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Post by Nora on Jun 30, 2018 21:50:52 GMT
Or is that just me who had planned their funeral already? I love planning my funeral. I re-do it probably once a year. Since I was 15 or 16 I guess. I wanna make sure its state of art and precisely according to my wishes, when I go. Most of my relatives have very precise instructions, there is a guest list that I periodically update and whoever is not on it simply cannot get in. All the music is planned out, the place, the speaker, my dress, what the tombstone should say, with what I wanna be buried in my hand and all. I never really talked about it with other people, as I have always thought everybody does this. I am finding out its not the case. So… how about a poll here. Is your funeral planned already? :-) Ps: yes I have been called a control freak. But I don't agree  I am just not gonna leave the last event I will ever "be" at up to random planning of potentially random strangers. |
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Post by FridayOnElmStreet on Jul 1, 2018 3:45:26 GMT
No. People can do what they want with me. I wont care. I will be dead.
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Post by President Ackbar™ on Jul 1, 2018 4:06:06 GMT
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Post by Sulla on Jul 1, 2018 4:07:44 GMT
I made arrangements earlier this year although I have no expectation of dying anytime soon. I'm going to be cremated with no funeral, grave or urn. I don't want anyone's last memory of me to be a bloated corpse in a box. Nor do I want anyone in my family to waste thousands of dollars on a coffin, funeral and grave when there are younger members who will need cars, tuition and books to help get started in life.
I have no interest in a tombstone. I'm content to remain in the memories of those who knew me. Once they're gone, I'll be unknown just like so many billions of people before me.
A few years ago I attended a funeral for my brother-in-law. He left instructions to play "I'll Fly Away". When the song was played it was barely audible which kinda defeated the purpose of playing it. Since no one raised the volume after it began, it occurred to me that the funeral home may have done this purposely for some reason. So as long as you're making detailed plans, you might want to ensure a reasonable volume level.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2018 5:18:37 GMT
I want to be put in a Darth Vader costume and burned by Mark Hammil.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2018 8:19:48 GMT
I don`t care what happens to my body after i am dead i mean i am not using it anymore. They can thrown me in the sea or down a volcano for all i care.
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Post by politicidal on Jul 1, 2018 16:09:10 GMT
Just smoke my ashes.
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Post by Nora on Jul 1, 2018 16:16:07 GMT
I made arrangements earlier this year although I have no expectation of dying anytime soon. I'm going to be cremated with no funeral, grave or urn. I don't want anyone's last memory of me to be a bloated corpse in a box. Nor do I want anyone in my family to waste thousands of dollars on a coffin, funeral and grave when there are younger members who will need cars, tuition and books to help get started in life.
I have no interest in a tombstone. I'm content to remain in the memories of those who knew me. Once they're gone, I'll be unknown just like so many billions of people before me.
A few years ago I attended a funeral for my brother-in-law. He left instructions to play "I'll Fly Away". When the song was played it was barely audible which kinda defeated the purpose of playing it. Since no one raised the volume after it began, it occurred to me that the funeral home may have done this purposely for some reason. So as long as you're making detailed plans, you might want to ensure a reasonable volume level.
oh good point about the volume. will add that into the instructions! |
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Post by Nora on Jul 1, 2018 16:17:50 GMT
I want to be put in a Darth Vader costume and burned by Mark Hammil. dont we all…. |
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Post by Ass_E9 on Jul 1, 2018 22:53:20 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2018 23:13:43 GMT
Naw, I'm still very young and death isn't even on my mind really.
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Post by Nora on Jul 1, 2018 23:23:46 GMT
Naw, I'm still very young and death isn't even on my mind really. lucky you. whats that like? |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2018 23:29:01 GMT
Naw, I'm still very young and death isn't even on my mind really. lucky you. whats that like? Not having death on my mind? It's fine, I guess. Death is sad to me so I choose not to dwell on it. I have my whole life ahead of me so I might as well enjoy it and not think of something so far down the road. I'm sure once I reach 50 and realize that over half my life is it'll start to haunt me though. Or maybe I won't care, idk. But regardless, I'm pretty interested to see (or not see) what's on the other side. |
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Post by marianne48 on Jul 1, 2018 23:37:15 GMT
I want to be either:
1. Ground into compost to make flowers grow, or
2. Left out in the woods for animals to eat.
Unfortunately, I don't think the local health codes allow for either of that.
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Post by Nora on Jul 1, 2018 23:43:19 GMT
lucky you. whats that like? Not having death on my mind? It's fine, I guess. Death is sad to me so I choose not to dwell on it. I have my whole life ahead of me so I might as well enjoy it and not think of something so far down the road. I'm sure once I reach 50 and realize that over half my life is it'll start to haunt me though. Or maybe I won't care, idk. But regardless, I'm pretty interested to see (or not see) what's on the other side. not to be morbid but how do you know you have your whole life ahead of you? (I certainly hope you are right just asking). I am in my thirties and have been planning my funeral since my teen years so obviously age is not something that i can blame it on the idea of death doesn't stress me out its the idea of my funeral not being planned. its hard to explain. but i have been to some bad/boring funerals. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2018 1:32:57 GMT
Not having death on my mind? It's fine, I guess. Death is sad to me so I choose not to dwell on it. I have my whole life ahead of me so I might as well enjoy it and not think of something so far down the road. I'm sure once I reach 50 and realize that over half my life is it'll start to haunt me though. Or maybe I won't care, idk. But regardless, I'm pretty interested to see (or not see) what's on the other side. not to be morbid but how do you know you have your whole life ahead of you? (I certainly hope you are right just asking). I am in my thirties and have been planning my funeral since my teen years so obviously age is not something that i can blame it on the idea of death doesn't stress me out its the idea of my funeral not being planned. its hard to explain. but i have been to some bad/boring funerals. I...try to remain optimistic lol. I don't know but I'm planning it that way. If I die an unexpected death then, whelp, that kinda sucks. I hate it when people die young, a family friend of mine had their 3 year old hit and killed by a car and it was devastating. A friend of my uncle who was my age just by some disease recently. It's really unfortunate. |
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Post by Nora on Jul 2, 2018 1:37:30 GMT
not to be morbid but how do you know you have your whole life ahead of you? (I certainly hope you are right just asking). I am in my thirties and have been planning my funeral since my teen years so obviously age is not something that i can blame it on the idea of death doesn't stress me out its the idea of my funeral not being planned. its hard to explain. but i have been to some bad/boring funerals. I...try to remain optimistic lol. I don't know but I'm planning it that way. If I die an unexpected death then, whelp, that kinda sucks. I hate it when people die young, a family friend of mine had their 3 year old hit and killed by a car and it was devastating. A friend of my uncle who was my age just by some disease recently. It's really unfortunate. yeah it is. I guess because I had been exposed to people dying in young age around me, it may have brought me to my "slight obsession" with planning my funeral. but man, its going to be a great party. Too bad I cant be there But who knows, maybe by the time I die they invent time travel or cloning or bringing back to life or sumething. Certainly staying optimistic that way too |
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Post by Roberto on Jul 2, 2018 12:34:28 GMT
No. I would have no idea how to go about doing such a thing anyway.
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Post by Nora on Jul 2, 2018 15:35:04 GMT
No. I would have no idea how to go about doing such a thing anyway. well do not dispair, here is a simple guide to planning ones funeral: 1. the most important thing is the guestlist! Now mind you, this is gonna change over time, so you need to keep it current to reflect the people you love/hate at the time of your death. You wouldnt want to invite or omitt the wrong ones! I usually redo it once a year. some people just fall out of grace during that time and new people take their spot, you know? 2. select a venue -this one can be very easy or very difficult decision to make based on your preferences. once you have a venue desing a seating plan. 3. make a play list! very important. It will define the atmosphere of the whole event. 4. decide if you want a speech or not. if you do, decide on a speaker and write your speech. Do not leave that to the hacks who survived you otherwise its not gonna be funny or short and sweet. 5. decide if you want open casket or not, I recommend being prepared for both options since you perhaps wont know how you are going to go. 6. plan your funeral clothing. This again is quite important because it will set the tone at the open casket. Plan for a few different option based on season and your eating habbits. 7. decide on a caterer /flower provider should you want one and create rules around eating, laying flowers and gift giving/donations. 8. pick one super trustworthy person who can as the ONLY one "make exceptions" to anything. Guest list or playlist. Ensure they know what the rules are and if there is any "do not touch" part of the gueslits or playlist they need to know. 9. Pick a talisman or something to accompany you in the casket. I am taking my favourite book with me. 10. Decide on cremation, freezing or burying, and pick a place to do that. Thats all. Well I mean its nice if you have all your paperwork in order and also have money to cover that and leave someone with the pin-code to your credit card and a chunk of money to carry out your wishes. So now you (and everyone here) know how to go about it, so enjoy! its fun! PS: I also recommend setting a set of rules/communication tools between you and your best friend or soulmate, in case you are "present" at the funeral and see something they do wrong so you can let them know. Like tipping over candle or closing the casket shut, so they dont freak out but at the same time they know you are there and unhappy about something! |
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Post by Raimo47 on Jul 2, 2018 17:33:10 GMT
No. My main goal is to transcend the reincarnation cycle. Funeral is a trivial event.
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I am just not gonna leave the last event I will ever "be" at up to random planning of potentially random strangers.
