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Post by Honolulu on Mar 21, 2020 22:20:03 GMT
There is nothing I can do about it either because everyone is way too busy paying attention to other things. When I express my frustations about being unable to assist my ailing mother, other people copy it. They think it is an opportunity to express how someone in their family is dying as well. I suppose there is nothing anyone wants to do other than that. Do not be surprised when I harbor some animosity towards society. Soceity dictates who has rights to live, pass away and who is deserving of sympathy or to be mourned.
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Post by ellynmacg on Mar 21, 2020 23:12:46 GMT
There is nothing I can do about it either because everyone is way too busy paying attention to other things. When I express my frustations about being unable to assist my ailing mother, other people copy it. They think it is an opportunity to express how someone in their family is dying as well. I suppose there is nothing anyone wants to do other than that. Do not be surprised when I harbor some animosity towards society. Soceity dictates who has rights to live, pass away and who is deserving of sympathy or to be mourned. I don't blame you a bit, Honolulu, for feeling that animosity toward society. Right now, it's a very scary time to have an aging parent, and to feel that nobody cares makes it so much worse. If the phrase "thoughts and prayers" hadn't been so thoroughly devalued by people in power who mouth those words while doing nothing to mitigate the situation that necessitates saying those words, I'd send some of that phrase your way. In lieu of that:  Hang in there, and remember you have this forum here to fall back on, and people you can vent to.
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Post by Honolulu on Mar 21, 2020 23:22:36 GMT
There is nothing I can do about it either because everyone is way too busy paying attention to other things. When I express my frustations about being unable to assist my ailing mother, other people copy it. They think it is an opportunity to express how someone in their family is dying as well. I suppose there is nothing anyone wants to do other than that. Do not be surprised when I harbor some animosity towards society. Soceity dictates who has rights to live, pass away and who is deserving of sympathy or to be mourned. I don't blame you a bit, Honolulu, for feeling that animosity toward society. Right now, it's a very scary time to have an aging parent, and to feel that nobody cares makes it so much worse. If the phrase "thoughts and prayers" hadn't been so thoroughly devalued by people in power who mouth those words while doing nothing to mitigate the situation that necessitates saying those words, I'd send some of that phrase your way. In lieu of that: Hang in there, and remember you have this forum here to fall back on, and people you can vent to. Thanks for your sympathy. But my mother isn't dying of old age. She's not even 65 years old yet. I'm basically bracing for the moment to happen. I may as well start getting emotionally ready so that when she does pass away, I will be at least in the 3 step of whatever stage people go through after their loved ones pass away. |
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Post by Sulla on Mar 21, 2020 23:30:22 GMT
You have my deepest sympathies, Honolulu. I imagine it's more of a shock since she's not very old.
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Post by Honolulu on Mar 22, 2020 1:17:09 GMT
You have my deepest sympathies, Honolulu. I imagine it's more of a shock since she's not very old. I don't know what to do. Nobody will help her. I cannot believe how cold-blooded the world became during COVID-19. She doesn't even have it. |
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Post by Pep Streebeck on Mar 22, 2020 2:01:11 GMT
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. People are here for you! It is always hard to not say the wrong thing - especially about you having animosity towards society. Yes, society does and always has dictated these things, and that is out of our control. Anyone posting on here is most likely to be in the same segment of society as you. And I think anyone here would understand what you're going though. I am hoping for the best. I don't know you, but you seem nice enough  |
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Post by petrolino on Mar 22, 2020 2:25:16 GMT
There's not much I can say ... except to say, thinking of your mother in this desperate time.
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Post by ellynmacg on Mar 22, 2020 2:34:45 GMT
My apologies, Honolulu, for being less than clear--and making an assumption I shouldn't have made; you know what they say about that word "assume". I didn't mean to imply that old age was solely responsible for her condition. However (not to put to fine a point on it), all of us--especially people of my generation, alas--are aging, aren't we?
Once again, I apologize. I certainly didn't mean to cause you any additional pain.
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Post by Honolulu on Mar 22, 2020 4:46:57 GMT
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. People are here for you! It is always hard to not say the wrong thing - especially about you having animosity towards society. Yes, society does and always has dictated these things, and that is out of our control. Anyone posting on here is most likely to be in the same segment of society as you. And I think anyone here would understand what you're going though. I am hoping for the best. I don't know you, but you seem nice enough Thank you! These positive words have ignited more determination from within me to find as many ways to prolong her life until this COVID-19 panic is under control allowing her to get back to her regular doctor appointments. |
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Post by Honolulu on Mar 22, 2020 4:50:24 GMT
There is nothing I can do about it either because everyone is way too busy paying attention to other things. When I express my frustations about being unable to assist my ailing mother, other people copy it. They think it is an opportunity to express how someone in their family is dying as well. I suppose there is nothing anyone wants to do other than that. Do not be surprised when I harbor some animosity towards society. Soceity dictates who has rights to live, pass away and who is deserving of sympathy or to be mourned. I don't understand much of your post. If she's dying and it's terminal, how can you prevent eventual death? Or, is it possible her life can be saved and there is something you can do about it? Why can't you assist her and make her feel better? Are other family members or the doctors and nurses preventing you? And I would also like to tell you that my mother's death was the most painful experience of my life. Yet you seem to think when someone can relate, that they're just looking for "an opportunity to express" their own pain at the death of a loved one. How is society dictating in your case who can live and who will die? Is there a chance to save your mother? I'm sorry you didn't understand, but the other posters helped me tremendously. Thanks for your concern! Thanks to everyone for their well wishes and support! |
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Post by Morgana on Mar 22, 2020 10:23:06 GMT
I am sorry to hear your mother is very sick, or so I am assuming. I, like Gamboy, am a little unclear as to what is going on. Is she living with you or somewhere else?
Either way, It must be hard for you.
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