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Post by marianne48 on May 24, 2020 11:19:55 GMT
In a movie or TV episode, whenever this line is included in a scene featuring a wedding ceremony, it's guaranteed that someone is going to "speak now" by publicly objecting to the wedding. In most cases, the wedding doesn't continue, and confusion and sometimes even violence erupts.
Has anyone ever attended a wedding at which someone publicly objected in this way? What was the result?
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Post by movieliker on May 24, 2020 18:07:57 GMT
In a movie or TV episode, whenever this line is included in a scene featuring a wedding ceremony, it's guaranteed that someone is going to "speak now" by publicly objecting to the wedding. In most cases, the wedding doesn't continue, and confusion and sometimes even violence erupts. Has anyone ever attended a wedding at which someone publicly objected in this way? What was the result? I've been to a bunch of weddings. I've never heard anybody raise an objection. |
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Post by divtal on May 24, 2020 18:28:23 GMT
 I've never seen that happen. However, just thinking of it makes me laugh. Several years ago there was the mega-media story, about the "Runaway Bride." She was from Georgia, and disappeared a couple of weeks before her wedding. Many people thought that her fiance had murdered her. There was great angst and much hand wringing. So many people on message boards, and radio call-in programs, claimed to be praying for her safety, and praying that she just got cold feet, and ran away. When that was revealed to have been the case, they "turned" on her, in vicious criticism. And, those who had convicted her fiance, were heaping sympathy upon him. The wedding was to have had 600 guests in attendance. And, there were 20-some bridesmaids. (The first clue that she's nuts.) Then she ran away. (Follow-up clue.) The wedding was, wisely, called off. I imagined what the reaction might have been to that "inquiry," had the wedding actually gone on. I first imagined gales of laughter. Then, I thought of the minister/priest just submitting the question to "the floor," for debate.
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Post by movieliker on May 24, 2020 18:37:52 GMT
I've never seen that happen. However, just thinking of it makes me laugh. Several years ago there was the mega-media story, about the "Runaway Bride." She was from Georgia, and disappeared a couple of weeks before her wedding. Many people thought that her fiance had murdered her. There was great angst and much hand wringing. So many people on message boards, and radio call-in programs, claimed to be praying for her safety, and praying that she just got cold feet, and ran away. When that was revealed to have been the case, they "turned" on her, in vicious criticism. And, those who had convicted her fiance, were heaping sympathy upon him. The wedding was to have had 600 guests in attendance. And, there were 20-some bridesmaids. (The first clue that she's nuts.) Then she ran away. (Follow-up clue.) The wedding was, wisely, called off. I imagined what the reaction might have been to that "inquiry," had the wedding actually gone on. I first imagined gales of laughter. Then, I thought of the minister/priest just submitting the question to "the floor," for debate. There was a movie made about that starring Julia Roberts. Her character was a serial runaway bride. I remember thinking and feeling she must be incredibly immature, irresponsible, selfish and inconsiderate. |
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Post by marianne48 on May 24, 2020 19:03:26 GMT
I've never seen that happen. However, just thinking of it makes me laugh. Several years ago there was the mega-media story, about the "Runaway Bride." She was from Georgia, and disappeared a couple of weeks before her wedding. Many people thought that her fiance had murdered her. There was great angst and much hand wringing. So many people on message boards, and radio call-in programs, claimed to be praying for her safety, and praying that she just got cold feet, and ran away. When that was revealed to have been the case, they "turned" on her, in vicious criticism. And, those who had convicted her fiance, were heaping sympathy upon him. The wedding was to have had 600 guests in attendance. And, there were 20-some bridesmaids. (The first clue that she's nuts.) Then she ran away. (Follow-up clue.) The wedding was, wisely, called off. I imagined what the reaction might have been to that "inquiry," had the wedding actually gone on. I first imagined gales of laughter. Then, I thought of the minister/priest just submitting the question to "the floor," for debate. Getting cold feet is one thing. But a lot of people turned on her after she falsely claimed that she'd been kidnapped and sexually assaulted by a non-existent couple. At least the groom got to marry some sane woman a few years later; good for him. |
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Post by bravomailer on May 24, 2020 19:12:43 GMT
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Post by Jayman on May 24, 2020 19:38:43 GMT
I never understood that line. It is nobody else's damn business.
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Post by movieliker on May 24, 2020 19:40:36 GMT
I never understood that line. It is nobody else's damn business. It stems back from arranged marriages. When parents would marry off their daughter to the son of a rich family. The parents wanted to make sure they weren't making a mistake. |
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Post by Jayman on May 24, 2020 19:46:28 GMT
I never understood that line. It is nobody else's damn business. It stems back from arranged marriages. When parents would marry off their daughter to the son of a rich family. The parents wanted to make sure they weren't making a mistake. Oh ok thanks
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Post by Feologild Oakes on May 24, 2020 20:35:53 GMT
No i have never been at a wedding where such a thing has happened, and honestly i doubt it has ever happened in real life.
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Post by enigma72 on May 24, 2020 21:54:45 GMT
Not yet.
Jk
Highly unlikely.
BUT
A friend of mine was marrying a divorced man. His Ex was crazy. She did all sorts of things like go to the store and not come back for days even though they had 3 small kids and he worked.
The Ex was in the parking lot of the wedding with her kids in the car.
When the officiant said
'If there are any objections speak now or forever hold your peace'
The whole assembly turned and looked at the door.
Nothing happened and the wedding proceeded.
That's the closest I have seen.
Would have been a story to tell!
(And I wish my friend hadn't married him. He couldn't hold a job. They ended up living with her parents. She died at 52. I think it was stress)
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2020 9:34:44 GMT
I tried to "speak now" at every one of my weddings and it didn't go over very well.
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Post by teddybear on May 26, 2020 19:10:33 GMT
I thought it was 'piece'.
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Post by pennypacker on May 26, 2020 20:01:43 GMT
If the wedding does actually stop, the person who objected should be responsible for the bill.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2020 21:59:35 GMT
I've been to weddings where there were many objections raised by many a person present and many a person absent. Never been to a wedding where someone had the audacity or courage to publicly voice their objection. The only objections I have ever heard were weak whispers ... some spoken from the heart with sincere remorse, some spoken with genuine concern for the person/(s) and far, far too many spoken out of a nasty place of bitchiness/self loathing/ jealously. I'd prefer it if the sincere persons spoke privately to the parties concerned rather than being so bold as to object publicly at a wedding and I'd prefer it if the sneaky, bitchy types spared me their whispers and were compelled to share their objections with the entire room.
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Post by Pep Streebeck on May 28, 2020 2:23:08 GMT
I knew someone who threatened to do it. He was standing up in the wedding too. Truth was, everyone knew the wedding was a bad idea and it lasted two or three years. The one guy who wanted to say something was kind of going through a religious phase and he thought he was obligated to say something. And it was some kind of conundrum where if he wasn't standing up in the wedding, he would be able to simply not be inside the church at the time of the "speak now or forever hold your peace" part, therefore making him not obligated to voicing his concerns. But he couldn't refuse to stand up in the wedding, so he needed to be inside the church. But he thought it was some kind of sin to be in the church and not "speak now". He ended up not saying anything.
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