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Post by themanwithnoshame on Jun 27, 2017 20:31:09 GMT
Wait. Didn't you marry man?
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Post by amit654321 on Jun 28, 2017 1:19:20 GMT
No pic yet. Yes that would be the issue.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 2:45:07 GMT
he had indicated that he might decide not to marry the girl because he felt she was lying and seemed too desperate to marry him. anyway keep us updated man.
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 3:48:52 GMT
Common sense, you need a pic to get noticed. And by pic, I am talking of your pic not Deepika Padukone's pic
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Post by amit654321 on Jun 28, 2017 4:13:19 GMT
Common sense, you need a pic to get noticed. And by pic, I am talking of your pic not Deepika Padukone's pic Hahaha. Dont bother bro. He is going through a tough time. Sometimes he rejects a girl because the girl seems desperate. Now he is on matrimonial site to get married without uploading his pic. In future we will be updated with more stories. |
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 5:16:20 GMT
His stories are entertaining though, they would make a good off beat movie with slapstick humour. There is a sense of realism, I went through some of the stuff myself.
My age was right to get married but I was an introvert and had no girlfriend, so parents decided to look for me but it was fruitless effort and I couldn't understand why I was being rejected. Then finally understood all the girls were already in relationships. The flirt and look they used to give me just for the heck of it, suddenly my self-esteem dropped faster than ever. I started to feel embarrassed that my parents had to ask around, some of the aunties (mothers of the girls) told my mom that "babu should find a girl himself", implying that I was depending on my parents too much. I hated the fact my parents were begging despite I told them not to. I made profile on matrimonial sites without a pic, some of the sites don't accept registration without pics. Didn't get a reply so I decided to put up a pic but as soon as I saw one of my cousins in the same matrimonial sites, I decided to backoff. She had mental issues previously, hence the parents decided to try out online. I saw another far relative, she has always been overweight. I know it is kind of stupid but yes, as mentioned by moviemaniac, they all have history. I decided to give up and just forget about it. Three months later a doctor messaged me as she got my contact from the matrimonial site. We chatted, I didn't like her one bit. She was from India, working in Ethiopia. I didn't like her because she had this phony uppity attitude. She had maids for cooking and cleaning, like wtf, she was staying alone. Then got to know she was in relationship with an Ethiopian guy previously. She was too open with her life and I wished her good luck. I tried Tinder too but it is too long to write.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 6:09:38 GMT
His stories are entertaining though, they would make a good off beat movie with slapstick humour. There is a sense of realism, I went through some of the stuff myself. My age was right to get married but I was an introvert and had no girlfriend, so parents decided to look for me but it was fruitless effort and I couldn't understand why I was being rejected. Then finally understood all the girls were already in relationships. The flirt and look they used to give me just for the heck of it, suddenly my self-esteem dropped faster than ever. I started to feel embarrassed that my parents had to ask around, some of the aunties (mothers of the girls) told my mom that "babu should find a girl himself", implying that I was depending on my parents too much. I hated the fact my parents were begging despite I told them not to. I made profile on matrimonial sites without a pic, some of the sites don't accept registration without pics. Didn't get a reply so I decided to put up a pic but as soon as I saw one of my cousins in the same matrimonial sites, I decided to backoff. She had mental issues previously, hence the parents decided to try out online. I saw another far relative, she has always been overweight. I know it is kind of stupid but yes, as mentioned by moviemaniac, they all have history. I decided to give up and just forget about it. Three months later a doctor messaged me as she got my contact from the matrimonial site. We chatted, I didn't like her one bit. She was from India, working in Ethiopia. I didn't like her because she had this phony uppity attitude. She had maids for cooking and cleaning, like wtf, she was staying alone. Then got to know she was in relationship with an Ethiopian guy previously. She was too open with her life and I wished her good luck. I tried Tinder too but it is too long to write. even i was very lazy when it came to approaching women. my whole family was working around the clock for me, not just my parents. somebody must do some research as to why so many of us indian males are so lazy and lack the drive to actually approach females. |
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 6:11:06 GMT
i had an uncle who saw 28 girls before getting married. by then, the people who used to go with him to meet the girl and her family got so fed up of uncle's demands, they forcefully got him married to the 28th girl. the marriage turned out allright. pure luck though.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 6:13:27 GMT
i might be a bit too honest here. but i think a lot of indians find themselves to be too ugly and have given up on any ideas or fantasies of a great sex life. they simply want someone to grow old with the, go to restaurants with, go on holidays with and watch movies with. what do you all think?
in short, a lot of indians simply want a companion or a friend. sex is not a priority. if sex is there, then great.
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 7:03:26 GMT
Most of us are, we wait for things to happen, I wonder why
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 7:16:24 GMT
i might be a bit too honest here. but i think a lot of indians find themselves to be too ugly and have given up on any ideas or fantasies of a great sex life. they simply want someone to grow old with the, go to restaurants with, go on holidays with and watch movies with. what do you all think?
in short, a lot of indians simply want a companion or a friend. sex is not a priority. if sex is there, then great.
I hear you man. Reality started hitting me where I could no longer attend weddings or birthday parties because I would have to go alone. Most of my friends were either married or had partners. Movie nights with friends became extinct after a certain age. Indian movies are the biggest lie in our lives that gave us unrealistic hopes. I know many Indians have started to not believe in marriage but growing old alone sucks especially when you are living with your parents and have great family bonding with your parents and siblings. It makes you realize that how miserable you life gonna be once they are no longer around. Great sex life? Lol what is that? If we can have an understanding partner who we can spend the rest of our lives together peacefully, consider that as a blessing. |
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Post by Kal_1993 on Jun 28, 2017 7:54:41 GMT
i might be a bit too honest here. but i think a lot of indians find themselves to be too ugly and have given up on any ideas or fantasies of a great sex life. they simply want someone to grow old with the, go to restaurants with, go on holidays with and watch movies with. what do you all think?
in short, a lot of indians simply want a companion or a friend. sex is not a priority. if sex is there, then great.
Just because you consider yourself ugly doesn't mean everyone is. Marriage in India has always been a practical arrangement not necessarily about love or connection between the partners. It is meant to be an insurance. |
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Post by Kal_1993 on Jun 28, 2017 8:01:42 GMT
i might be a bit too honest here. but i think a lot of indians find themselves to be too ugly and have given up on any ideas or fantasies of a great sex life. they simply want someone to grow old with the, go to restaurants with, go on holidays with and watch movies with. what do you all think?
in short, a lot of indians simply want a companion or a friend. sex is not a priority. if sex is there, then great.
I hear you man. Reality started hitting me where I could no longer attend weddings or birthday parties because I would have to go alone. Most of my friends were either married or had partners. Movie nights with friends became extinct after a certain age. Indian movies are the biggest lie in our lives that gave us unrealistic hopes. I know many Indians have started to not believe in marriage but growing old alone sucks especially when you are living with your parents and have great family bonding with your parents and siblings. It makes you realize that how miserable you life gonna be once they are no longer around. Great sex life? Lol what is that? If we can have an understanding partner who we can spend the rest of our lives together peacefully, consider that as a blessing. Sorry to hear about your forced bachelor life. Hope you find a partner soon who click with you. All I can tell you is don't be too choosy. You don't have to be soulmates with her. You just have to get along and raise your children. Most of my cousins who rejected more than 5 matches endedup alone. And the ones happy today didn't really interact much before their engagement. |
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Post by Aj_June on Jun 28, 2017 8:09:38 GMT
I hear you man. Reality started hitting me where I could no longer attend weddings or birthday parties because I would have to go alone. Most of my friends were either married or had partners. Movie nights with friends became extinct after a certain age. Indian movies are the biggest lie in our lives that gave us unrealistic hopes. I know many Indians have started to not believe in marriage but growing old alone sucks especially when you are living with your parents and have great family bonding with your parents and siblings. It makes you realize that how miserable you life gonna be once they are no longer around. Great sex life? Lol what is that? If we can have an understanding partner who we can spend the rest of our lives together peacefully, consider that as a blessing. Sorry to hear about your forced bachelor life. Hope you find a partner soon who click with you. All I can tell you is don't be too choosy. You don't have to be soulmates with her. You just have to get along and raise your children. As far as I remember, Raj is already married. |
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 8:46:42 GMT
Yes, I am married now. I just shared my experiences.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 8:58:01 GMT
i might be a bit too honest here. but i think a lot of indians find themselves to be too ugly and have given up on any ideas or fantasies of a great sex life. they simply want someone to grow old with the, go to restaurants with, go on holidays with and watch movies with. what do you all think?
in short, a lot of indians simply want a companion or a friend. sex is not a priority. if sex is there, then great.
Just because you consider yourself ugly doesn't mean everyone is. Marriage in India has always been a practical arrangement not necessarily about love or connection between the partners. It is meant to be an insurance. well, that got somebody's goat. |
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 8:59:40 GMT
frankly, sex does get pretty good with practice.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 10:16:20 GMT
Most of us are, we wait for things to happen, I wonder why i suspect its something to do with conditioning, lack of opportunity, perception of competition and general lack of peer pressure (it wasnt unusual to NOT have a girlfriend when i was in the 18-30 age period. but i think it is now). |
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Post by rajdubeykubrick on Jun 28, 2017 12:18:58 GMT
Another one is probably the arranged marriage factor. A lot of families have already decided to only accept or match make with a particular gothra or caste or religion or whatever you call it. Hence, the guys find it pointless to find someone and only to have them rejected later by family members.
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Post by pimpinainteasy on Jun 28, 2017 12:26:00 GMT
Another one is probably the arranged marriage factor. A lot of families have already decided to only accept or match make with a particular gothra or caste or religion or whatever you call it. Hence, the guys find it pointless to find someone and only to have them rejected later by family members. yes. it happened to me. i liked a girl of a slightly lower caste on a website. but my father insisted i marry from my own caste if it was arranged.
also, the older generation would probably adjust a bit even if sex life was crap. but the younger generation is very particular about sex. i know quite a few marriages that have broken down due to sexual incompatibility. i also know a few people who are involved in affairs.
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