How Good Looking do you think you are?

Women are constantly brainwashed into how their looks are just WRONG, no matter what. If they're slender, they're too skinny. If they're curvy, they're too fat. If their breasts are small and firm, they don't have any; if they're large and full, they're too floppy, etc., etc. It's no longer good enough to have their hair fixed up nicely and wear makeup; now they're pressured into having different areas of their bodies shorn, bleached, waxed, weaved, whatever. Men are usually judged on their power/financial success, so looks are far less important for them, although the cosmetic/beauty industry have been trying their best in recent years to get men interested in cosmetics and spa treatments.

Am I the only woman who prefers normally balding men over the skinhead/ex-con shaved head look?

Nora



So to sum it up... it's kind of your overall vibe from reading the person trying to gauge them as a overall person etc. pretty much the way I see it to.



Yeah, but good luck with that one. given the people around here... I would not be in a hurry to do something of that sort.



Yeah, because while there is only a small percentage of people in here compared to the general public when you look at EVERYONE out there, I would have to assume most people (as in majority) are somewhere around the average range, give or take a little. plus, since you brought up the 10's and 1's thing... I would not be surprised if the 10's were a overestimation and the 1's could be a underestimation as, just in my opinion, there are not many on either end of the extreme when looking at all people. but don't get me wrong, I am sure, when looking at individual people, there will be plenty in the below average or lower range but when looking at all people I would have to assume most are around average give or take. like say if you put things into five simple categories... ugly/below average/average/above average/cream of the crop that the vast majority would be in the below average/average/above average range (with most people being average-ish). it would almost have to be otherwise the rating scale would be flawed.



Yeah, but I think that's partially because of how society see's things as women are pressured to look good etc where as guys are not as much.


deembastille



I would not read into those words too much.

while I completely understand your point about the guy you talked about, and he does appear to be someone people are best off avoiding, I would not worry too much about the whole 'hot' 'pretty' or 'interesting' words. some people might not be all that great with words. but with that said... I could see how some people, like you did, might interpret those words the way you did because 'hot' may imply that they 'just want to get in your pants' sort of thing where as 'pretty' or 'interesting' (and the like) does not seem to imply that (or at least not as much).

just for me personally... I guess when judging a random female(since I am a male), I tend to use 'overall attractiveness' (or similar wording) which is basically, like it says, someones overall attractiveness which is paramount with the person as a whole which basically factors in a wider range of things, like say face/body and that special something that makes them tick which is difficult to explain. but that extra something tends to trump other things as face and body is nice, as I am sure we all need to have some level of standards here, but even if that's great and even if the person might be considered 'decent or good looking' by most people, they might still not be nothing special if they are missing that extra something that makes them stand out which can't really be explained as it's pretty much something someone has or they don't. just some random thoughts



That person seems to be consumed by lust.

I know a guy is a guy and all, but still, you got to draw the line somewhere.



Yeah, speaking of that crap... I don't like when people dye their hair to some unnatural looking crap. it just looks like crap. like that super bleached blonde crap or some off-the-wall random green/blue/pink etc

like people can change their hair color etc, and that's fine, but you want to keep it within 'normal' looking hair colors that people can naturally have. go much outside of that standard, and it's crap.

BATouttaheck



Agreed.

because I imagine that probably some general ball park thing on how it starts because I would have to assume most people would be along those lines, at least to some degree, because even if some people are nice etc once their looks drop below a certain point it becomes too difficult to overlook. like if your not at least average-ish in looks chances are not good for you especially if you ain't got some kind of special charm about you etc that draws people towards you.

but I wonder if that's partially the case at times where you see some random couple out in the world who one of the two seems "out of the others league" but maybe the person who we perceive as the lower of the two has some kind of charm etc the other see's in them etc. which helps make them stand out a bit etc.

but I guess the more I think about this stuff... I think as long as you got something about your personality or charm etc that stand out from most people and your looks are at least average or a bit better you might be comfortably above most people because of that vs those people who might have comfortably above average looks but are lacking that 'extra something' (say charm etc) about them which brings them down. but don't get me wrong... some people got it all basically with well above average looks and got that extra charm about them etc. but I would imagine most of us probably got one or the other, or might just be, well, pretty average-ish in both personality/looks etc. but average-ish range can still have some decent qualities here and there as average does not mean crap. just some random thoughts


@deblovesbeccy



I would not entirely say that because as you see people over the years, without knowing them personally with the details etc, we all can sort of form a rough opinion of them giving what we know and then simply convert that overall judgement of them into a number.

but I guess if we only strictly had a picture to judge someone on that could skew things a bit because a picture does not really get across how someone comes across etc, like you can't see their qualities as well in a picture at times vs say seeing them in person or at least a video of seeing them interact with others etc for a bit.

I am sure you get the gist of what I am saying

ellynmacg



Yeah, that's always a good way to look at things.

also, I noticed, which I imagine others around here would agree with is that some couples just click together. like they just have that extra something that gives you the general impression they work better than most couples (like even amongst my cousins etc, you can tell some of them seem to click better together than others). I don't see that too often but you do see it here and there.

Toasted Cheese



only pre-dominantly? ; it's ENTIRELY a female thing.

only times guys wear some makeup is pretty much when they are in front of a camera in Hollywood etc. outside of that, it would probably look pretty weird for a guy wearing makeup in my mind. hell, there is no way in hell I would be wearing makeup and it's pretty safe to say the vast majority of guys would agree with me simply because there are just some things that are basically 'female only' sort of things and that's one of them. sort of how I don't know how some guys wear the 'pink' color as that's THE color I would not wear. period. it's too affiliated with females.



I am a guy and it's obvious what it's purpose is... enhances females looks basically. but it's only good when used correctly as some people, not many but some, go overboard and ends up making them look worse. NOTE: females reading this... don't worry, chances are your not one of those people

but I would imagine most females you see pretty much know what they are doing with makeup stuff because you can tell when they are doing it right in that we(us guys) don't notice it too much. like it enhances their looks etc but it's just one of those things you take for granted. but it's only when they start caking it on their face etc (which is typically not the case) is when you start noticing it, but in a bad way.

marianne48



It's all about shape and how they fit the body as size is not that important. I doubt I am the only guy who feels this way.

but don't worry, we don't need perfection or anything as even decent is good enough ; so if ones weight is roughly normal-ish, odds are their body can't be bad and at the end of the day your either attractive or your not in a basic sense as if someones weight (even a little over ain't the end of the world(especially if it's proportioned right )) is around normal they basically don't have to worry.



Good luck with that. it's not happening for the vast majority of us males in my mind.

like some basic care (to keep yourself more presentable and the like) is as far as things are going to go for us guys. the hell with the excess crap ; but I guess you can't blame them for trying because it's more $$$ for them if they can tap into another market, even if it's a small one.

Females wear makeup well. No harm or shame in them wearing it. It enhances their fairer looks. I would like to feel though, that women can wear it because they are also confident in themselves even without make-up on, and not use it as a device to make them feel more secure and prettier within themselves because of low self-worth. The time factor would also be consuming like you have mentioned. It is a societal pressure thing though and this appears to be deliberately conditioned onto people. It's to keep the cash registers ringing.  

Any of us regardless of gender can only really only go so far within each of our own means, to feel content or satisfied within ourselves, without limiting the inner qualities we possess. Masculine\Feminine has never really been equal on a physical\biological\emotional level though. It appears that what men want and feel within themselves, might not always be what women want and feel within themselves. Both genders can feel insecure, but express it in different ways.  Wanting to look good, might also include wanting endorsement or approval from others.

I do feel we have become an extreme narcissistic society though. It's all about looks and material gain. Praise we receive can be flattering, but I think the most important thing is to be genuine and as humble as possible, and of course if we have good taste and even some sense of style, we can also make an impression that isn't necessarily to boost our pride or ego. Overall, it's the intention behind everything we do that counts the most and perhaps not always buying or succumbing to what is projected or conditioned onto us. The facade of life is only temporary.    

You would need the makeup after being at a boxing camp, to cover all your bruises and gashes and cuts from being pummeled and beaten to a pulp.