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Post by itsmagic on May 1, 2018 7:43:19 GMT
what is most important in a relationship to you? what was it about them in particular?
was it place, chance or circumstance that brought you together?
how did it evolve from there? how long did it last or has it lasted? did they change or did you?
why? what is it you look for now? how has it changed for you through the years?
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Post by Jillian on Jun 7, 2018 20:21:43 GMT
I can only answer the first question. A connection, both physical and psychological. Same view on life. A shared interest in some key elements that are important for both. How about you?
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Post by them1ghtyhumph on Jun 7, 2018 21:34:33 GMT
Timing
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Post by Catman on Jun 7, 2018 21:36:09 GMT
Catman lost his university id card, and she was the one he had to talk with to get a replacement.
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Post by Doghouse6 on Jun 7, 2018 22:37:04 GMT
what is most important in a relationship to you? what was it about them in particular? Attraction, love, relationships: it's all a crapshoot. You never know who's going to move you in a special way, or even necessarily why when they do. I know people with set criteria for what they want in a partner and relationship who are still looking for it after more than 40 years. Aren't most first encounters matters of all three? I went to a party in December of 1981; my now-husband was invited to the same one, but at first declined, finally going only because a friend talked him into it. But here's a weird part: while I don't believe in fate or destiny, we discovered over time that we'd both been in exactly the same place at exactly the same time on two different occasions a few years before, but somehow missed meeting or even seeing each other. A new relationship was the last thing I was looking for at the time, but we met and WHAM: that was it; there was just no getting away from it. Love at first sight? Pretty much (although I didn't believe in that at the time, either). We're still together nearly 37 years later. And we've both changed, becoming more and more alike; we even read each other's minds. Because of the last answer, these questions are obviously moot. Conclusions? Don't be set in your expectations. If you're looking for a relationship, be open to whatever comes along...because you just never know, and may not recognize what you want and need until it's right in front of you. And when it is, you might be surprised. I was. |
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Post by itsmagic on Jun 8, 2018 6:35:28 GMT
what is most important in a relationship to you? what was it about them in particular? Attraction, love, relationships: it's all a crapshoot. You never know who's going to move you in a special way, or even necessarily why when they do. I know people with set criteria for what they want in a partner and relationship who are still looking for it after more than 40 years. Aren't most first encounters matters of all three? I went to a party in December of 1981; my now-husband was invited to the same one, but at first declined, finally going only because a friend talked him into it. But here's a weird part: while I don't believe in fate or destiny, we discovered over time that we'd both been in exactly the same place at exactly the same time on two different occasions a few years before, but somehow missed meeting or even seeing each other. A new relationship was the last thing I was looking for at the time, but we met and WHAM: that was it; there was just no getting away from it. Love at first sight? Pretty much (although I didn't believe in that at the time, either). We're still together nearly 37 years later. And we've both changed, becoming more and more alike; we even read each other's minds. Because of the last answer, these questions are obviously moot. Conclusions? Don't be set in your expectations. If you're looking for a relationship, be open to whatever comes along...because you just never know, and may not recognize what you want and need until it's right in front of you. And when it is, you might be surprised. I was. this is wonderful. i love that you somehow were there in the same place 2 times before & then finally met. and then everything just
clicked. kismet. i don't think it was just coincidence. i'm so happy for you. we should all be so lucky. and blessed. thank you for
sharing this. i think it gives us all hope
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Post by Doghouse6 on Jun 8, 2018 13:56:39 GMT
Attraction, love, relationships: it's all a crapshoot. You never know who's going to move you in a special way, or even necessarily why when they do. I know people with set criteria for what they want in a partner and relationship who are still looking for it after more than 40 years. Aren't most first encounters matters of all three? I went to a party in December of 1981; my now-husband was invited to the same one, but at first declined, finally going only because a friend talked him into it. But here's a weird part: while I don't believe in fate or destiny, we discovered over time that we'd both been in exactly the same place at exactly the same time on two different occasions a few years before, but somehow missed meeting or even seeing each other. A new relationship was the last thing I was looking for at the time, but we met and WHAM: that was it; there was just no getting away from it. Love at first sight? Pretty much (although I didn't believe in that at the time, either). We're still together nearly 37 years later. And we've both changed, becoming more and more alike; we even read each other's minds. Because of the last answer, these questions are obviously moot. Conclusions? Don't be set in your expectations. If you're looking for a relationship, be open to whatever comes along...because you just never know, and may not recognize what you want and need until it's right in front of you. And when it is, you might be surprised. I was. this is wonderful. i love that you somehow were there in the same place 2 times before & then finally met. and then everything just
clicked. kismet. i don't think it was just coincidence. i'm so happy for you. we should all be so lucky. and blessed. thank you for
sharing this. i think it gives us all hope
Very nice of you; thanks so much. Whether kismet or just one of those things, we do consider ourselves very lucky. I'm retired and hubby works at home, so we're together virtually 24 hours a day, never really needing "space" from each other. That might drive some couples crazy, but we prefer it. If I'm boasting a little, it's only because I'm so cognizant of our good fortune...and maybe to encourage others that such things are possible. Thanks again, itsmagic. |
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Post by Roberto on Jun 8, 2018 14:11:57 GMT
Don't choose. Let it happen naturally.
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Post by Nora on Jun 8, 2018 22:51:31 GMT
what is most important in a relationship to you? what was it about them in particular? was it place, chance or circumstance that brought you together? how did it evolve from there? how long did it last or has it lasted? did they change or did you? why? what is it you look for now? how has it changed for you through the years? "was it place, chance or circumstance that brought you together?I feel like each one of my significant relationships was brought on by chance. random meeting somewhere. none as poetic as Catman s though. most important is how i feel when around this person. happy is what works best for me  |
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Post by itsmagic on Jun 9, 2018 3:23:20 GMT
what is most important in a relationship to you? what was it about them in particular? was it place, chance or circumstance that brought you together? how did it evolve from there? how long did it last or has it lasted? did they change or did you? why? what is it you look for now? how has it changed for you through the years? "was it place, chance or circumstance that brought you together?I feel like each one of my significant relationships was brought on by chance. random meeting somewhere. none as poetic as Catman s though. most important is how i feel when around this person. happy is what works best for me i have found there is this almost indescribable "vibe" about the right ones to be with. so comfortable. yes, and making each other happy |
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Post by ericareneprice on Jun 11, 2018 23:33:35 GMT
what is most important in a relationship to you? what was it about them in particular? was it place, chance or circumstance that brought you together? how did it evolve from there? how long did it last or has it lasted? did they change or did you? why? what is it you look for now? how has it changed for you through the years? The most important part for me is chemistry and connection. What attracted me most to him off the bat was just his aura and the way he carried himself, full of energy charisma and charm. We lived in the same area ,went to the same high school, hung out the same group of people but we didn't get really close until we went to school together. We starting as friends, starting dating, and now we're engaged to be married next year. |
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Post by uncreative on Jun 12, 2018 1:59:02 GMT
Step 1: I spend months researching them from a distance and looking into their daily habits, financial records, relationships, and so on to figure out what they're looking for and fill in the blanks until I picture them as a perfect person.
Step 2: Fake my entire personality to win them over. If it doesn't work then buy a fake moustache and try again with a different personality.
Step 3: End up hating them because they're not the imaginary person I built up in my head and I don't like the fake version of me.
Step 4: Continue stalking them after it's over and leave anonymous hateful comments on all their social media profiles.
It really is a beautiful system and I highly recommend it to anyone.
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Post by BATouttaheck on Aug 26, 2020 0:36:01 GMT
We starting as friends, starting dating, and now we're engaged to be married next year. so .. did you get married ?
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Post by enigma72 on Aug 26, 2020 0:48:40 GMT
Availability?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2020 1:47:08 GMT
Serendipity and chemistry, they are both important. The relationship can't feel forced and I have to connect with that person.
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Post by paislene on Aug 26, 2020 3:45:08 GMT
It was all three - place , chance and circumstance . I had come back to the city where my
first wife lived , to sort out our failed marriage , and to sort that out , took a long time
In the meantime , I accidently met my future wife a number of times , and over many years we
became aware of each other . I met her by accident when having lunch one day , and the only
seat available in the restaurant was next to her . We casually chatted and she told me what
she was doing there . I used to watch her walking around the city and going to college from
the bus I was on many times . When I finally decided to leave that city , and to make a new
start somewhere else , I accidently ran into her a day before leaving , and she was looking
for accommodation , we exchanged contact addresses , and we moved into a place together . It
was a wonderful journey for a long time after that .
  
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Post by onethreetwo on Aug 26, 2020 3:49:01 GMT
Find someone with a pure soul.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2020 4:02:48 GMT
My boyfriend and I, at separate times, both applied for and got a job at a particular supermarket in Etobicoke, ON. His mother chose the neighbourhood in order to send him to a particular high school. I chose the neighbourhood because of the excellent public transit and proximity to downtown Toronto.
He caught my eye because he had "the look" and "the accent" of a KGB spy. I told him I was one too and proved with with "Я понимаю немного по-русски." I'm pretty sure that's how I caught his attention.
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Post by goz on Aug 26, 2020 4:14:36 GMT
Mine chose me.
I was lying asleep on a beach in a bikini and he was attracted to my personality, walked up to me and said 'Do you mind if I sit here'? and spread his towel on the sand out beside me.
We have been together ever since. I was 17.
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Post by Stammerhead on Aug 26, 2020 10:33:35 GMT
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