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Post by ebony on Oct 27, 2020 20:14:21 GMT
don't need anyone telling me i'm a piece of shit when i'm trying to do homework, thank you very much. thank goodness corona happened so she can't show up uninvited to accuse me of being a drug addict hooker with aids.
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Post by onethreetwo on Oct 27, 2020 20:19:05 GMT
Sound like you made a good call. That's totally toxic behavior you don't need.
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Post by The Herald Erjen on Oct 27, 2020 20:21:23 GMT
Mom's idea of constructive criticism?  |
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Post by TheOriginalPinky on Oct 27, 2020 21:14:47 GMT
Good. Cut her out of your life. You don't need that. If she was a stranger, would you tolerate that shit? Nope!
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Post by ebony on Oct 27, 2020 22:23:59 GMT
I don’t know what it is with mothers, but many of them, including my own, appear to go down the “toxic” route. Perhaps they just regret having kids and question the men they got with out of their neediness at the time. for as long as i remember i've sensed that my parents never wanted to be with each other but stayed together for as long as they did because they think divorce is shameful. my dad physically abused my mom until she had black eyes and she continued slut-shaming western women for ever getting divorced.
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Post by poelzig on Oct 27, 2020 23:04:43 GMT
My mom was very loving and I seldom was punished as a kid even tho I was kind of jokey which many adults i.e. teachers didn't appreciate for some reason. My dad was even more of a pushover than my mom. I was spoiled rotten and we went on several vacations as a family every year even after I graduated from college and Grad School. Friends often commented oh how awesome my parents were because they would haul me and my friends around to amusement parks and comic book conventions and to haunted houses at Halloween etc... and we always took at least one friend along on one of our yearly vacations. Most of their parents were assholes who didn't even like kids to come to their house because they didn't want them to eat any of their food.
Also my pops mom who I called Nanny lived next door to us and she spoiled me and my sisters even more than my parents did. It wasn't all perfect tho. My moms mother who I called Grandma was sort of mean. She had raised 12 kids and then raised several grandchildren as well so she was not very tolerant of kids that didn't obey her. She had toys displayed in her home but wouldn't allow anyone to touch them much less play with them. Can you imagine how traumatic that was? Luckily of her dozens of grandkids, she always liked me and 2 or 3 others the best so I never was even smacked by her. She did shove me one time when I was hesitant lighting the pilot light on her stove. I felt that was out of line but I got over it eventually.
I miss my parents terribly and Nanny as well. I'm glad I am so well off financially I was able to pay off my moms newest home and bought her a new car before she passed. Sorry to read many of you have really shitty mean parents. Are y'all sure you are blameless? You only have one set of parents so don't burn those bridges too quickly.
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Post by ebony on Oct 28, 2020 0:07:45 GMT
My mom was very loving and I seldom was punished as a kid even tho I was kind of jokey which many adults i.e. teachers didn't appreciate for some reason. My dad was even more of a pushover than my mom. I was spoiled rotten and we went on several vacations as a family every year even after I graduated from college and Grad School. Friends often commented oh how awesome my parents were because they would haul me and my friends around to amusement parks and comic book conventions and to haunted houses at Halloween etc... and we always took at least one friend along on one of our yearly vacations. Most of their parents were assholes who didn't even like kids to come to their house because they didn't want them to eat any of their food. Also my pops mom who I called Nanny lived next door to us and she spoiled me and my sisters even more than my parents did. It wasn't all perfect tho. My moms mother who I called Grandma was sort of mean. She had raised 12 kids and then raised several grandchildren as well so she was not very tolerant of kids that didn't obey her. She had toys displayed in her home but wouldn't allow anyone to touch them much less play with them. Can you imagine how traumatic that was? Luckily of her dozens of grandkids, she always liked me and 2 or 3 others the best so I never was even smacked by her. She did shove me one time when I was hesitant lighting the pilot light on her stove. I felt that was out of line but I got over it eventually. I miss my parents terribly and Nanny as well. I'm glad I am so well off financially I was able to pay off my moms newest home and bought her a new car before she passed. Sorry to read many of you have really shitty mean parents. Are y'all sure you are blameless? You only have one set of parents so don't burn those bridges too quickly. child protective services almost put me in a group home but my parents didn't hit me hard enough to leave injuries so all they got were suggestions for parenting classes.
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Post by poelzig on Oct 28, 2020 1:26:11 GMT
My mom was very loving and I seldom was punished as a kid even tho I was kind of jokey which many adults i.e. teachers didn't appreciate for some reason. My dad was even more of a pushover than my mom. I was spoiled rotten and we went on several vacations as a family every year even after I graduated from college and Grad School. Friends often commented oh how awesome my parents were because they would haul me and my friends around to amusement parks and comic book conventions and to haunted houses at Halloween etc... and we always took at least one friend along on one of our yearly vacations. Most of their parents were assholes who didn't even like kids to come to their house because they didn't want them to eat any of their food. Also my pops mom who I called Nanny lived next door to us and she spoiled me and my sisters even more than my parents did. It wasn't all perfect tho. My moms mother who I called Grandma was sort of mean. She had raised 12 kids and then raised several grandchildren as well so she was not very tolerant of kids that didn't obey her. She had toys displayed in her home but wouldn't allow anyone to touch them much less play with them. Can you imagine how traumatic that was? Luckily of her dozens of grandkids, she always liked me and 2 or 3 others the best so I never was even smacked by her. She did shove me one time when I was hesitant lighting the pilot light on her stove. I felt that was out of line but I got over it eventually. I miss my parents terribly and Nanny as well. I'm glad I am so well off financially I was able to pay off my moms newest home and bought her a new car before she passed. Sorry to read many of you have really shitty mean parents. Are y'all sure you are blameless? You only have one set of parents so don't burn those bridges too quickly. child protective services almost put me in a group home but my parents didn't hit me hard enough to leave injuries so all they got were suggestions for parenting classes. On the plus side your new pic makes you look cuteish even tho it looks like a mug shot minus the booking number. No judgement here. Also you didn't mention your "man" once. I had an ex whose step dad was abusive when she was younger and she still had issues because of him. He fell down a flight of stairs and had his leg and jaw broken and for reasons he did not disclose, he decided to move away from her mom after he was released from the hospital. My ex still had issues and some resentment towards her mom but was able to move forward since she never had to see the step dad again. Some accidents can be quite fortuitous. Shame about the agony the guy went thru but perhaps it was karma.
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Post by poelzig on Oct 28, 2020 1:35:28 GMT
child protective services almost put me in a group home but my parents didn't hit me hard enough to leave injuries so all they got were suggestions for parenting classes. Sorry to hear this ebony. All I can say, is I hope the best for you and if you decide to have your own children one day, that you can at the very least break the cycle of what you have experienced from your own upbringing. Just be shrewd and insightful with who you decided to settle down with. Excellent points toasty. I was thinking the same thing. It never ceases to upset me how many abused people continue the cycle of abuse with their own kids. Thankfully I never had to deal with anything like that tho so I try to not judge but it's really really hard to not feel anger at anyone who would hurt a child.
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