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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2018 4:56:47 GMT
Example? I honestly don't think I fit into this category of blaming men for my insecurities ![](https://s26.postimg.org/gf93ycxax/giveup.gif) I typically don't blame men at all and even own up to my faults, but that still doesn't mean I'm not allowed to call them out on their faults either. I missed this response Monicah.
I just see many women as seeing themselves as being a necessity for men, for what they provide for them, sex, mothering, turning them round in the right direction, taming them. Perhaps in some cases regarding men, this is a truism for what the female does for her male, but I think many women who get with men like this—and I would say my mother is like this to a certain degree—can also get bitter and resentful, because the man in their lives haven't really lived up to the standard of what they perhaps expected or felt they deserved as women. The choice made, then becomes the fault of the male, for not living up to that expectations. They end up with a loser and a tub of lard. They may think men are going to round and complete them and vice versa for men with women
We all have our faults, both men and women and like they say, familiarity can also breed contempt. Are any faults we call others out on though regardless of gender, just a projection of our own?
Generally speaking regardless of gender, people shouldn't expect something from another person when getting into a relationship with them when it's not verbally stated. I think these types of things need to be addressed before making a long term commitment. I think the mentality "I did this for you so you should do this for me" is wrong because then it's not about unconditional love in that relationship but more about what you can get from that person. When women do this it just makes it more obvious that they were using these men to get what they want and become upset when they don't get it, but a lot of that happens because of non-communication. Besides sex I don't think women should help men in those areas, men should be able to help themselves. If they're not then they will never change and are not relationship material.
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