Post by lenlenlen1 on Aug 30, 2017 18:28:05 GMT
Like the damn cupcake Admin is not even gonna eat!. Then I will just begrudgingly give it to him (to make sure the sissy doesn't die of hunger) but will be super bitter about it, will be missing the cupcake later, internally hating on Admin (and the whole world) and no amount of telling myself "it was just a cupcake and you saved a human life" may bring me the joy the cupcake would have.
I am joking but I think you get the point. If someone for example gives their life for someone else, maybe, just maybe, they are not always dying "happy that they could help someone" but "afraid/sad/lonely/in pain" just trying to rationally convince themselves they did the "right thing". I have done many "right things" that I didnt internally feel I wanted to or should do. But I KNEW (rationally) that it WAS the right thing to do so I did it.
One example I can think of is a friend of mine who gave up a job because his wife (who was treated somewhat poorly there at the same company) gave it up too. He did it to show support for her. But he Really missed his job, was Super unhappy about doing it, and on some level maybe even held it against his wife for a while. Which is not great sure, but he was acting selflessly yet had bigger damage from giving up the job then joy from helping his wife. Do you know what I mean?
But your friend who gave up his job did it to show support for his wife which earned him tons o' points at home and tons o' "what a swell guy" points. What if he hadn't given up his job in support of his wife? She might have held that against him and folks might've said "well that's kinda messed up". And if his wife was being treated so badly it might be so long before he would have started being treated badly too. Now he can write on his resume that he quit; not that he was fired.
As for the cupcake, you benefit from knowing you did the right thing even if you don't actually feel good about losing the cupcake. Knowing you did the right thing is a strong motivator even if no one but yourself knows it. Plus Admin will know they owe you one (p.s. who the fuck doesn't like cupcakes?)
I know its cynical, but when you stop to think about it anything can be shown as beneficial in some way.