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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2020 8:13:01 GMT
I mean is it really fake like a mask to act differently at work than with family and friends? I certainly can't treat the students I teach in a correctional facility like sons, brothers or buddies. I don't think it's necessarily "fake" to act differently. Sometimes it's a necessity, especially at work. It's more of way to look at ourselves to see how many different masks we wear on a daily basis and how many of those masks are actually the "true you". Some people wear many masks and try way to hard to be different things to different people.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2020 8:26:29 GMT
I dunno. Those who consciously choose not to wear masks likely are free from the fear of what other people might think of them. As a result, some roads may be closed to them - socially, economically, etc. - but I do not see the resilient viewing that as a trap necessarily. I agree with this. Devil's advocate can say that preconceptions themselves can be a trap. It's human nature to judge people. We do it all the time. As soon as we put people in a box and label people that is setting a trap.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2020 8:30:10 GMT
I think there is some truth in the Japanese saying You have three faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends, and your family. The third face, you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.Is the third face a face you don't even show yourself or is it a face you pretend to recognize?
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Post by Aj_June on May 10, 2020 8:37:31 GMT
Don;t know, man. Sometimes I feel like I am a good man but then become angry. Sometimes I feel like I am at peace but an hour later there's a storm going on in my mind. I will rate myself 5/10.
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Post by Feologild Oakes on May 10, 2020 8:37:35 GMT
I think there is some truth in the Japanese saying You have three faces. The first face, you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends, and your family. The third face, you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.Is the third face a face you don't even show yourself or is it a face you pretend to recognize? The third face can be anything from the Self in its totality (to use a Jungian term) or certain things that we simply keep private.
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Post by moviemouth on May 10, 2020 9:46:17 GMT
I believe I am 100% honest with who I am. My dark side, my good side, my hypocrisies, my fears, my weaknesses, my faults, my ignorance, my ego, my self-deceptions etc. What exactly do you mean by "appear as one is?" I don't act different at work then I do around my family in any significant way at least. I think that's awesome that you can be 100% honest with yourself. A lot of us aren't always able to do that. A lot of us fool ourselves into thinking we'll do things differently but things never actually change. For instance, I say I'm going to work out more so I buy a treadmill or a gym membership then I never use it.
I was quoting Nora, but to me it means showing people exactly who you are at all times. Whether it be family, work, church, school, Best Buy, job interview, a park etc... I didn't actually take stuff like that into account. Though that is just hoping that buying the bike will get you to work out more. I do that kind of stuff too. I think I said above that some self-deception and false hope is necessary. It is the people who say "I haven't changed so far, so it is impossible for me to change" are doing themselves harm. I have said that to myself in the past and I have proven myself wrong on some things. You are being honest with yourself in admitting that you are aware that you probably won't use the gym membership very much. I'd say that buying it is still a step in a positive direction though. It is virtually impossible to be 100% honest with yourself, so I will take what I said back and say that I am as honest with myself as I can be without doing harm to my self-preservation. I'd say it is as impossible as it is to not be a hypocrite in some areas, but someone can do the best they can to not be a hypocrite. The older you get the more you learn about yourself. Obviously a 15 year old isn't going to be able to be nearly as honest with themselves because that person hasn't had the experience to know themselves in the same way as someone who is older. You have to be the kind of person who actually thinks about this kind of stuff in the first place too and wants to understand themselves in as complete a way as possible. There are issues with showing people exactly who you are at all times, because depending on the kind of person you are that could do you much more harm then good. If your real personality is a total uncaring asshole then you are not going to have a job for very long and then you are going to be homeless. That example is one of the least extreme examples I could think of too. You have to take other people into account and how uncomfortable you might make them by being how you really are. I have to say I am a little confused by what you mean by acting the same around everybody. Obviously you are not going to act the same around a sexual interest then you are going to act with your parents and you are going to act different around your friends then around your parents etc. They are different sides of yourself. That isn't you pretending to be something you aren't. I realize that there are people who put on an act for certain people, but that is something different. If I feel I have to pretend to be something I'm not for certain people, then I know right off the bat that those are people I don't want to associate with.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2020 11:03:30 GMT
I didn't actually take stuff like that into account. Though that is just hoping that buying the bike will get you to work out more. I do that kind of stuff too. I think I said above that some self-deception and false hope is necessary. It is the people who say "I haven't changed so far, so it is impossible for me to change" are doing themselves harm. I have said that to myself in the past and I have proven myself wrong on some things. You are being honest with yourself in admitting that you are aware that you probably won't use the gym membership very much. I'd say that buying it is still a step in a positive direction though.It is virtually impossible to be 100% honest with yourself, so I will take what I said back and say that I am as honest with myself as I can be without doing harm to my self-preservation. I'd say it is as impossible as it is to not be a hypocrite in some areas, but someone can do the best they can to not be a hypocrite. The older you get the more you learn about yourself. Obviously a 15 year old isn't going to be able to be nearly as honest with themselves because that person hasn't had the experience to know themselves in the same way as someone who is older. You have to be the kind of person who actually thinks about this kind of stuff in the first place too and wants to understand themselves in as complete a way as possible. There are issues with showing people exactly who you are at all times, because depending on the kind of person you are that could do you much more harm then good. If your real personality is a total uncaring asshole then you are not going to have a job for very long and then you are going to be homeless. That example is one of the least extreme examples I could think of too. Y ou have to take other people into account and how uncomfortable you might make them by being how you really are.I have to say I am a little confused by what you mean by acting the same around everybody. Obviously you are not going to act the same around a sexual interest then you are going to act with your parents and you are going to act different around your friends then around your parents etc. They are different sides of yourself. That isn't you pretending to be something you aren't. I realize that there are people who put on an act for certain people, but that is something different. If I feel I have to pretend to be something I'm not for certain people, then I know right off the bat that those are people I don't want to associate with. I do agree that some sort of false hope is necessary to a point. We all need hopes and dreams, something to try to achieve and look forward to. I think the point where it may become detrimental is when say you do buy that treadmill that you've convinced yourself you'll use and spent $2000. Some emergency happens where you need money but now you don't have that money because you've spent it on a false illusion that you've created by not being honest with your true self. I realize this is a generic example but the same could hold true for other more substantial things. That's a good point because a lot of people don't try or care about changing or recognizing their faults. That's fine because it's their life and their decision. Ultimately they deal with the life they've created for themselves. I do think you need to take people into account but not to the point where you cease being you. You can only do so much to make others happy before it affects you in a negative way. You're correct, we aren't always going to act the same around different people. That's the point, that we wear different masks depending on our situation and who we're dealing with. Sometimes people wear so many different masks that they lose the person they really are. That's an excellent point. People recognize the people they don't want to associate with but many people still do associate with them because they feel that they must for various reasons. Most of the time it's because of fear of being rejected for being who you really are. What do you think is the difference between pretending to be something you aren't and a different side of yourself? If somebody pretends to be something for most of their life does that now become who they are or is that still pretending?
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Post by Nora on May 10, 2020 17:10:28 GMT
Oh of COURSE! I (sadly) couldnt be myself at work for a long time, working as a lawyer. Thats just not possible. You need to have the lawyer mask on. That was a big reason of why I didnt like the job and eventually left it. Everybody in masks (including myself) almost all the time. I think its what drove me to doing stand up and writing more, the need to be able to be myself at work. Do you think it's more out of fear or acceptance or necessity that people hide their true selves? Fear and acceptance often go hand in hand. If being accepted is important to you then you'd constantly be fearful and wearing whatever mask it takes to be accepted. It's also emotionally and mentally draining trying to be what others want you to be or trying to please others. Do you think wearing a mask can be a good thing by "forcing" you to change into somebody you aspire to be? If you're a negative person but need to be positive at say your job, do you think you can change or does wearing that mask everyday take it's toll on you and actually make your negativity worse? I think most all our future behaviors are based on our past behaviors. I don't mean every behavior, just the ones that we repeat. I personally think it takes a very strong person to change. Online personas are very hard to gauge. People can be whatever they want on internet so I wouldn't worry too much about what somebody thinks of you. I joke around a lot and have a very dry sense of humor. Even people who have known me for years and years don't always know if I'm joking or not. (hint-most of the time I am). People meeting me for the first time often don't always pick up on that. Online it's very difficult to get it. Sometimes all it takes is one statement and people will automatically put you in a box and not matter what you do you can't change their opinion. That's on them not you. For whatever reason human nature seems to gravitate towards the negative more than the positive. What is it about peace that its inspiration isn't lasting? Why is its story so hard to tell? I agree it's always good to look at yourself and change the things we don't like about ourselves, not so much on what others think we should be. Sometimes that can be a good thing but other times we spend too much energy trying to please everybody. All very interesting questions. 1. I think it is mostly out of fear of rejection or non acceptance. 2. This one is a tough one because I think it really depends on the persons natural temperament and outlook on world. I think people are basically either "Meists" or "Themists" meaning that when something bad happens to them or they feel bad, the meists tend to think its their fault, the themists tend to think its somebody elses fault, including "fate", "god" or "universe", they think its a result of external factors. I think for the meists its an excellent strategy, to "pretend" to be positive / optimistic even when you are not, while the Themists I think tend to feel more hleples and may store more resentment toward the unfair world, which might jeopardize their health. I think feeling helpless and treated unfairly for a long time could be linked to getting cancer. Mind you these are all very layman thoughts on my part, this is just my limited observation with myself and the people around me. I have read one study though shows that if you force your face to smile, it does send a signal to your brain that could actually end up producing more serotonin. Plus I am a typical Meist, I believe that most of everything that happens to me happens because of my own doing (and I thus have things under control) and I also believe that feelings are a choice (except where it is a clinical condition) and you can chose to feel ok or feel miserable most of the time. It takes practice to put it into a reality but it works for me a lot of times. Especially getting out of dark thoughts/feelings. So if you are a meist, I would recommend to wear an optimistic mask even when you are feeling down. If you are a themist, I would probably recommend doing more sports and especially hand to hand combat where its one on one, to learn to really rely on yourself only and realize more things are in your hand than you might think. 3. I actually think its Fairly easy to gauge even online persona on some basic level. I mean you can see who likes to argue, who is driven by ego, who is frustrated with Something in their life (and tends to attack others), who is depressive, who is positive, how people handle conflict, it actually shows a lot. I have made a lot of IRL friends from people I met online, and in most cases if not all, their online persona was SO connected to their IRL, even if they pretended to be someone completely else. I think it doesnt matter as much what content you produce about yourself like, I could be saying "oh, I own a private jet, I am a Victoria Secret model, I get up at 4Am and do yoga and hug trees" and lets say none of it is true, but the underlying personality underneath those statements is true even if they pretend to be someone else. There are patterns you can see that are telling more than the content. And to me those are fairly easy to see and evaluate if I have a chance to observe the person for longer online. 4. Because I dont believe most of the things poelzig says are true, and he acts very emotionally/irrationally often, it doesnt upset me. It surprised me when he first started, but he makes giant leaps in conclusions, sometimes outright lies, plus I have seen him lash out at many other people, in a similar way. So while I dont dismiss the labels right away, it doesnt have negative emotional effect on me really. Now if it was for example Catman who would call me negative names, that would have much bigger emotional impact on me and I would truly think about myself hard. about how I conduct myself here. 5. yes, it seems to be the sad truth, people engage most in a negative way and conflict. Listen to Tristan Harris if you want to explore this more, he has some really interesting things to say about that and why its so dangerous especially online. (tldr: because AI is learning those patterns from us and companies profit from it). Off to lunch. Have a great Sunday.
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Post by moviemouth on May 10, 2020 17:22:20 GMT
I didn't actually take stuff like that into account. Though that is just hoping that buying the bike will get you to work out more. I do that kind of stuff too. I think I said above that some self-deception and false hope is necessary. It is the people who say "I haven't changed so far, so it is impossible for me to change" are doing themselves harm. I have said that to myself in the past and I have proven myself wrong on some things. You are being honest with yourself in admitting that you are aware that you probably won't use the gym membership very much. I'd say that buying it is still a step in a positive direction though.It is virtually impossible to be 100% honest with yourself, so I will take what I said back and say that I am as honest with myself as I can be without doing harm to my self-preservation. I'd say it is as impossible as it is to not be a hypocrite in some areas, but someone can do the best they can to not be a hypocrite. The older you get the more you learn about yourself. Obviously a 15 year old isn't going to be able to be nearly as honest with themselves because that person hasn't had the experience to know themselves in the same way as someone who is older. You have to be the kind of person who actually thinks about this kind of stuff in the first place too and wants to understand themselves in as complete a way as possible. There are issues with showing people exactly who you are at all times, because depending on the kind of person you are that could do you much more harm then good. If your real personality is a total uncaring asshole then you are not going to have a job for very long and then you are going to be homeless. That example is one of the least extreme examples I could think of too. Y ou have to take other people into account and how uncomfortable you might make them by being how you really are.I have to say I am a little confused by what you mean by acting the same around everybody. Obviously you are not going to act the same around a sexual interest then you are going to act with your parents and you are going to act different around your friends then around your parents etc. They are different sides of yourself. That isn't you pretending to be something you aren't. I realize that there are people who put on an act for certain people, but that is something different. If I feel I have to pretend to be something I'm not for certain people, then I know right off the bat that those are people I don't want to associate with.I do agree that some sort of false hope is necessary to a point. We all need hopes and dreams, something to try to achieve and look forward to. I think the point where it may become detrimental is when say you do buy that treadmill that you've convinced yourself you'll use and spent $2000. Some emergency happens where you need money but now you don't have that money because you've spent it on a false illusion that you've created by not being honest with your true self. I realize this is a generic example but the same could hold true for other more substantial things. That's a good point because a lot of people don't try or care about changing or recognizing their faults. That's fine because it's their life and their decision. Ultimately they deal with the life they've created for themselves. I do think you need to take people into account but not to the point where you cease being you. You can only do so much to make others happy before it affects you in a negative way. You're correct, we aren't always going to act the same around different people. That's the point, that we wear different masks depending on our situation and who we're dealing with. Sometimes people wear so many different masks that they lose the person they really are. That's an excellent point. People recognize the people they don't want to associate with but many people still do associate with them because they feel that they must for various reasons. Most of the time it's because of fear of being rejected for being who you really are. What do you think is the difference between pretending to be something you aren't and a different side of yourself? If somebody pretends to be something for most of their life does that now become who they are or is that still pretending? I agree with most of what you said here. The difference between pretending to be what you aren't and a different side of yourself is putting on a performance where you are lying about stuff and changing your personality to something that isn't really you. Sure, I have done that here and there for certain reasons. If you do it so much that you don't even know the real you anymore then that is the extreme. I don't think this happens with most people though. I think I am having a problem talking about this past a certain point, because I don't have much need to pretend to be something I'm not very often and I'm also not good at it.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2020 23:46:16 GMT
The world is full of people who live the "do as I say not as I do" mantra. Even people who go to work everyday wear a different mask at work compared to home. Granted, I believe most masks are created for protection and acceptance but how many people do you think actually "appear honestly as one is"? People often say "this is how I am, what you see is what you get, I'm always the same no matter where I go or do" How many people are 100% honest with themselves on who they really are? If we can't be 100% honest on who we really are then are we actually living to our full potential and true selves or do we now become the people we think others want us to be? Oh of COURSE! I (sadly) couldnt be myself at work for a long time, working as a lawyer. Thats just not possible. You need to have the lawyer mask on. That was a big reason of why I didnt like the job and eventually left it. Everybody in masks (including myself) almost all the time. I think its what drove me to doing stand up and writing more, the need to be able to be myself at work. yes, true. I think often it is not about "wanting to hide true self" as much as it is about simply not being self aware enough to recognize this is how we are perceived/how we act and if its not in line with how we see ourselves there is a problem Somewhere and more often then not its with us. Thats why I take each "label" (criticism) potentially to heart and consider it, even if I dont like it or feel like that is not me. So when poelzig repeatedly calls me - racist - bigoted - hateful - patological liar - unhinged - spoilt - self centered etc etc (I dont remember all the things he calls me) I think to myself: there is something I do that makes this person perceive me as that. Or he is crazy. Or combination of the two now I know I am fairly spoilt and self centered, so those were not new things to me (and I am working on bettering myself) but the other labels were. I still dont agree with those labels, but have considered what about my behavior would make someone perceive me that way (if they are not crazy). I think if people are willing to do that, then they are on a solid road to self discovery and being true to themselves and eventually not wearing masks where possible. What type of law did you practice?
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Post by Nora on May 11, 2020 0:34:25 GMT
Oh of COURSE! I (sadly) couldnt be myself at work for a long time, working as a lawyer. Thats just not possible. What type of law did you practice? by trade I am a criminal law lawyer. international criminal law. did a bit on the defense side early on but it wasnt for me so most of my time was on the investigation side in the private sector. I did enjoy it for the first 5 or so years. Lots of travel, got to investigate international crimes/criminals, in exotic countries, had challenging but interesting cases. worked with some Amazing people. but as you move up in the legal world it becomes less and less about law and more and more about politics and management of budgets and people and then you realize you don’t really enjoy what you do and on top of it cant be yourself at work... well at least thats the way it was for me. and if you decide to go back and go for a lower position after being “on top” its hard to not be your own master after years of being one. so i left the field completely. occasionally I do talks /conferences etc but i stopped charging money for it. but now with all my artistic projects on hold with corona who knows, I may one day go back again. never say never.
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Post by poelzig on May 11, 2020 5:34:14 GMT
Do you think it's more out of fear or acceptance or necessity that people hide their true selves? Fear and acceptance often go hand in hand. If being accepted is important to you then you'd constantly be fearful and wearing whatever mask it takes to be accepted. It's also emotionally and mentally draining trying to be what others want you to be or trying to please others. Do you think wearing a mask can be a good thing by "forcing" you to change into somebody you aspire to be? If you're a negative person but need to be positive at say your job, do you think you can change or does wearing that mask everyday take it's toll on you and actually make your negativity worse? I think most all our future behaviors are based on our past behaviors. I don't mean every behavior, just the ones that we repeat. I personally think it takes a very strong person to change. Online personas are very hard to gauge. People can be whatever they want on internet so I wouldn't worry too much about what somebody thinks of you. I joke around a lot and have a very dry sense of humor. Even people who have known me for years and years don't always know if I'm joking or not. (hint-most of the time I am). People meeting me for the first time often don't always pick up on that. Online it's very difficult to get it. Sometimes all it takes is one statement and people will automatically put you in a box and not matter what you do you can't change their opinion. That's on them not you. For whatever reason human nature seems to gravitate towards the negative more than the positive. What is it about peace that its inspiration isn't lasting? Why is its story so hard to tell? I agree it's always good to look at yourself and change the things we don't like about ourselves, not so much on what others think we should be. Sometimes that can be a good thing but other times we spend too much energy trying to please everybody. All very interesting questions. 1. I think it is mostly out of fear of rejection or non acceptance. 2. This one is a tough one because I think it really depends on the persons natural temperament and outlook on world. I think people are basically either "Meists" or "Themists" meaning that when something bad happens to them or they feel bad, the meists tend to think its their fault, the themists tend to think its somebody elses fault, including "fate", "god" or "universe", they think its a result of external factors. I think for the meists its an excellent strategy, to "pretend" to be positive / optimistic even when you are not, while the Themists I think tend to feel more hleples and may store more resentment toward the unfair world, which might jeopardize their health. I think feeling helpless and treated unfairly for a long time could be linked to getting cancer. Mind you these are all very layman thoughts on my part, this is just my limited observation with myself and the people around me. I have read one study though shows that if you force your face to smile, it does send a signal to your brain that could actually end up producing more serotonin. Plus I am a typical Meist, I believe that most of everything that happens to me happens because of my own doing (and I thus have things under control) and I also believe that feelings are a choice (except where it is a clinical condition) and you can chose to feel ok or feel miserable most of the time. It takes practice to put it into a reality but it works for me a lot of times. Especially getting out of dark thoughts/feelings. So if you are a meist, I would recommend to wear an optimistic mask even when you are feeling down. If you are a themist, I would probably recommend doing more sports and especially hand to hand combat where its one on one, to learn to really rely on yourself only and realize more things are in your hand than you might think. 3. I actually think its Fairly easy to gauge even online persona on some basic level. I mean you can see who likes to argue, who is driven by ego, who is frustrated with Something in their life (and tends to attack others), who is depressive, who is positive, how people handle conflict, it actually shows a lot. I have made a lot of IRL friends from people I met online, and in most cases if not all, their online persona was SO connected to their IRL, even if they pretended to be someone completely else. I think it doesnt matter as much what content you produce about yourself like, I could be saying "oh, I own a private jet, I am a Victoria Secret model, I get up at 4Am and do yoga and hug trees" and lets say none of it is true, but the underlying personality underneath those statements is true even if they pretend to be someone else. There are patterns you can see that are telling more than the content. And to me those are fairly easy to see and evaluate if I have a chance to observe the person for longer online. 4. Because I dont believe most of the things poelzig says are true, and he acts very emotionally/irrationally often, it doesnt upset me. It surprised me when he first started, but he makes giant leaps in conclusions, sometimes outright lies, plus I have seen him lash out at many other people, in a similar way. So while I dont dismiss the labels right away, it doesnt have negative emotional effect on me really. Now if it was for example Catman who would call me negative names, that would have much bigger emotional impact on me and I would truly think about myself hard. about how I conduct myself here. 5. yes, it seems to be the sad truth, people engage most in a negative way and conflict. Listen to Tristan Harris if you want to explore this more, he has some really interesting things to say about that and why its so dangerous especially online. (tldr: because AI is learning those patterns from us and companies profit from it). Off to lunch. Have a great Sunday. That's twice in this thread you have begged for my attention by tagging me and then insulting me. You have done this numerous times lately in other threads even going so far as to make a thread where you fantasized about living with me. I have ignored your mean spirited taunts and haven't bothered to take the bait because you're a sad lonely person who has some desperate need to spin fairy tales to strangers. Had you not made several bigoted and racist comments to me I would have just ignored your outrageous claims back then which is what I do now. Considering you claim it doesn't bother you when I used to point out the blatantly obvious discrepancies in your stories about your numerous exciting careers and world traveling to accept a variety of awards, you seem to discuss me often. Also your transparent attempts to draw me into an argument by tagging me and then insulting me under the guise of sharing your "knowledge" is an attack on me. You have called me a liar (love the irony there), irrational (because I dared disagree with you) person who often lashes out at people for no reason. All that vitriol you spewed at me in your patented passive aggressive way was in ONE post. So by your own logic that makes you an unhappy person with issues. I'm sure you would still be all sugar and sweetness with me had I ignored your racial pejorative you slung at me and pretended to believe you were or are: An award winning filmmaker who somehow is unable to provide a link allowing anyone interested in your films to view even a clip. An award winning critic AND screen writer who again can't provide any link that would allow an aspiring writer to learn from your works. A former hugely popular improv artist who after a few classes toured Europe filling large venues to much acclaim. You only played small clubs in the US if I recall your post correctly but still to much acclaim. Those improv tours are quite the rage after all. Need I repeat you again had no link to any of your hilarious shows for your friends here to enjoy. Even though many of your online friends become your friends IRL. Possibly my favorite thing you posted that I should have pretended to believe was how you were approached several times by a well known organized crime leader in NY that wanted you to sell drugs for him. Despite you being a lawyer, a very close friend to the NY DA and a person who has never had a sip of alcohol much less taken any drugs. It makes sense. I know when my usual hook ups are dry I go to the courthouse and try to score a sack from any lawyers that make eye contact. I should have just ignored your blatant pleas to argue as I have been doing for a long time now but perhaps this will placate your desperate need for attention for a while and you can feign being the victim even though you are the one who keeps tagging me in the hopes I'll read your insults. Have a gleeful evening.
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Post by moviebuffbrad on May 11, 2020 8:22:02 GMT
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Post by Nora on May 11, 2020 15:42:34 GMT
Don;t know, man. Sometimes I feel like I am a good man but then become angry. Sometimes I feel like I am at peace but an hour later there's a storm going on in my mind. I will rate myself 5/10. what are some of the things that make you angry? for me, the trigger is usually when i feel helpless or stuck in something without knowing the way out of it.
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Post by Aj_June on May 28, 2020 21:58:31 GMT
Don;t know, man. Sometimes I feel like I am a good man but then become angry. Sometimes I feel like I am at peace but an hour later there's a storm going on in my mind. I will rate myself 5/10. what are some of the things that make you angry? for me, the trigger is usually when i feel helpless or stuck in something without knowing the way out of it. Interesting question, Nora. I was not able to think of a good answer when I saw your post. I searched for it again just to answer your question. Now after thinking with a cool mind I think I have not got many reasons to be angry. It seems I become angry because I am not able to live a disciplined life. I do not follow what I plan. I have sleep problems which often interferes with my other plans. Sleep problem leads to mood swings and makes me think about things that I would ideally not like to spend time on. (Just so that you don't get a wrong impression of me- When I say I become angry it does not mean I do it all the time. Nor does it mean it is on others. I become angry mostly on my own self. In my office I am considered the coolest person who has good relations with one and all and who is loved by one and all)
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Post by Nora on May 28, 2020 22:03:59 GMT
what are some of the things that make you angry? for me, the trigger is usually when i feel helpless or stuck in something without knowing the way out of it. Interesting question, Nora. I was not able to think of a good answer when I saw your post. I searched for it again just to answer your question. Now after thinking with a cool mind I think I have not got many reasons to be angry. It seems I become angry because I am not able to live a disciplined life. I do not follow what I plan. I have sleep problems which often interferes with my other plans. Sleep problem leads to mood swings and makes me think about things that I would ideally not like to spend time on. (Just so that you don't get a wrong impression of me- When I say I become angry it does not mean I do it all the time. Nor does it mean it is on others. I become angry mostly on my own self. In my office I am considered the coolest person who has good relations with one and all and who is loved by one and all) Same for me the key to being less angry/sad about it is to make peace with making TINY changes in discipline, even though I would prefer big ones right away, I am simply not good at it. So like I will force myself to feel good even about the tiny good change in discipline and focus on it rather than feeling bad/frustrated/angry I didnt do the big step/improvement. It seems its the only way that I know that works for me. sorry to hear about your sleeping troubles, thats something that can really suck life out of you easily so I hope at least its not getting worse for you...
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