Autumn
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Post by Autumn on Mar 16, 2020 1:20:05 GMT
If you're married,... or not, (and I'm wondering if the answer would differ if you are married, or if you're a single parent), how would you feel about this scenario? Let's suppose, for the sake of this discussion, the age of your daughter in question is somewhere between 10-14.
If you've got a daughter, how would you feel if she wanted to get into martial arts, of any type, whether it's karate, boxing, judo, or something more aggressive, like MMA? Not just the type where she's training by herself with a solitary trainer, but where her training advances to the point where she'd be competing in the ring with other competitors.
Would you feel supportive, and would you encourage her and help her along the way? Would you sincerely feel happy for her and this choice she made?
Or would you feel conflicted, upset, annoyed or unhappy, - one reason being because she may get hurt, but another (perhaps?) because it's not a very "feminine" thing for your young daughter to do?
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 16, 2020 1:24:46 GMT
I’d be concerned for her in the way I’d be concerned about my son but I’d also be concerned about her opponents.
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Post by Nora on Mar 16, 2020 2:21:56 GMT
If you're married,... or not, (and I'm wondering if the answer would differ if you are married, or if you're a single parent), how would you feel about this scenario? Let's suppose, for the sake of this discussion, the age of your daughter in question is somewhere between 10-14. If you've got a daughter, how would you feel if she wanted to get into martial arts, of any type, whether it's karate, boxing, judo, or something more aggressive, like MMA? Not just the type where she's training by herself with a solitary trainer, but where her training advances to the point where she'd be competing in the ring with other competitors. Would you feel supportive, and would you encourage her and help her along the way? Would you sincerely feel happy for her and this choice she made? Or would you feel conflicted, upset, annoyed or unhappy, - one reason being because she may get hurt, but another (perhaps?) because it's not a very "feminine" thing for your young daughter to do? I am not a father but am a daughter who has done various martial arts including muay thai, bjj and a bit of MMA... and competed in a ring as a part of the training and graduation. And I am very happy I did, my only wish is I had started sooner. the age you quote wouls have actually been perfect. let me know if you have any questions I can help you answer. PS - my dad was a Bit worried when I first started but not that its not feminine but that I might get hurt in the process. |
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 16, 2020 13:15:35 GMT
Because of equal rights and the fight for female equality, will she be fighting this dude?  That is a different issue. Most men taking part in martial sports wouldn’t be fighting him either.
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The Pumpkin King
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Post by The Pumpkin King on Mar 18, 2020 9:03:18 GMT
I'm single, no children, although I've been in relationships, one of which was an engagement to a woman who had a daughter. My opinion, if it were me...
I would tell them my concerns in the beginning, although telling a child that young, they might not fully comprehend everything you're being supportive on. At that age, when you tell someone anything they often feel like you're not being supportive, so you have to find your words carefully. If it were my daughter at that age, I would simply tell them, "I never want to see or know that you're hurt from the profession and interest you find yourself entering, but I will 100% support your decision in what you want to do for yourself. If you are happy, I will be happy."
Of course, in a person's heart, you don't want to see someone get hurt; especially your own child. But if you see it becoming your child's passion to get in that field of training, inside you have to find a way to support their dreams. I imagine if you hold them back or tell them that you won't support them or be happy about it, it'll only create a distance either between the parent and child or what they want for themselves out of life. As for the equality of something not really being "feminine", I really don't think about those terms that much. I myself, appreciate seeing women do something that you normally don't see. If you watch Olympic sports, you see women constantly breaking and making records across all different sports and games. It's actually very empowering to see. Of course, her being your child, you just want to remain on her side. Parents just have to find a way to believe in their children on certain things.
It's all just my opinion. Hope it helps. Just some random gifs included.    
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paislene
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Post by paislene on Mar 18, 2020 22:10:10 GMT
Just as there are aggresive guys who flourish in physical sports and martial arts , there are
women who fit in that category too . In my country , women love all physical sports including
soccer , rugby , boxing and mma . None of my daughters were interested in martial arts , yet
they all love to work out at a gym . My youngest daughter is married to a fitness trainer ,
who also trains in advanced karate . If you're worried about your daughter being hurt in
karate , taekwondo or mma , you can direct them more toward internal styles like Aikido or
Kung Fu .
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2020 23:19:03 GMT
This shouldn't be a feminine/masculine thing. It's about her dreams. Be supportive but also talk to her about your concerns. At this age she may try it only to find out she doesn't like it or she may flourish. Either way you'll love her, support her and be proud of her.
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Post by Sarge on Mar 19, 2020 4:41:28 GMT
My daughter started Hapkido a couple a few ago and has earned her blackbelt. She was always combative and energetic, we tried dance, we tried team sports, she loves hapkido and it has given her discipline and confidence. Good friends of our sent their daughter to Tae Kwon Do because she was rambunctious and out of control and she learned discipline and confidence.
edit, getting hurt isn't the worst thing in the world, the mind is strengthened by the body and the body by the mind.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 19, 2020 9:00:44 GMT
I'm not a father but I'm an uncle.  I believe all women in society should learn some sort of self defense because straight males can be predatory. I think making a career of it is kinda ridiculous for anyone, male or female. Be a doctor or a lawyer. But yeah, if that was her passion, I'd support her. We need more lawyers to sue the doctors but I hope there’s a few decent plumbers out there.
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 19, 2020 17:12:36 GMT
We need more lawyers to sue the doctors but I hope there’s a few decent plumbers out there. I dunno, plumber's crack on a girl isn't very dignified. Are they dignified on anyone? 
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Post by Stammerhead on Mar 19, 2020 17:50:19 GMT
Are they dignified on anyone? It could be dignified if the plumber was hot as hell.  So dignity is in the eye of the beholder.
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Post by Sarge on Mar 20, 2020 3:24:53 GMT
autumn, well OP, what's the verdict?
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