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Post by msdemos on Mar 3, 2019 20:01:01 GMT
........how did you react ??  SAVE FERRIS
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Post by Deleted on Mar 5, 2019 7:24:52 GMT
Yes. I have dated and slept with guys in the past but I wouldn't go back to dating men now if I ever broke up with my Wifey 'cause I know I am a Lesbian and being with men never really felt right to me. I still get hit on by guys occasionally and I had a young boy who was around 8-10 years old call me an angel and tell me how beautiful I am  and one of my younger cousins used to have a crush on me which was kinda odd. I don't get offended by it as long as they don't continue after I tell them I am a Lesbian and think I am some challenge to 'convert' like some morons do. What annoys me is when my Wife has guys hitting on her when we are out together at public places like restaurants or movie theatres and they think we are friends or worst of all, Sisters which is just silly since we look nothing alike and she has red hair and freckles and I am blonde. 
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Post by lenlenlen1 on Mar 12, 2019 18:00:39 GMT
........how did you react ?? SAVE FERRIS I've seen it happen, and would imagine that the ladies hit on gay guys all the time. Gay guys quite often are good looking, in shape, dress well... all the things ladies like in men. Look at all the teen heartthrobs... they all look like girls and quite a few of them turn out to be gay after all. It must be awkward for the gay person.
Even I have been attracted to lesbians.
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Post by msdemos on Mar 13, 2019 17:04:45 GMT
Yes. I have dated and slept with guys in the past but I wouldn't go back to dating men now if I ever broke up with my Wifey 'cause I know I am a Lesbian and being with men never really felt right to me. I still get hit on by guys occasionally and I had a young boy who was around 8-10 years old call me an angel and tell me how beautiful I am and one of my younger cousins used to have a crush on me which was kinda odd. I don't get offended by it as long as they don't continue after I tell them I am a Lesbian and think I am some challenge to 'convert' like some morons do. What annoys me is when my Wife has guys hitting on her when we are out together at public places like restaurants or movie theatres and they think we are friends or worst of all, Sisters which is just silly since we look nothing alike and she has red hair and freckles and I am blonde. Very honest, and greatly appreciated. Hopefully somebody who can't, or simply WON'T try to understand the simple fact that we're all different, will read what you've said, and maybe, just MAYBE, start to TRY and understand.......at least a little bit. (Steps down off 'soapbox'.) But, I won't hold be holding my breath.....  SAVE FERRIS
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 13, 2019 18:52:59 GMT
Yes, being gay but not advertising that fact makes one an eligible bachelor in the eyes of many single women. I was stalked by a lady at work once. But usually it's just the initial flirtation of heterosexual interest. Unlike most straight male idiots though, I'm not offended and I don't feel the need to beat the crap out of a woman who flirts with me.  I also never feel the need to beat the crap out of a woman who flirts with me.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 13, 2019 19:50:18 GMT
I also never feel the need to beat the crap out of a woman who flirts with me. And what do you do if a man flirts with you? I’ve never felt the need to beat the crap out of anyone who has flirted with me. I did punch a straight man who kept on groping me after I told him not to though. I’m not sure how that fits into your stereotypical world view.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 13, 2019 23:50:49 GMT
I’ve never felt the need to beat the crap out of anyone who has flirted with me. I did punch a straight man who kept on groping me after I told him not to though. I’m not sure how that fits into your stereotypical world view. Pffffft. The "gay panic" defense has been used time and time again by straight males to defend their violent reaction to mere homosexual flirtation, not groping. That's not a 'stereotype'. It's even been written into law. Still doesn’t mean most straight men want to beat the crap out of the gay guy though.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 0:15:13 GMT
Still doesn’t mean most straight men want to beat the crap out of the gay guy though. Stop pretending you don't get my point. When a male receives unwanted flirtation from a female, he never threatens to beat her. Yet, homophobia, fear of homosexuality, has been used as a defense over and over throughout the world as an excuse for gay bashing. Explain why it's even written into law? So does that mean I should want to beat the crap out of any gay male who flirts with me because I can't quite understand why you seem to think I might. Do I come across as that sort of straight male idiot?
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 0:16:33 GMT
I am not homosexual, I am a Chad. I am Groot.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 0:24:25 GMT
Still doesn’t mean most straight men want to beat the crap out of the gay guy though. But more often than not, they would feel more threatened and uncomfortable by a guy flirting with them, than a gal. That is the mindset of homophobia. Is there heterophobia from a straight guy towards a girl flirting with them?
Straight girls may feel the same way about another chick hitting on them. They may not want to smack them out—unless they think they are a bitch and hate them—but they may feel uncomfortable nonetheless. Bottom line, homosexuality makes one feel uncomfortable, if they identify as hetero. I understand that but it's this automatic assumption that the straight male idiot wants to beat the crap out of the flirty gay male which amused me. But then I was just playing with the way GameBoy's initial reply read like he was saying straight male idiots would beat the crap out of the woman who flirted with them.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 0:54:40 GMT
So does that mean I should want to beat the crap out of any gay male who flirts with me because I can't quite understand why you seem to think I might. Do I come across as that sort of straight male idiot? I live in the real world and so do you. Straight males take offense at being hit on my another male. They act as if their masculinity has been questioned. Yet, no male, straight or gay, is offended by a woman flirting with him. Yes, I'm being hyperbolic to say that most straight males will actually beat the crap out of another male who flirts with him. But I'm saying this is a very real issue which leads to violence against gay males. How far would a white man get in court if he claimed he only assaulted a black man because of "black panic"? Yet, many jurisdictions have written into law that homophobia is a legitimate defense for assaulting a gay man. Thank you, I just thought I'd clear that up. My initial reply to you was lighthearted because it read like you were saying that straight male idiots would want to beat the crap out of a woman who flirted with them. I know you were not actually saying that but I thought the unintentional implication was funny.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 1:11:46 GMT
I live in the real world and so do you. Straight males take offense at being hit on my another male. They act as if their masculinity has been questioned. Yet, no male, straight or gay, is offended by a woman flirting with him.
Yes, I'm being hyperbolic to say that most straight males will actually beat the crap out of another male who flirts with him. But I'm saying this is a very real issue which leads to violence against gay males. How far would a white man get in court if he claimed he only assaulted a black man because of "black panic"? Yet, many jurisdictions have written into law that homophobia is a legitimate defense for assaulting a gay man. And therein lies the paradox. It is perceived as masculine, to be attracted to feminine pretty things, yet by that same token, it is effeminate— which as you have previously pointed out is a misrepresented term, due to its origin of meaning—for another male to be attracted to masculine things. I'd say a double dose of masculinity, is more masculine than masculine. At least I am not a closet transvestite, that is into frilly girly undergarments to get a boner.  Sounds like your masculinity is threatened by feminine pretty things. 
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 1:22:45 GMT
Sounds like your masculinity is threatened by feminine pretty things. Not at all. Feminine pretty things can be nice, and gay guys are connected with their feminine side internally, but being attracted to it as an external for sexual kicks, is away from masculinity. I thought it was sissy to hang out with girls, yet one is supposed to make a life with them, according to the constructs of society. Still coming across that way. It's like a pretentious way of keeping the childish "Urgh, girls!" attitude that boys use to protect themselves from being thought of as sissies. 
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Post by TutuAnimationPrincess on Mar 14, 2019 6:27:38 GMT
I don't discriminate, I tell men the same thing I tell women who flirt with me: "Give it up, you're not good enough for me". If I feel like being more polite, I'll just show my wedding ring and say, "No thanks, I'm good".
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 9:04:03 GMT
Still coming across that way. It's like a pretentious way of keeping the childish "Urgh, girls!" attitude that boys use to protect themselves from being thought of as sissies. It is a way of pointing out the hypocrisies and contradictions in our society. You, as a straight guy, are not having to face the prejudicial and bigoted attitude projected about your sexuality.
Boys, who do the Urgh, girl! thing, is because they like boys stuff and not girl stuff. They are male. Girls do the same about boy stuff and if they do like boy stuff, they are just labelled tomboys. Why did the sissy thing come about anyway, when girls are supposed to be a part of a males life as a mate and companion? This is projected at a child's life right from the start. As far as sexual attraction goes, males who like males, are endorsing their own gender, and it is way more powerful than the sissy het stuff, which is in fact, an appeal and physical attraction for the feminine. How does that make it masculine then, or what is masculine supposed to represent?  I agree that I don’t have to be defensive but at times you and GameBoy get over defensive. Must be that ego thing.
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Post by Marv on Mar 14, 2019 9:58:59 GMT
Yes. I have dated and slept with guys in the past but I wouldn't go back to dating men now if I ever broke up with my Wifey 'cause I know I am a Lesbian and being with men never really felt right to me. I still get hit on by guys occasionally and I had a young boy who was around 8-10 years old call me an angel and tell me how beautiful I am and one of my younger cousins used to have a crush on me which was kinda odd. I don't get offended by it as long as they don't continue after I tell them I am a Lesbian and think I am some challenge to 'convert' like some morons do. What annoys me is when my Wife has guys hitting on her when we are out together at public places like restaurants or movie theatres and they think we are friends or worst of all, Sisters which is just silly since we look nothing alike and she has red hair and freckles and I am blonde. To be fair....I know two sisters irl that look drastically different physically. One has red hair and freckles and the other is a jet black brunette. |
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 10:32:33 GMT
I agree that I don’t have to be defensive but at times you and GameBoy get over defensive. Must be that ego thing. Defensive about defending something that is inherent yet widely maligned in the eyes of many.  Sorry, but if you are straight, the projected "normalcy", you do get more compensations made for you regarding your stance in the world. It is not much of a big deal anymore in the West, but it can still be a struggle, and more so for others in countries that DO openly vilify homosexuality. I can’t disagree with the point you’re making but my one still stands. Some people have huge egos and will fight to protect them from being ridiculed which can easily make them look ridiculous. This can happen with both heteros and homos.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 11:23:16 GMT
I can’t disagree with the point you’re making but my one still stands. Some people have huge egos and will fight to protect them from being ridiculed which can easily make them look ridiculous. This can happen with both heteros and homos. What individual on this thread is being ridiculed? I am not sure on your point of ego. We all come from ego, when defending a stance. If we weren't, we wouldn't be making an issue about it. No one at present. We all have egos but some are bigger than others.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 14, 2019 11:28:12 GMT
No one at present. We all have egos but some are bigger than others. Whose did you have in mind, Donald Trump? He’s a good example.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 7:11:02 GMT
Yes. I have dated and slept with guys in the past but I wouldn't go back to dating men now if I ever broke up with my Wifey 'cause I know I am a Lesbian and being with men never really felt right to me. I still get hit on by guys occasionally and I had a young boy who was around 8-10 years old call me an angel and tell me how beautiful I am and one of my younger cousins used to have a crush on me which was kinda odd. I don't get offended by it as long as they don't continue after I tell them I am a Lesbian and think I am some challenge to 'convert' like some morons do. What annoys me is when my Wife has guys hitting on her when we are out together at public places like restaurants or movie theatres and they think we are friends or worst of all, Sisters which is just silly since we look nothing alike and she has red hair and freckles and I am blonde. Very honest, and greatly appreciated. Hopefully somebody who can't, or simply WON'T try to understand the simple fact that we're all different, will read what you've said, and maybe, just MAYBE, start to TRY and understand.......at least a little bit. (Steps down off 'soapbox'.) But, I won't hold be holding my breath..... SAVE FERRIS 
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