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Post by kls on Jul 26, 2019 23:10:52 GMT
It always seemed pointless to me if that was the reasoning behind it. What would make your father's surname more empowering?
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Post by petrolino on Jul 26, 2019 23:36:02 GMT
Some women take double-barreled names. Best of both worlds?
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Post by kls on Jul 26, 2019 23:41:09 GMT
Some women take double-barreled names. Best of both worlds? Definitely an option, but it can be kind of cumbersome.
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Post by petrolino on Jul 26, 2019 23:43:04 GMT
Some women take double-barreled names. Best of both worlds? Definitely an option, but it can be kind of cumbersome. Imagine in the days before "memory search" and "auto-correct", you could be typing (or writing) it out multiple times ad nauseum. There's a reason for John / Jane Doe.
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Post by QueenB on Jul 26, 2019 23:46:48 GMT
Maybe some people just think of it as less of a hassle than to have to change their name on their license, passport, credit cards, with their bank, etc...
Or maybe some people feel like it's sort of like losing a part of their identity in a way.
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Post by Catman on Jul 27, 2019 0:15:11 GMT
Some keep the family name because they've already established a professional identity with that name.
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Post by dirtypillows on Jul 27, 2019 0:37:29 GMT
Some women take double-barreled names. Best of both worlds? "take double-barreled names"... that's a nifty turn of phrase! 
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Post by petrolino on Jul 27, 2019 0:39:04 GMT
Some women take double-barreled names. Best of both worlds? "take double-barreled names"... that's a nifty turn of phrase! Locked and loaded, baby.
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Post by dirtypillows on Jul 27, 2019 1:05:40 GMT
If they don't want their husband's surname for the sake of an ideal and to defy a tradition, then they have that choice. I would question any man that chooses to marry a feminist though for a start and what kind of feminist are they, if they feel they need to get married to a man? Oh, you got her on that one, Toasted Cheese! Yes, they seek to emasculate and they can't deny it! I have nothing really that much against chivalry, when the traditional gender roles are observed, though that's hardly even a thing anymore. But there are a small group of men out there who are anti-male and it's disgusting and shameful and hardly genuine. It's overcompensation for some guilt feelings and they think being anti-male will excuse them for what is likely deep-seated woman hating. It's one of the defense mechanisms, I think. Reaction formation. the sex-obsessed person becomes a prude. So these seeming men who seem to hate their own gender out of nowhere probably have rape fantasies themselves and can't accept this part of themselves.
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Post by kls on Jul 27, 2019 1:11:48 GMT
If they don't want their husband's surname for the sake of an ideal and to defy a tradition, then they have that choice. I would question any man that chooses to marry a feminist though for a start and what kind of feminist are they, if they feel they need to get married to a man? Oh, you got her on that one, Toasted Cheese! Yes, they seek to emasculate and they can't deny it! I have nothing really that much against chivalry, when the traditional gender roles are observed, though that's hardly even a thing anymore. But there are a small group of men out there who are anti-male and it's disgusting and shameful and hardly genuine. It's overcompensation for some guilt feelings and they think being anti-male will excuse them for what is likely deep-seated woman hating. It's one of the defense mechanisms, I think. Reaction formation. the sex-obsessed person becomes a prude. So these seeming men who seem to hate their own gender out of nowhere probably have rape fantasies themselves and can't accept this part of themselves. Got who on that one?
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Post by Nora on Jul 27, 2019 1:25:58 GMT
It always seemed pointless to me if that was the reasoning behind it. What would make your father's surname more empowering? not a feminist statement in my case, I just like my own name and identify with it I mean I grew up with it and dont see a reason to change a part of my identity. |
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Post by Nora on Jul 27, 2019 1:26:59 GMT
Some women take double-barreled names. Best of both worlds? yeah i can see that. |
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Post by dirtypillows on Jul 27, 2019 1:47:35 GMT
Oh, you got her on that one, Toasted Cheese! Yes, they seek to emasculate and they can't deny it! I have nothing really that much against chivalry, when the traditional gender roles are observed, though that's hardly even a thing anymore. But there are a small group of men out there who are anti-male and it's disgusting and shameful and hardly genuine. It's overcompensation for some guilt feelings and they think being anti-male will excuse them for what is likely deep-seated woman hating. It's one of the defense mechanisms, I think. Reaction formation. the sex-obsessed person becomes a prude. So these seeming men who seem to hate their own gender out of nowhere probably have rape fantasies themselves and can't accept this part of themselves. Do you mean women or men Mr. Dirty? I am not exactly clear on your post.
Oh, I mean men, Toasted Cheese. Of course, there are women who don't like men in droves. That's nothing new. But I am talking about men who go overboard in their defense of women and really seem to think men are awful. It is gross. And it doesn't make sense the way they go about it, they are so quick to the defense/offense about the subject. It is kind of rare, but I have seen it in videos/ interviews and it is just so shameful. Women stick up for women and men stick up for men. That makes good enough sense. But men who hate on other men for no other reason than being men should be ashamed of themselves. I can't think of an example right now. But, yes. I think it is a circuitous form of self-loathing.
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Post by OrsonSwelles on Jul 27, 2019 2:22:45 GMT
Italian women keep their names, despite coming from a traditionally patriarchal society. Why would a woman take the name of someone who's not her 'blood' relative? Your surname should follow your bloodline. It has nothing to do with feminism.
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Post by Aj_June on Jul 27, 2019 4:36:39 GMT
My mother & aunt have not taken their husbands names and they are not feminists and have nothing to do with feminism.
They liked their names as was given to them and it was their choice. Similarly, I do not carry any surname or second name. It was my choice and I am perfectly happy with my single name.
If I were a woman I would not take my husband's name. I personally see no value in taking another person's surname halfway in my life.
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Post by ck100 on Jul 27, 2019 6:51:37 GMT
I'd say just let them do what they want.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2019 7:34:49 GMT
I think making your husband take your name would be a feminist statement.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on Jul 27, 2019 10:00:24 GMT
I don`t know and i don`t care.
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Post by Stammerhead on Jul 27, 2019 10:53:26 GMT
My wife kept her surname for personal reasons. No big deal but a couple of trolls on IMDb made a false story around it.
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Post by Harmless elf on Jul 27, 2019 11:09:49 GMT
My wife kept her surname for personal reasons. No big deal but a couple of trolls on IMDb made a false story around it. My ex-wife didn't take my last name and she used to come home really drunk and beat me pretty severely. and I think I may have been compromised by her best friend road dog |
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